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Anaconda, Betty White, and Chris Evans: bundibird: wrangletangle: stevenrogered: Chris Evans helps Regina King up the stairs to the stage after her Oscars win Okay listen up, all you dudes out there! It’s time for some life lessons from Chris Evans. Wonder why women are fine with this when he does it, but they find you opening a car door or offering to carry stuff for them annoying? Well, wonder no more! It works like this: A large number of women have had to learn how to dodge and swerve and sometimes even slap away men’s hands from the time they hit puberty - and sometimes before. Ladies, cis and trans both, are unfortunately experienced at being groped, poked, prodded, “helped”, and otherwise humiliated and threatened by men. Then also there’s the condescending attitude that of course we need a man’s help, and we should be grateful he offered it. No thanks. Chris is doing something very different here, and you’ll see it in similar video clips of him at other events. You can read his mental process in his body language. He starts with just clapping and congratulating. He offers nothing until there is a need, which doesn’t happen here until Regina’s shoe gets caught on her dress. Since women have literally tripped up the stairs at this ceremony several times over the years (because the shoe and clothing requirements are ridiculous), it is reasonable at this stage to think that my-shoe-caught-on-my-dress is a problem that actually needs to be addressed. This is when Chris offers. How he offers matters. He starts with an open hand toward her, but this is a big no-no. Open hands are a red flag. Open hands grope and grab and shove. He quickly corrects by flipping his arm over and offering his forearm instead. This makes it her choice whether to grab on or ignore him. She doesn’t have to contend with a potentially threatening hand while she’s also contending with her dress. He also bends down a bit to do this. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but Chris is kind of a tall, beefy guy. Guys like that can be a bit intimidating without meaning to be, at least when they’re up close. Also, his arm is a bit too high to be useful to her if he stays at his full height. So he bends down. This is even more visible in the video from him doing this for Betty White at the 2015 Oscars, because she’s shorter than Regina, I guess. He offers his arm for exactly as long as she leans on it. When she lets go, he steps back. This is a guy who isn’t interested in showing off how much she needs his help. He’s just interested in helping, and when he’s not needed, he’s done. He goes back to sit down. He doesn’t hover. Also, Regina King knows who Chris Evans is. His behavior at work thus far has certainly made it into the rumor mill, thus factoring into whether she accepts help from him. Is he a dudebro or jerk to women at work? That doesn’t appear to be the case. Women are not helpless. Compared to men, our clothes are more often obstacles to getting where we need to go safely and with our dignity intact, but conversely, we’ve also learned to deal with that better than most men have. It’s not that we never need or want help; like all people, we do sometimes need a hand. It’s just that “some kinds of help are the kinds of help we all could do without.” If you are offering help to a woman, first make sure she actually appears to be struggling. Second, make yourself as unthreatening as possible and let her do any touching, not the other way around. Third, make sure she can refuse without any consequences. And fourth, back off as soon as she doesn’t need you anymore and let the moment go. I hadn’t even registered why exactly it was that he was so unthreatening in this and the Betty White assistance incidents, but you’re right. It’s all in the way he helps. It’s not that this is unthreatening behaviour “because he’s Chris Evans” – its because his body language is genuinely unthreatening and merely helpful. A+ analysis – I hadn’t even registered the details of why and how this behaviour was 100% ok, while from another man (who probably would have gone about it differentky) it might not have been
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Being Alone, Apparently, and Disneyland: talesfromyourlocalcashier: victorian-sexstache: mizuaoi: musicalhell: madhattey: rusticbabe: spiderman-against-pedos: witchcryptid: alittlebitpessimistic: azalea-in-time: ziamlevinestylinson: 2ollux-captor-ii2-my-dance2tor: useless-worthless-nobody: azalea-in-time: When you go to a haunted house, it may seem like you’re being funny by trying to scare the actors or jump out at them when you go through a second time, but guess what? ITS NOT FUNNY. You pay us to scare you. It is your choice to go, so don’t fucking go through if you’re going to ignore the rules and get too close to the actors as a ‘joke’. These bruises happened because over the course of 4 hours, several people ignored the instructions that CLEARLY stated that they were to wait in the front room until told otherwise. Rather than listen, they ran into the next room and slammed into me- effectively throwing me into the wall. This didn’t only happen once. It happened ten times at LEAST. Then we had this asshole who thought that once I ‘died’ for the haunt, he could pretend to kick me to see if I’d moved. I, being used to people abusing me- jumped back and slammed my head into the concrete wall. YOU ARE NOT FUNNY BY BEING RUDE AT A HAUNTED HOUSE. WE ARE PAID ACTORS THAT YOU CHOOSE TO COME AND SEE PERFORM. YOU PAY US TO SCARE THE SHIT OUT OF YOU, SO DONT HIT US WHEN WE DO I feel that this is relevant considering it is October and more Haunted Houses are opening up. I know it seems funny to scare the ‘monsters’ but all you do is hurt real people. So stop. It’s not even October but I’m still spreading this SIGNAL BOOOOOOOOSSSSSTTTTT!!!!!!! Now Yeah…your director may want to consider reblocking We don’t have a director? Or blocking??? It’s a haunted house bro, not a play Reblogging for relevance- I work at a Haunted House every October, and have been for the past few years. Our house in particular is staffed by Volunteer workers who are either earning credits for Graduation, or people who know the Family that owns the haunted attraction. In our City, we’re one of two Haunted Houses, so while we open in late September, we tend to get incredibly busy during the month of October and often work from 6pm until 2, 3am on weekends.  We do not get paid to help out. Due to our location, we get a lot of drunk guys coming through, and a lot of ‘funny’ teenagers. In my several years working there, I’ve seen Actors get grabbed and thrown, stomped on, kicked, bitten, everything. A lot of the Actors at this attraction are young teenagers, Middle and Secondary School students, so this kind of abuse is terrifying and potentially emotionally scarring. There’s a position half-way through the house we call ‘Psych Ward’, and it’s essentially a jump scare. The scare is a corner-room, boxed in with walls and broken windows, that the Actor pops out of and shouts and taunts the people going through. October, 2012, a couple were going through the Psych Ward corner and the scare went off as per usual. The girlfriend of this couple got very startled but laughed it off and continued on. The boyfriend, however, back-tracked and went up to the broken window and punched the Actor in the face for scaring his girlfriend. The Actor, who I’m going to call Tracy, had a black eye for a good two weeks solid and the couple had to be escorted out of the house and were banned from the property. Ever since we’ve ruled that Veteran Actors (someone who’s been there for 3+ years) are the only ones allowed in this particular Scaring Spot. He paid to get scared and then got violent when we delivered. There are so many stories I can tell of ignorant customers banging back on scares and injuring the Actors inside, grabbing props from the actors and hurting them with it, destroying props because they thought it would be ‘funny’.  I just want to raise awareness that the ACTORS ARE STILL PEOPLE. We’re instructed to get the best kind of scare out of you, sometimes with no pay at all (like this particular attraction), so please respect our work. We wouldn’t come to your job, mock you, and push you around trying to be ‘funny’. Don’t come to our job and do that to us! I literally cannot believe people are angry over this post saying “don’t fucking beat up actors” I work at a haunted hayride and a guy tried to dropkick me in the chest and knee me in the face because he thought it was funny. I got in trouble for breaking character to tell him to fucking stop. Ive been hit so many times this season it has left cuts and bruises. Back in 2015 I was fucking choked and dragged behind a wagon because a lady was drunk and her son had to pry her hands off me because IM NOT ALLOWED TO TOUCH YOU OR FIGHT BACK. Most recently, a customer groped my breasts and twisted my fucking nipples. Apparently, she did it to AT LEAST twenty other actors. THAT IS SEXUAL ASSAULT YOU ASSHOLES. ITS NOT OKAY. Most recently a customer fucking kicked me and sent me to the goddamned hospital. WHEN YOU GO TO A HAUNTED HAYRIDE / HAUNTED HOUSE, REMEMBER YOU LITERALLY PAID US TO SCARE YOU. THE ACTORS ARE REAL PEOPLE. DO NOT FUCKING HIT US. Why the fuck would you even do this holy shit Hey guys i know this is out of theme but that comment from @witchcryptid was me and my old url. I plan on working this job again this year if at all possible, so here’s an added psa: If your family or friend(s) force you into a haunting, be upfront as best you can and tell actors as they come up “please do not scare me i am too anxious / scared” and 9.99/10 times we will listen and leave you alone. just communicate with us even though we most often cannot communicate back. We may be playing monsters, but we are NOT monsters. Also, please remember to keep your hands off of us during your haunting, and also please try to step in or speak up if you see people trying to touch us, assault us, or talking about planning to touch or hurt a staff member. We cannot do anything and will most likely get in legal trouble for touching you in defense. Thank you and have a spooky fall 🌻🍁🍂🍃 I…I feel really upset that this has to be a reminder ._. I mean they should know you’re…justacting. jesus christ… I don’t even do haunted houses (I’m one of those aforementioned anxious people) but boosting the signal because this is seriously not cool. Hey guys it’s that time!! You paid for a ticket which means you consented to be scared! As an ex haunt monster please for fucks sake if you KNOW your reflex is to strike when scared DO NOT GO TO THESE. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE NO ONE GOES TO DISNEYLAND AND PUNCHES DONALD DUCK WHY WOULD YOU DO THE SAME TO HAUNTED HOUSE WORKERS?!?!?!?! Please don’t attack workers for doing their jobs.
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Bad, Birthday, and Clothes: Jordan Gleason April 1 at 9:06pm This is a longer post, so bear with me... Today I had to explain to a 60 year old man why he was banned from the pub In January he made several sexist remarks about the female staff that were working. He told them to their faces that that he liked looking at their tits while they washed dishes, and their asses while they were pouring drinks. He was told to leave and not come back. He came back last month, and was told we wouldn't serve him. He came back yet again today, and when told he wouldn't be served demanded to talk to a manger l sat with him for a few minutes as he explained that what he said would have been okay 20 years ago, and that it was just some off colour remarks. He told me he had apologized, and that he guessed my servers were too sensitive. He then told me that if what he said was a problem then I should tell them not to wear low cut shirts, and that I should face the dish washing sink away from customers. But since he apologized, he should be allowed to drink in my establishment because he lives in the neighborhood and will bring in business l told him flatly that wasn't happening, and that what he said to those ladies was incredibly offensive. The simple fact that he couldn't understand that just because they were were working didn't mean they deserve his disrespectful language. That these ladies were part of my family, and were human beings that deserved respect. They aren't objects, and they certainly shouldn't have to wear different clothes because he can't be bothered with showing them any decency or respect. "But we're men and they're females. Is cleavage just not a thing anymore?" I told him yeah buddy, it's not, and I won't be changing my mind about having him served. He threatened bad publicity, I told him I didn't care and he left. I work in the service industry, and we get the sheer joy and pleasure of meeting and talking to so many great people in our city. I've met some of my best friends here behind the bar. I live for it man. Connecting people who haven't met, making sure people can relax from a shitty day, or celebrate a great one, or just to simply enjoy a few beers with friends. I've seen wedding proposals, birthday parties, political discussions, deep philosophical debates, neighborhood organization, the absolute works The best of humanity coming together and bonding. That's my JAM. It's one of the biggest reasons l get out of bed in the morning to come in to work day after day As absolutely insanely fun as that is, the dark side of this business is we run into some pretty horrible goblin people. Folks who think that just because we're serving, we don't deserve any basic decency or respect. I've been snapped at, mocked, threatened, and insulted about not having a real job. Anybody in this line of work gets used to a degree of it and develops a thicker skin. Here's the thing though, women in this field get infinitely more disgustingly treated. The sheer number of times they get groped, or harassed, or treated like objects would blow your mind. The worst of it is how normal their harassers think their behavior is. Every single lady in here handles it with grace and aplomb, andI applaud them for it. I've had their backs as we've bounced people out for that trash, but countless times they just deal with it before it even gets to me Sometimes the dudes get so worked up that they demand to see a manager, and I get called in to speak with them. Every single fucking time they attempt to appeal to me solely because I'm a man. They try to weasel in with me about how the women are asking for it. That women shouldn't dress that way if they don't want to be stared at. They attempt to explain it away as just "dudes being dudes." It's expected for men to stare at women's breasts and make jokes about how much they want to fuck them. Wink Wink. Of course you'll understand they think, because you also have a dick. What terrifies and enrages me is how every one of them thinks that this is normal behavior, but also that other men will agree with them Men, we often don't see the level of filth that our friends, sisters, and mothers go through every day. We hope to surround ourselves with people who would never treat a woman like that. We live in a safe little bubble. But the reality of this thing? It's an insidious disease that's happening every single day, several times a day and it turns my fucking stomach So why am I writing this? I want to acknowledge the struggle of every single woman who will read this. You deserve our respect and to be treated with decency I want to stand up and say, I'm fucking sick of this To every dude out there, we need to fucking combat this disease like its the god damned plague that it is. If one of your friends says something shitty about a woman, tell him to shut his fucking mouth. Don't just laugh it off or ignore it. We need to listen when our sisters talk about this, and not just blame it on some bad apples. Not just say "not all dudes do that" or "well no one I know would ever do that." Nah man. This is an endemic cultural problem. If we want to start taking our status as gentlemen seriously we need to do more than just avoiding being a sexist prick ourselves. We need to open our eyes and fight it everywhere we see it, because the only way this thing gets better is to start calling it out for what it is Edit: Sorry for so many edits. I keep finding typos. Writing in anger isn't so conducive to well typed responses rcmclachlan: This is what a male feminist looks like.
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Being Alone, Ass, and Crazy: As more actors speak out against Harvey Weinstein, Terry Crews reveals he was sexually assaulted by another Holywood executive Carrie Wittmer O2h 14,418 Terry Crews and his wife, Rebecca King-Crews. Getty Images Since The New York Times published a bombshell report filled with sexual-harassment accusations against Harvey Weinstein, more women in Hollywood have gone public with descriptions of inappropriate behavior by the powerful film producer - including Gwyneth Paltrow, Angelina Jolie, Mira Sorvino, Asia Argento, and Rosanna Arquette On Tuesday afternoon, the actor Terry Crews ("Brooklyn Nine-Nine") said on Twitter that a lm executive sexually assaulted him at an industrv event last vear. He started the thread by tweeting that the accusations against Weinstein were "giving me PTSD. Here are his tweets, which we've condensed to make it easier to read than a Twitter thread: This whole thing with Harvey Weinstein is giving me PTSD. Why? Because this kind of thing happened to ME. My wife n I were at a Hollywood function last year n a high level Hollywood executive came over 2 me and groped my privates. "Jumping back I said What are you doing?! My wife saw everything n we looked at him like he was crazy. He just grinned like a jerk "I was going to kick his ass right then - but I thought twice about how the whole thing would appear. '240 lbs. Black Man stomps out Hollywood Honcho' would be the headline the next day. Only I probably wouldn't have been able to read it because I WOULD HAVE BEEN IN JAIL. So we left." Crews said he talked to everyone he knew who worked with the executive about what happened to him, adding that the executive called him the next day to apologize but "never really explained why he did what he did." Crews said he opted not to take ît further because he didn't want to be "ostracized - par 4 the course when the predator has power n intluence." "Who's going 2 believe you?" he added "Hollywood is not the only business [where] this happens, and to the casualties of this behavior you are not alone," Crews wrote. "Hopefully, me coming forward with my story will deter a predator and encourage someone who feels hopeless." tonibraxtons3rdbankruptcy: surdelfrontera: yayfeminism: Terry Crews shares story of being sexually assaulted by Hollywood executive. 😢 this is fucking terrible This important tho bc liiike I feel like black men, especially those who are tall and bigger like mysef are afraid to speak out about sexual assault because we’re viewed as imposing and violent beings who are invulnerable. Especially when the person who assaulted you is smaller but it’s like… we’re not allowed to react violently—though justifiably violent—when things like this happens to us and tbhhhh that would include me.
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Being Alone, Ass, and Crazy: As more actors speak out against Harvey Weinstein, Terry Crews reveals he was sexually assaulted by another Holywood executive Carrie Wittmer O2h 14,418 Terry Crews and his wife, Rebecca King-Crews. Getty Images Since The New York Times published a bombshell report filled with sexual-harassment accusations against Harvey Weinstein, more women in Hollywood have gone public with descriptions of inappropriate behavior by the powerful film producer - including Gwyneth Paltrow, Angelina Jolie, Mira Sorvino, Asia Argento, and Rosanna Arquette On Tuesday afternoon, the actor Terry Crews ("Brooklyn Nine-Nine") said on Twitter that a lm executive sexually assaulted him at an industrv event last vear. He started the thread by tweeting that the accusations against Weinstein were "giving me PTSD. Here are his tweets, which we've condensed to make it easier to read than a Twitter thread: This whole thing with Harvey Weinstein is giving me PTSD. Why? Because this kind of thing happened to ME. My wife n I were at a Hollywood function last year n a high level Hollywood executive came over 2 me and groped my privates. "Jumping back I said What are you doing?! My wife saw everything n we looked at him like he was crazy. He just grinned like a jerk "I was going to kick his ass right then - but I thought twice about how the whole thing would appear. '240 lbs. Black Man stomps out Hollywood Honcho' would be the headline the next day. Only I probably wouldn't have been able to read it because I WOULD HAVE BEEN IN JAIL. So we left." Crews said he talked to everyone he knew who worked with the executive about what happened to him, adding that the executive called him the next day to apologize but "never really explained why he did what he did." Crews said he opted not to take ît further because he didn't want to be "ostracized - par 4 the course when the predator has power n intluence." "Who's going 2 believe you?" he added "Hollywood is not the only business [where] this happens, and to the casualties of this behavior you are not alone," Crews wrote. "Hopefully, me coming forward with my story will deter a predator and encourage someone who feels hopeless." <p><a href="http://tonibraxtons3rdbankruptcy.tumblr.com/post/166274525712/surdelfrontera-yayfeminism-terry-crews-shares" class="tumblr_blog">tonibraxtons3rdbankruptcy</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="https://surdelfrontera.tumblr.com/post/166271334014/yayfeminism-terry-crews-shares-story-of-being" class="tumblr_blog">surdelfrontera</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="http://yayfeminism.com/post/166268245224/terry-crews-shares-story-of-being-sexually" class="tumblr_blog">yayfeminism</a>:</p> <blockquote><p><a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/terry-crews-sexually-assaulted-by-hollywood-executive-2017-10?IR=T">Terry Crews shares story of being sexually assaulted by Hollywood executive.</a><br/></p></blockquote> <p>😢 this is fucking terrible </p> </blockquote> <p>This important tho bc liiike I feel like black men, especially those who are tall and bigger like mysef are afraid to speak out about sexual assault because we’re viewed as imposing and violent beings who are invulnerable. Especially when the person who assaulted you is smaller but it’s like… we’re not allowed to react violently—though justifiably violent—when things like this happens to us and tbhhhh that would include me.</p> </blockquote>
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Being Alone, Ass, and Crazy: terrycrews @terrycrews 59m This whole thing with Harvey Weinstein is giving me PTSD. Why? Because this kind of thing happened to ME. (1/Cont.) 70乜1.SK ㅇ2.6K terrycrews @terrycrews 59m My wife n I were at a Hollywood function last year n a high level Hollywood executive came over 2 me and groped my privates. (2/cont.) terrycrews @terrycrews 59m Jumping back I said What are you doing?! My wife saw everything n we looked at him like he was crazy. He just grinned like a jerk. (3/cont.) terrycrews @terrycrews 59m I was going to kick his ass right then thing would appear. (4/cont.) but I thought twice about how the whole terrycrews @terrycrews 59m "240 lbs. Black Man stomps out Hollywood Honcho" would be the headline the next day. (5/cont.) terrycrewsネ@terrycrews-58m Only I probably wouldn't have been able to read it because I WOULD HAVE BEEN IN JAIL. So we left. (6/cont.) terrycrews @terrycrews 59m That night and the next day I talked to everyone I knew that worked with him about what happened. 7/cont.) terrycrewsネ@terrycrews-59m He called me the next day with an apology but never really explained why he did what he did. (8/cont.) terrycrews @terrycrews 58m I decided not 2 take it further becuz I didn't want 2b ostracized- par 4 the course when the predator has power n influence. (9/cont.) terrycrews @terrycrews 58m I let it go. And I understand why many women who this happens to let it go. (10/cont.) terrycrews @terrycrews 59m Who's going 2 believe you? (few) What r the repercussions? (many) Do u want2 work again? (Yes) R you prepared 2b ostracized?(No(11/cont.) terrycrews @terrycrews 58m I love what I do. But it's a shame and the height of disappointment when someone tries to takes advantage of that. (12/cont.) terrycrews @terrycrews 58m He knows who he is. But sumtimes Uhav2 wait & compare notes w/ others who've been victimized in order 2gain a position of strength. (13cont) terrycrews@terrycrews 58m I understand and empathize with those who have remained silent. But Harvey Weinstein is not the only perpetrator. (14/cont.) terrycrews @terrycrews 59m Hollywood is not the only business we're this happens, and to the casualties of this behavioryou are not alone. (15/cont.) 010乜491 ㅇ 1.4K terrycrews @terrycrews 58m Hopefully, me coming forward with my story will deter a predator and encourage someone who feels hopeless. (16/end) youngsamberg: i love terry crews
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Hillary Clinton, Memes, and Presidential Election: Dontferet White women for TRump Around the country women weep, wondering how the glass ceiling still stands. But now is not the time to bury our faces in our hands. For white women in particular, now is the time to look in the mirror.🤳🏻 Ninety-four percent of black women voted for Hillary Clinton. Sixty-eight percent of Latina women did so. But 53 percent of the white female voters in this country voted for Donald Trump.Hours after Donald Trump was declared the winner of the presidential election, plans for a Women’s March on Washington began to form — a proclamation that Trump was not the women’s choice for president. After all, Trump brags about groping women, makes degrading comments about women’s bodies, and claimed (and then retracted) that women should be punished for having abortions. And during the campaign, a dozen women accused him of sexual assault.Many white women not only voted for him but were key in getting him over the top.Trump outperformed Clinton among white women, winning 53 percent of voters in that demographic.Drilling down further, he beat Clinton among white women without college degrees by 27 points. In the three states that decided the election — Wisconsin, Pennsylvania, and Michigan — that margin was enough to send Trump to the White House. Trump’s success is specifically among white women without college degrees, 61 percent of whom voted for him. Clinton actually did 7 points better than Trump with white college-educated women. 17thsoulja BlackIG17th womensmarch Buyers remorse is a hell of a drug 👨🏾‍💻

Around the country women weep, wondering how the glass ceiling still stands. But now is not the time to bury our faces in our hands. For whi...

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