Jordan Gleason April 1 at 906pm This is a longer post so bear with me Today I had to explain to a 60 year old man why he was banned from the pub In January he made several sexist remarks about the female staff that were working He told them to their faces that that he liked looking at their tits while they washed dishes and their asses while they were pouring drinks He was told to leave and not come back He came back last month and was told we wouldn't serve him He came back yet again today and when told he wouldn't be served demanded to talk to a manger l sat with him for a few minutes as he explained that what he said would have been okay 20 years ago and that it was just some off colour remarks He told me he had apologized and that he guessed my servers were too sensitive He then told me that if what he said was a problem then I should tell them not to wear low cut shirts and that I should face the dish washing sink away from customers But since he apologized he should be allowed to drink in my establishment because he lives in the neighborhood and will bring in business l told him flatly that wasn't happening and that what he said to those ladies was incredibly offensive The simple fact that he couldn't understand that just because they were were working didn't mean they deserve his disrespectful language That these ladies were part of my family and were human beings that deserved respect They aren't objects and they certainly shouldn't have to wear different clothes because he can't be bothered with showing them any decency or respect But we're men and they're females Is cleavage just not a thing anymore? I told him yeah buddy it's not and I won't be changing my mind about having him served He threatened bad publicity I told him I didn't care and he left I work in the service industry and we get the sheer joy and pleasure of meeting and talking to so many great people in our city I've met some of my best friends here behind the bar I live for it man Connecting people who haven't met making sure people can relax from a shitty day or celebrate a great one or just to simply enjoy a few beers with friends I've seen wedding proposals birthday parties political discussions deep philosophical debates neighborhood organization the absolute works The best of humanity coming together and bonding That's my JAM It's one of the biggest reasons l get out of bed in the morning to come in to work day after day As absolutely insanely fun as that is the dark side of this business is we run into some pretty horrible goblin people Folks who think that just because we're serving we don't deserve any basic decency or respect I've been snapped at mocked threatened and insulted about not having a real job Anybody in this line of work gets used to a degree of it and develops a thicker skin Here's the thing though women in this field get infinitely more disgustingly treated The sheer number of times they get groped or harassed or treated like objects would blow your mind The worst of it is how normal their harassers think their behavior is Every single lady in here handles it with grace and aplomb andI applaud them for it I've had their backs as we've bounced people out for that trash but countless times they just deal with it before it even gets to me Sometimes the dudes get so worked up that they demand to see a manager and I get called in to speak with them Every single fucking time they attempt to appeal to me solely because I'm a man They try to weasel in with me about how the women are asking for it That women shouldn't dress that way if they don't want to be stared at They attempt to explain it away as just dudes being dudes It's expected for men to stare at women's breasts and make jokes about how much they want to fuck them Wink Wink Of course you'll understand they think because you also have a dick What terrifies and enrages me is how every one of them thinks that this is normal behavior but also that other men will agree with them Men we often don't see the level of filth that our friends sisters and mothers go through every day We hope to surround ourselves with people who would never treat a woman like that We live in a safe little bubble But the reality of this thing? It's an insidious disease that's happening every single day several times a day and it turns my fucking stomach So why am I writing this? I want to acknowledge the struggle of every single woman who will read this You deserve our respect and to be treated with decency I want to stand up and say I'm fucking sick of this To every dude out there we need to fucking combat this disease like its the god damned plague that it is If one of your friends says something shitty about a woman tell him to shut his fucking mouth Don't just laugh it off or ignore it We need to listen when our sisters talk about this and not just blame it on some bad apples Not just say not all dudes do that or well no one I know would ever do that Nah man This is an endemic cultural problem If we want to start taking our status as gentlemen seriously we need to do more than just avoiding being a sexist prick ourselves We need to open our eyes and fight it everywhere we see it because the only way this thing gets better is to start calling it out for what it is Edit Sorry for so many edits I keep finding typos Writing in anger isn't so conducive to well typed responses rcmclachlan This is what a male feminist looks like Meme

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