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smack
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scrap
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orgasms
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came
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those
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sometimes
sometimes
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wait
come as you are
come as you are
afraid
afraid
eventually
eventually
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impossible
yep
yep
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i can do that
because
because
hit
hit
then
then
though
though
whatever
whatever
just
just
pursue
pursue
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feel
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when you
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right
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like
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stop
really
really
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get
this
this
feels
feels
nose
nose
straight
straight
spot
spot
lose
lose
term
term
numb
numb
fainting
fainting
for
for
made
made
notes
notes
the brain
the brain
what
what
example
example
you
you
thing
thing
they
they
the world
the world
all
all
woman
woman
think
think
she
she
will
will
reading
reading
why
why
horizon
horizon
versus
versus
anger
anger
survival
survival
issues
issues
easy
easy
down
down
one
one
can
can
source
source
paper
paper
smart
smart
who
who
working
working
gold
gold
idea
idea
the thing
the thing
jaws
jaws
how
how
Fight
Fight
Reason
Reason
Procrastination
Procrastination
Laziness
Laziness
Falling Down
Falling Down
Failure
Failure
Despair
Despair
Angry
Angry
World
World
Wired
Wired
Time
Time
Stuff
Stuff
Star
Star
Lions
Lions
Lion
Lion
Kids
Kids
Goal
Goal
Fuck
Fuck
Flight
Flight
Common
Common
Butterfly
Butterfly
Brain
Brain
Book
Book
Anxiety
Anxiety
Work
Work
GOAT
GOAT
Soon...
Soon...
Run
Run
Relationships
Relationships
Lazy
Lazy
Girls
Girls
brains
brains

icecream-eaterrr I just heard this woman say you procrastinate because you are afraid of rejection It's a defense mechanism you are trying to protect yourself without even trying and I think I just realized what was wrong with me eupheme-butterfly Yep this is a very very common reason for procrastinating It's also why procrastination even though it's often associated with laziness is a fairly common trait in a lot of people with anxiety and perfectionism issues dsudis This idea You're not lazy you're protecting yourself- hit me really hard while reading of all things Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are which turns out to be as much about how brains work and how relationships work as how orgasms work In an early part of the book she talks about FightFlightFreeze responses to threats-the example she uses is being attacked by a lion You fight if you think you can defeat the lion you run away if you think you can escape the lion and when you think there's nothing you can do when you feel the lion's jaws closing on your neck you freeze because dying will hurt less that way You just stop and go numb and wait for it to be over because that is the last way to protect any scrap of yourself Later in the book she talks about the brain process that motivates you to pursue incentives describing it as a little monitor that gauges your progress toward a goal versus the effort you're expending If it feels like too little progress is being made you get frustrated get angry and eventually you despair You stop trying You go numb and wait for it to be over because that's the only way left to protect yourself So it occurred to me that these are basically the same thing-when facing a difficult task where failure feels like a Threat you can get frustrated and fight it out-INCREASE DOING THE THING until you get where you're going Or you can flee-try to solve the problem some other way than straight on changing your goal changing your approach whatever Fight or flight But both of those only apply when you think the problem is solvable right? If the problem isn't solvable then you freeze You despair And if you're one of those Smart Kids Smart Girls especially who was praised for being smart so that all tasks in the world came to be divided between Ooh This Is Easy and I DON'T KNOW IF I CAN DO THAT AND IF I FUCK UP I WILL DIE then it's pretty easy to see how you lose the frustrationanger stage of working toward a goal because your brain goes straight to freezedespair every time Things are easy and routine or they are straight up impossible So you know any time you manage to pull yourself up and give that lion a smack on the nose or go stumbling away from it instead of just falling down like a fainting goat as soon as you spot it on the horizon give yourself a gold star from me Because this is some deeply wired survival-brain stuff Even if logically you know that that term paper is not a lion it really is like that sometimes Source icecream-eaterrr 517124 notes Procrastination Meme

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