I have a high art; I hurt with cruelty those who would damage me. Archilochus
Most martial artists are nice people who simply want to train, take care of their family and friends, and enjoy life. But there will always be some people out there who thrive on strife, cause trouble for others, and live to attack others. Those are the people that true martial artists train to defeat.
When someone attacks you or your family, you have two choices – 1) You stand up and defend yourself by fighting back or 2) You do nothing and hope that he stops on his own out of the goodness of his heart. Bullies very rarely, if ever, stop bullying others out of the goodness of their heart; they have to be properly motivated to stop harassing and bullying others.
I have gotten several emails and comments over the last few weeks about why I don’t simply ignore the people who have been attacking me and my family. They urge me to just stop fighting back, stop talking about them, etc. Well, Archilochus stated it best, “I have a high art; I hurt with cruelty those who would damage me.”
I have a problem with allowing bullies, liars, thugs, and con men to abuse others and simply walk away to continue to hurt other innocent people; it goes against my code! When I see someone getting bullied, I step in and put the bully in his place. How much more so do you think I will do that when it comes to them attacking my family or business? That is just the way I roll.
I understand that I am in the public eye and that, in our country, when you are in the public eye, every fool thinks they have the right to say anything they want about you and attack you online from their mom’s basement, hiding behind their computer monitor. They are wrong! They do not have this right and it is time for good people to start standing up to these scum.
I let most verbal attacks go, as I do understand that being in the public eye, fools with no life will attack everything you do. Fools will be fools. That is just the way it is in America. But I will not allow these people to do what they normally do to people and attack my family, my business, etc., and simply walk away as if nothing happened. This dog’s bite is worse than his bark!
You see, the way that I look at it is, if you allow a bully to harass you and slide by with no consequences, you are giving him the confidence to attack his next victim. The more a bully gets by with no consequences for his actions, the more bullying becomes engrained in his psyche. Simply put, he becomes more obnoxious, feels some sort of power rush from bullying others, and when he is done with you, he looks for his next victim.
Sorry, but I don’t play the game that way. I refuse to be a victim! If you hit me or my family, I will hit back twice as hard. If you attack me on the internet, I will make sure people know you are a liar and a scam artist. If you attack me on the street, I will send you to the hospital. If you come to my home with malicious intent, I will send you to the morgue. On the other hand, if you treat me with respect, I am kind, respectful, and helpful to you. It is a simple code.
As John Wayne’s character stated in the Shootist, “I won't be wronged, I won't be insulted, and I won't be laid a hand on. I don't do these things to other people, and I require the same from them." There are still some people in this world that live by that code, despite the political correctness which the media and left wing loons try to shove down our throats. Some of us prefer to fight back instead of to allow others to treat us anyway they choose.
No, the bullies do not take up free rent in my mind. They are not always in my thoughts; in fact, I rarely ever think about them. I pretty much forget they exist until someone brings their actions up to me in conversation. When they attack, I respond in an appropriate way, period. Of course these people are cowards, so they would never attack someone like me face-to-face, but that should not mean that we simply allow them a free pass for their hateful actions.
As a martial artist and a warrior, I feel that we have a duty to fight back against these kinds of scum. I see too many martial artists who choose to stay quietly in the background because they are afraid that they bullies may target them next. Instead of doing the right thing and standing up to these people, they try to live their lives unnoticed by these low-lifes. Please tell me how this is not cowardice!
If someone attacks your friend and you choose to “stay out of it because they may target you next,” how does that make you anything other than a spineless coward? How is that living up to the warrior ideals or the warrior code? That is the same action as middle school kids take when the bully is picking on their friend in school; they stay quiet and stay out of it so the bully doesn’t start bullying them too or so the liberal fool in the principal’s office doesn’t suspend them for doing the right thing. I can understand that response from young kids, but not from men and women who claim to be training in the warrior arts.
Yes, I do understand that I look at life a bit differently than the vast majority of people on this planet. I was raised to fight back. In fact, when my brother was being bullied in school, my dad told me that if I didn’t stand against the bullies, I would get a much worse beating when I got home than I would have if they bullies did beat me up. He told me that if I ever backed down from a fight, I would receive a beating when I got home. So I never backed down from a bully, ever!
When I was a freshman in high school, seniors tried bullying me, as they often times will do in school. I fought back every time, with no exceptions. I learned that those punches that most people fear so much, are hardly felt when your adrenaline is pumping. Did I get my butt kicked sometimes? Yep. But I was able land enough of my own punches that I earned respect and stopped the bullying.
One guy had to go for a week with two black eyes. Yes, I ended up looking worse, but I was the underdog; it was expected for me to get my butt kicked. It was not expected for the senior to go around with two black eyes given to him by a little freshman. It was not expected that the junior football player would fall to the ground reeling in pain after he tried to bully me and I stood up to him and used a steal door to change his attitude.
In each and every one of these situations of bullying, I fought back and the bullying stopped. It took courage. It took not giving a damn whether or not I got my ass kicked, but rather only being determined that I will not back down to any bully. And soon, I was never bullied at school again. In fact, I earned the respect of the older kids and the bullies alike, and a reputation for being someone you really didn’t want to mess with.
I did not put up with bullies then and I certainly won’t be starting now. If my standing up to these bullies bothers you, then you are in the wrong place, buddy. That’s the way I roll. When someone tries to do damage to me or my reputation, I call on a high art; I hurt with cruelty those who would damage me; and I don’t lose one second of sleep over it.
If you don’t want me to hit you, don’t hit me; don’t even attempt to hit me! Because I will, I promise, hit back and hit back harder than you ever expected. I won’t sit quietly, hoping that you don’t notice me and will go away. No way!
If you put a knife in my back, I will pull it out and shove it straight down your throat. I live what I teach – character, honor, integrity, respect, love, and peace, with an ample serving of ass kicking as needed. Some people believe in leaving everything to karma; I believe in being karma’s little helper! Bohdi Sanders - bestselling author of Modern Bushido, Men of the Code, and BUSHIDO: The Way of the Warrior, all available on my website, TheWisdomWarrior.com and on Amazon.
found @ 105 likes ON 2019-04-22 23:10:54 BY ME.ME