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I was a young girl when I realized there was a hierarchy in my home Chores were designated by gender Blue jobs for my brother and pink jobs for me Mom did the cleaning cooking and most everything needed to make our house a home Dad mowed the lawn fixed the cars and played with my brother and I until he could barely keep his eyes open An amazing Father It took me a long time to understand why my Mother scowled at my Dad when the three of us entered the house after an incredible summer night digging in the sandbox That realization came fast and furious once I had kids and a marriage of my own As latchkey kids raised in the 70s and 80s my brother and I were expected to do our chores and start dinner before our parents got home from work Every day it was the same I spent my time tidying up the house cleaning the kitchen and starting dinner Usually spaghetti because it was the easiest thing for me to cook without burning the house down Okay so this one time I almost burned the house down everyone makes mistakes Lesson learned While I domesticated myself my brother would either mow the lawn take out the garbage or come to think of it there weren't a lot of blue jobs that needed daily attention I noticed my workload was different perhaps even harder at times but I was the girl and it was what was expected of me There were multiple days I spent bickering with my brother because I was having trouble handling my workload I still remember thinking I just want his help I felt like I was drowning and couldn't do it all on my own before our Mom got home Why was this my responsibility just because I am the girl? This same scenario played out in my marriage many years later It was in those moments I realized his chore list seemed a little heavier in physical weight but much lighter in actual duties Nevertheless I didn't rebel I didn't speak out complain or say anything I didn't know it to be different or wrong But I did know without a doubt if I did complain I would be met with resistance I might indeed be labelled crazy A nag I had heard it all before The word nagging b*tch had no trouble spilling from my Grandfather's lips while my Grandmother waited on him hand and foot I had spent my whole life watching the women in my life carry the weight of the entire house on their backs while men sat back and watched them do it It was normal expected A Grey Cup party filled with food my Mother made became the norm while the men sat in front of a football game expecting more More beer more food more work More take more take more take No give My Mom was a goddess and in my mind's eye she could run the world She was already running my world beautifully Somehow I knew at that young age I wanted to be just like my Mom She was spectacular to watch She could do and did everything to keep our house afloat My Dad by her side supporting her every step of the way but mostly from the couch From my Father's spot on the sofa tangled in his legs I would watch my Mother drudge over the dinner I'd half-prepared Still dressed in her silk jumper her purse barely placed on the kitchen table she stood over a chocolate brown stove while the three of us indulged in the newest episode of M*A*S*H Every once in awhile I would notice her glance through the butler's window in our kitchen to catch a glimpse of her family Sometimes she would yell and I would wonder why she seemed so angry Sometimes she would pour a glass of wine and drown us out Sometimes she would smile so big her eyes would fill with tears stained by love All the time Every single damn time -- she made my entire family a sit-down dinner fit for a king Not a night went by that woman didn't feed our family whole real food She is my super-hero I have an amazing Father I do He is strong forgiving loving accepting and what has always stood out about my astounding Dad is he speaks of equality freedom and humanity in almost every sentence that leaves his prophetic mouth However he was brought up in a generation filled with misogynistic values Taught to be served by his wife Doesn't that sound stupid -- served by his wife I am literally shaking my head as I am writing the words He learned it from his dad my grandpa It's no one's fault except maybe the patriarchy I grew up in a misogynist's world Back in those days things were different My parents were instruments of their generations belief systems and the belief systems of generations before them We can and need to change this The mentality of women doing it all is not only propagated by males but females alike Our belief systems insinuate that the Mom should endure the burden of household chores This is wrong and unfair When I was growing up both of my parents had full-time jobs Careers in fact My mother was a successful bank manager yet when she arrived home she still cooked and plated my father's meal No one did that for her She did it with love she wanted to take care of him but regularly she was exhausted No less tired than any man in her position Yet she was assumed to come home and feed her family Expected to clean her house only to be told she wasn't worthy of the title on the deed Sometimes she wanted her husband to take care of her To plate her meal or fold her laundry Most times she wanted to be respected and appreciated This I know because I have lived my Mother's life I have catered to the men I love Not with regret but often with repugnance I now know why my mom grimaced at my father when he spent his time playing in the dirt with us especially after a hard days work in uncomfortable heels and constricting skirts It was her time too Perhaps she wanted to be the good guy The Dad out in the yard getting dirty Maybe she didn't want to cook another meal Instead play catch with her babies on a soft summer evening Maybe she didn't want to do anything at all but simply sit on the couch with her babies tangled in her legs I want to smash the patriarchy for allowing me my mother and all women to believe were not capable of doing it all without being labelled That we were and are crazy for resisting our overburdened and under appreciated workloads When in fact we were and often still are doing everything to keep our houses afloat Making homes We can change our world for the better if we allow our preconceived notions to change Not just for women and men families Marriages And most importantly our children and our children's children It is time men stop telling the women in their lives they are crazy It's not crazy to be exhausted It's not crazy to voice fatigue It is not crazy to ask for help It isn't nagging when a woman pleads with her husband to clean the toilet or help around the house She shouldn't have had to beg him to clean his mess in the first place Women aren't crazy they are tired They are tired of picking up after everyone in their lives Women are angry they have gone unappreciated for so long Women aren't a**holes because they are finally using their voice No Stop calling women nags and bitches Start doing your job as their partner so they don't have to complain about the sh*t you don't want to do This isn't about men helping women to run the house it's about men actually seeing that it isn't only a woman's job If I learned anything from my superhuman mother it is I can do it all but all of it is not mine to do” via Darla Halyk Meme

found ON 2018-02-12 23:11:56 BY me.me

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