"I think my biggest "huh" moment with respect to gender roles is when it was pointed out to me that your typical "geek" is just as hypermasculine as your typical jock when you look at it from the right angle.
As male geeks, a great deal of our identity is built on the notion that male geeks are, in some sense, gender non-conformant, insofar as we're unwilling or unable to live up to certain physical ideals about what a man "should" be. Indeed, many of us take pride in how putatively unmanly we are. (All you posting about "What big game")
Viewed from a historical perspective, however, the virtues of the ideal geek are essentially those of the ideal aristocrat: a cultured polymath with expertise in a vast array of subjects, rarefied or eccentric taste in food, clothing, music, etc; identity politics that revolve around one's hobbies or pastimes; open disdain for physical labor and those who perform it; a sense of natural entitlement to positions of authority and so forth.
Basically, the whole geeks versus jocks think that gets drilled into us by media and the educational system isn't about degrees of masculinity at all. It's just two different flavors of the same toxic bullshit: the ideal geek is the alpha male as philosopher king, as opposed to the ideal jock's alpha male as warrior king. It's still a big ego-measuring contest - we're just using different rulers."
found @ 85 likes ON 2018-02-11 20:38:21 BY ME.ME