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howler32557038 Since joining Tumblr I've met a lot of young queer people Look I'm a bisexual man in a gay relationship and I'm approaching 30 I was still a kid when Matthew Shepard's story was being covered on the news I remember thinking I better keep my mouth shut about these feelings I'm having And then I met Dominic when I was 12 and people could see how in love we were And we got the shit beat out of us The year I met him some kids in the grade above me held me down against the bleachers in our gym and stomped on my hand until my fingers broke Instead of sending me to the nurse the teacher sent me to the assistant principal to explain the situation She asked why the kids had beat me up I said They were calling me gay Her response was Well are you? My I don't know earned a call to my parents and I was outed Efforts were made to keep me from seeing Dom Throughout high school Dom's stepmother intensified these efforts He slept in the basement of the house Although he was an incredibly talented student he was prohibited from participating in any extracurriculars He suffered a lot of physical abuse during those years The day he turned 18 he packed up everything he had and walked to my house and we've lived together ever since Things are better but they're not perfect I've had trucks pull up next to me at stoplights and seeing the pride sticker on my car through old drinks and garbage into my window I no longer speak to my dad's side of the family I haven't been to see them for Christmas or Thanksgiving in years One of my uncles had cornered me at Thanksgiving when I was 17 and said I'm not going to judge you but I'd be happy to break your neck so God can do the judging a little sooner I joined a support group for trans and intersex people When I joined 40 people attended regularly With in the year the group was half the size it had been Some couldn't make it anymore because they were staying at the shelter where their stay hinged on them agreeing to instead to attend homophobic sermons Some were put in correctional therapy Five of them died Three of those I didn't know but I knew Alex the 19 year old who was fag-dragged in Kentucky and died a day later in the hospital and I knew Stephanie who went home to Alabama to care for her mom in hospice and was beaten to death with a baseball bat by her mom's boyfriend Tumblr is not reality The dynamic here does not reflect the dynamic out there Here's the part where I finally make a point and it might be extremely unpopular but guys value your allies Value each other We are met with enough hate in our daily lives to enter an online safe-space and meet more hate from our own over petty things Don't go after one another over every little thing you find problematic Learn to see nuance Maybe the word queer bothers you and you see a gay man using it as an umbrella term Maybe someone called a trans man a trans woman because they're confused about terminology but the post where they did it was voicing support for the trans community Maybe someone is just asking a question wanting to learn more Stop Attacking These People Allies are being driven away Members of our own community are being ostracized Others are feeling nervous and estranged and it's largely because of places like Tumblr where the social justice movement is quickly becoming violent and radical I am begging you stop nitpicking problematic things and start directing your efforts to create real change When it comes to comes to your allies forget the social justice warrior mentality and put down your torch Educate calmly Be respectful Be understanding Be forgiving And I'm certainly not saying that your anger doesn't have a good place when you are met with bigots on the street congress members who want to pass hateful laws violent protesters abusive parents prejudiced teachers that is when you need to be a warrior That's when it counts In the real world When you have the opportunity to protect people from real harm Attacking your would-be allies via anonymous asks is just going to lose us ground in the long run And we don't have time for that not when trans women of color are being murdered every day not when states are still fighting against marriage equality not when there are politicians in office who believe that trans people are possessed by demons not when we've just lost 50 brothers and sisters to one gunman not when the media won't even admit that the attack was homophobic Please step back Look at the big picture Look at where we are globally Don't just log on to your safe space and attack your allies over small missteps That's like washing the dishes in a house that's on fire kids Let's fight on the battlefield and when we come home to each other let's just focus on bandaging up our wounds so we can go out and win the war And now a story Meme

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