Community, Fail, and Friends: Mate Beliefs
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kosmonauttihai:
rollerskatinglizard:

ceekari:

stayhungry-stayfree:
This is a really helpful page in my CBT textbook for tackling some of the maladaptive beliefs we often hold. The first column lists the rules and assumptions we often may tell ourselves, while the second column is a more functional belief. Just thought I would pass this along. Be kind to yourselves, friends❤

Oh my god, number 5. And 6, and 7.
I frigging needed that.

Failure is not a permanent condition. 

The text on the image:
Maladaptive belief: 

If I don’t do as well as others, I’m a failure.More functional belief: 

If I don’t do as well as others, I’m not a failure, just human.


Maladaptive belief:  If I ask for help, it’s a sign of weakness.More functional belief: If I ask for help when I need it, I’m showing good problem-solving abilities (which is a sign of strength).
Maladaptive belief:  If I fail at work/school, I’m a failure as a person.More functional belief: 

If I fail at work/school, it’s not a reflection of my whole self. (My whole self includes how I am as a friend, daughter, sister, relative, citizen, and community member, and my qualities of kindness, sensitivity to others, helpfulness, etc.) Also, failure is not a permanent condition.
Maladaptive belief:  I should be able to excel at everything I try.More functional belief: I shouldn’t be able to excel at something unless I am gifted in that area (and am willing and able to devote considerable time and effort toward it at the expense of other things.
Maladaptive belief:  I should always work hard and do my best.More functional belief: I should put in a reasonable amount of effort much of the time.
Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t live up to my potential, I have failed.More functional belief: If I do less than my best, I have succeeded perhaps 70%, 80%, or 90%; not 0%.
Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll fail.More functional belief: 

If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll probably do reasonably well and have a more balanced life.

kosmonauttihai: rollerskatinglizard: ceekari: stayhungry-stayfree: This is a really helpful page in my CBT textbook for tackling some of the maladaptive beliefs we often hold. The first column lists the rules and assumptions we often may tell ourselves, while the second column is a more functional belief. Just thought I would pass this along. Be kind to yourselves, friends❤ Oh my god, number 5. And 6, and 7. I frigging needed that. Failure is not a permanent condition. The text on the image: Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t do as well as others, I’m a failure.More functional belief: If I don’t do as well as others, I’m not a failure, just human. Maladaptive belief:  If I ask for help, it’s a sign of weakness.More functional belief: If I ask for help when I need it, I’m showing good problem-solving abilities (which is a sign of strength). Maladaptive belief:  If I fail at work/school, I’m a failure as a person.More functional belief: If I fail at work/school, it’s not a reflection of my whole self. (My whole self includes how I am as a friend, daughter, sister, relative, citizen, and community member, and my qualities of kindness, sensitivity to others, helpfulness, etc.) Also, failure is not a permanent condition. Maladaptive belief:  I should be able to excel at everything I try.More functional belief: I shouldn’t be able to excel at something unless I am gifted in that area (and am willing and able to devote considerable time and effort toward it at the expense of other things. Maladaptive belief:  I should always work hard and do my best.More functional belief: I should put in a reasonable amount of effort much of the time. Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t live up to my potential, I have failed.More functional belief: If I do less than my best, I have succeeded perhaps 70%, 80%, or 90%; not 0%. Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll fail.More functional belief: If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll probably do reasonably well and have a more balanced life.

Mate Beliefs More functional beliefs t do as well as others 'm not a failure If I don't do as well as others I'm a failure 213 If I d just human If I ask for help when I need it I'm sh roblem-solving abilities which is strength 2 If I ask for help it's a sign of weakness h sh is a sign of ing good fail at workschool it's not a reflection of le self My whole self includes how at workschool If I worksch y whole am as a da and community member and my qual kindness sensitivity to others helpfulne Also failure is not a permanent condition I'm a failure as a person 3 If I fail workschool friend daughter sister relative citizen ities of ure I shouldn't be able to excel at something unlessl am gifted in that area and am willing and able to devote considerable time and effort toward it at the expense of other things 4 Ishould be able to excel at everything I try et I should put in a rea sonable amount of effort hould always work hard and do my best much of the time If I do less than my best I have succeeded perhaps 70% 80% or 90% not 0% 6 I s 6 If I don't live up to rmy potential I have failed I don't work hard all the time ll probably do reasonably well and have a more balanced life If I don't work h If I don't work hard all the time I'll fail 7 FIGURE 135 Fr kosmonauttihai rollerskatinglizard ceekari stayhungry-stayfree This is a really helpful page in my CBT textbook for tackling some of the maladaptive beliefs we often hold The first column lists the rules and assumptions we often may tell ourselves while the second column is a more functional belief Just thought I would pass this along Be kind to yourselves friends❤ Oh my god number 5 And 6 and 7 I frigging needed that Failure is not a permanent condition The text on the image Maladaptive belief If I don’t do as well as others I’m a failureMore functional belief If I don’t do as well as others I’m not a failure just human Maladaptive belief If I ask for help it’s a sign of weaknessMore functional belief If I ask for help when I need it I’m showing good problem-solving abilities which is a sign of strength Maladaptive belief If I fail at workschool I’m a failure as a personMore functional belief If I fail at workschool it’s not a reflection of my whole self My whole self includes how I am as a friend daughter sister relative citizen and community member and my qualities of kindness sensitivity to others helpfulness etc Also failure is not a permanent condition Maladaptive belief I should be able to excel at everything I tryMore functional belief I shouldn’t be able to excel at something unless I am gifted in that area and am willing and able to devote considerable time and effort toward it at the expense of other things Maladaptive belief I should always work hard and do my bestMore functional belief I should put in a reasonable amount of effort much of the time Maladaptive belief If I don’t live up to my potential I have failedMore functional belief If I do less than my best I have succeeded perhaps 70% 80% or 90% not 0% Maladaptive belief If I don’t work hard all the time I’ll failMore functional belief If I don’t work hard all the time I’ll probably do reasonably well and have a more balanced life Meme

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