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what-even-is-thiss: bobcatdump: jaskiegg: mellomaia: aphony-cree: beyoncescock: gahdamnpunk: Honestly!!! This is just psychological trauma in the making THANK YOU I’ve asked parents about this and they always say they are teaching the child responsibility and “respect for other people’s things.” If I point out that the child accidentally broke their own toy they always say “I bought them that toy” or “my sister gave that to them.” The problem is that parents view all possessions as not really belonging to the child. A part of them always seems to think that the adult who provided the money is the real owner If a parent breaks a dish they see it as breaking something that already belonged to them, but if a child breaks it they see it as the child breaking something that belonged to the parents People raising children need to realize that household possessions belong to the entire household. If everyone has to use that plate then it belongs to everyone and anyone can have a forgivable accident with it. It’s okay to deem certain possessions as just yours and ask everyone in the house to respect that, but extend the same respect to your child’s belongings Big mood. I know most of these are talking about little little kids, but here’s a tale from middle school. I had forgotten to charge my phone one night, and this was back when cell phones used to beep loudly when they were low on battery. I kept hearing the noise throughout the afternoon and not recognizing what it was because I’d never heard it before. When I finally did realize what it was, I was in science class and my fellow classmates were making presentations. I reached into my bag to try to turn off the phone, and then the low-battery sound went off, loud enough for the teacher to hear it. She confiscated my phone in front of everyone, and I didn’t get it back until after the weekend because it was a Friday. I was really embarrassed, especially to tell my parents. When I got my phone back that Monday, my teacher said it was important for me to learn this lesson now since in college they wouldn’t tolerate phones going off. Fast forward to when I was in college, any time someone’s phone went off, either the professor would tell them to turn it off, or they would say, “Oh, my bad,” and turn it off themselves, and everyone would move on. I even had a professor who danced around while someone’s phone went off, and it was a welcome moment of levity during the lecture. I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious. God I’ve been reading these posts for a while and each time I am struck with the realization that certainly not all parents were supposed to be a parent “I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious.”YES this The problem is, even if families are forgiving the culture around children still effects the child. I use myself as proof of that. A few times between the ages of 4 and 18 I broke things. I broke my grandma’s favorite Christmas ornament. Her first question was: “Are you hurt?” and when I apologized profusely she said “I’m just glad you weren’t hurt.” I broke a few plates. I broke a couple glasses. Every time my dad’s first response was “Did you get cut?” the second step was cleaning up the broken bits, and the third was a discussion of what led to me breaking it and how I could avoid doing that in the future. Same with spills. Same with stains. My biggest “punishment” from my immediate family was being taught how to clean up the mess I made and being shown in detail how to avoid the same mistake in the future if it was avoidable. There were consequences for my actions, but they were the direct result of those actions and nothing much beyond that. My family tried so hard to teach me how to deal with accidents in a healthy way. They were patient. They treated every slip-up as a learning opportunity. They showed me a lot of love. The other adults still got to me. Teachers still punished and publicly shamed me and other students for our mess-ups. Extended family members outside of my small supportive circle still yelled at me. My friends’ parents still got mad. To the point where whenever I messed up my first instinct was that my dad or grandparents were going to punish me, or yell at me, or hit me, even though they never did. They just didn’t. They always responded with patience and an attitude of “I’m glad you’re safe and I want to help you learn from this.” And I was still afraid of messing up. Mortified. Expecting the worst every time. It’s like… we need to change the culture around this, man. Completely. : what-even-is-thiss: bobcatdump: jaskiegg: mellomaia: aphony-cree: beyoncescock: gahdamnpunk: Honestly!!! This is just psychological trauma in the making THANK YOU I’ve asked parents about this and they always say they are teaching the child responsibility and “respect for other people’s things.” If I point out that the child accidentally broke their own toy they always say “I bought them that toy” or “my sister gave that to them.” The problem is that parents view all possessions as not really belonging to the child. A part of them always seems to think that the adult who provided the money is the real owner If a parent breaks a dish they see it as breaking something that already belonged to them, but if a child breaks it they see it as the child breaking something that belonged to the parents People raising children need to realize that household possessions belong to the entire household. If everyone has to use that plate then it belongs to everyone and anyone can have a forgivable accident with it. It’s okay to deem certain possessions as just yours and ask everyone in the house to respect that, but extend the same respect to your child’s belongings Big mood. I know most of these are talking about little little kids, but here’s a tale from middle school. I had forgotten to charge my phone one night, and this was back when cell phones used to beep loudly when they were low on battery. I kept hearing the noise throughout the afternoon and not recognizing what it was because I’d never heard it before. When I finally did realize what it was, I was in science class and my fellow classmates were making presentations. I reached into my bag to try to turn off the phone, and then the low-battery sound went off, loud enough for the teacher to hear it. She confiscated my phone in front of everyone, and I didn’t get it back until after the weekend because it was a Friday. I was really embarrassed, especially to tell my parents. When I got my phone back that Monday, my teacher said it was important for me to learn this lesson now since in college they wouldn’t tolerate phones going off. Fast forward to when I was in college, any time someone’s phone went off, either the professor would tell them to turn it off, or they would say, “Oh, my bad,” and turn it off themselves, and everyone would move on. I even had a professor who danced around while someone’s phone went off, and it was a welcome moment of levity during the lecture. I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious. God I’ve been reading these posts for a while and each time I am struck with the realization that certainly not all parents were supposed to be a parent “I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious.”YES this The problem is, even if families are forgiving the culture around children still effects the child. I use myself as proof of that. A few times between the ages of 4 and 18 I broke things. I broke my grandma’s favorite Christmas ornament. Her first question was: “Are you hurt?” and when I apologized profusely she said “I’m just glad you weren’t hurt.” I broke a few plates. I broke a couple glasses. Every time my dad’s first response was “Did you get cut?” the second step was cleaning up the broken bits, and the third was a discussion of what led to me breaking it and how I could avoid doing that in the future. Same with spills. Same with stains. My biggest “punishment” from my immediate family was being taught how to clean up the mess I made and being shown in detail how to avoid the same mistake in the future if it was avoidable. There were consequences for my actions, but they were the direct result of those actions and nothing much beyond that. My family tried so hard to teach me how to deal with accidents in a healthy way. They were patient. They treated every slip-up as a learning opportunity. They showed me a lot of love. The other adults still got to me. Teachers still punished and publicly shamed me and other students for our mess-ups. Extended family members outside of my small supportive circle still yelled at me. My friends’ parents still got mad. To the point where whenever I messed up my first instinct was that my dad or grandparents were going to punish me, or yell at me, or hit me, even though they never did. They just didn’t. They always responded with patience and an attitude of “I’m glad you’re safe and I want to help you learn from this.” And I was still afraid of messing up. Mortified. Expecting the worst every time. It’s like… we need to change the culture around this, man. Completely.

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smonks-alone: black-girl-against-feminism: smonks-alone: black-girl-against-feminism: smonks-alone: black-girl-against-feminism: I know beating children is bad and all, but I think I found an exception to the rule. @black-girl-against-feminism hey I shouldn’t have to tell you this but jokes about certain children being ‘okay’ to physically abuse because they’re acting weird aren’t good. they are in fact very bad. Yes, moral ranger. You have changed my ways, and I will no longer make such foul jokes as long as I live. God bless you. good. stay away from children while you’re at it. We’ll see. If they start swallowing my diamonds or calling themselves dragon kin, I may have to thrash them a little. Nobody’s perfect, you know. you know, it’s okay to admit you made a bad joke. you can just say “yeah, my child abuse joke wasn’t funny, I won’t make jokes like that anymore” and move on. continuing the joke and saying that you yourself would beat a kid for acting weird isn’t your only option. You know, it’s OK to just keep scrolling if you see something that offends you. Deadass who made you the Joke Police? Get a hobby: smonks-alone: black-girl-against-feminism: smonks-alone: black-girl-against-feminism: smonks-alone: black-girl-against-feminism: I know beating children is bad and all, but I think I found an exception to the rule. @black-girl-against-feminism hey I shouldn’t have to tell you this but jokes about certain children being ‘okay’ to physically abuse because they’re acting weird aren’t good. they are in fact very bad. Yes, moral ranger. You have changed my ways, and I will no longer make such foul jokes as long as I live. God bless you. good. stay away from children while you’re at it. We’ll see. If they start swallowing my diamonds or calling themselves dragon kin, I may have to thrash them a little. Nobody’s perfect, you know. you know, it’s okay to admit you made a bad joke. you can just say “yeah, my child abuse joke wasn’t funny, I won’t make jokes like that anymore” and move on. continuing the joke and saying that you yourself would beat a kid for acting weird isn’t your only option. You know, it’s OK to just keep scrolling if you see something that offends you. Deadass who made you the Joke Police? Get a hobby

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why-i-love-comics: Nightwing Annual #2 - “The Very Friendly Owl” (2019)written by Dan Jurgensart by Travis Moore: Like I used to be." THIS WAS THE BEST THANKSGIVING EVER WE'D LOVE TO HAVE YOU STAY, HONEY I KINDA DON'T WANNA LEAVE BUT YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON TO THE NEXT PERFORMANCE I'M SURE THE CIRCUS WILL BE BACK IN TOWN NEXT YEAR. WHEN IT IS, OUR HOME is YOUR HOME. ు PROMISE? OF COURSE, I DO, SWEETIE I'M AFRAID NOT, RICHARD. IT WAS OUR DAUGHTER'S FAVORITE VExy FuOLY OMe SHE'S WAITING FOR THE DAY WHEN SHE CAN PASS IT ON TO SOMEONE SPECIAL THE BOOK WAS GREAT. CAN I КЕЁР IT? "КАУ. ViExY FROAL T've been thinking about them a lot, Dr. Haas. My parents were killed before we got to go back "They're long dead now I'm sure, but I wish I'd seen them again. "They were kind and decent. Even more important, they were family." WELL DONE IT MAУ TАKE YEARS, BUT WE ARE PERFECTLY POSITIONED FOR THE DAY... .WHEN RICHARD GRAYSON 1S OURS. "WAYNE WILL NEVER LET GO OF YOU IF YOU STAY IN GOTHAM. YOU WANT ME TO LEAVE? MY ONLY GOAL IS YOUR HEALTH AND HAPPINESS. PUT ASIDE THE IDEA OF RECOVERINGA LIFE YOU CAN'T REMEMBER... THERE'S LITTLE TO KEEP YOU HERE AND YOUR FRUSTRATION IS OBVIOUS. ...AND FOCUS ON BUILDINGA NEW LIFE. SO, WHY NOT START IN A PLACE THAT DOES MEAN SOMETHING? SOMEPLACE LIKE... МАУВЕ THIS WILL HELP YOU CONNECT WITH HAPPIER TIMES. ...BLÜDHAVEN IS THAT--P! I ALSO HAD IT AS A CHILD. KVERY FAADIY OWL WOW THANK YOU! THE IT'S JUST LIKE I REMEMBER IT! BUT, uh... DON'T YOU THINK I'M A LITTLE OLD FOR IT? NO ONE IS EVER TOO OLD TO LET THE BEST MOMENTS OF THEIR CHILDHOOD BE THEIR GUIDE. YOU CAN THANK ME BY CREATING A VIBRANT NEW LIFE FOR YOURSELF IF I KNOW WAYNE, HE HAS CONTACTS ON STAFF GOODBYE, RICHARD. I'LL BE IN TOUCH YOU WERE LISTENING? IT'LL BE EASIER FOR YOU TO DISAPPEAR IF YOU DON'T SIGN OUT. I OWE YOU MORE THAN I CAN EVER REPAY, DR. HAAS THANK YOU. OF COURSE YOUR DRUG REGIMEN AND PSYCHOLOGICAL MANIPULATION BURIED GRAYSON'S MEMORY AND LEFT HIM RIGHT WHERE WE WANT HIM WELL DONE, DOCTOR. THERE'S MORE TO BE DONE, OF COURSE BUT THE DICK GRAYSON OF THE PAST... IS GONE FOREVER. "HE'S RICHARD GRAYSON NOW, A FRESH LUMP OF CLAY, WAITING TO BE MOLDED INTO WHATEVER WE WANT "NOTIFY СОВВ. Blüdhaven 45 mi LET HIM KNOW THAT THE TIME TO MOVE IS ALMOST HERE... ..AND THAT HIS GREAT- GRANDSON WILL SOON BE HIS." why-i-love-comics: Nightwing Annual #2 - “The Very Friendly Owl” (2019)written by Dan Jurgensart by Travis Moore
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aethelflaedladyofmercia: Ok like I think people are forgetting something very important about JKR.Namely, she did not make up this stuff after the fact. Back in the day, JKR was extremely open about the fact that there was tons of lore behind the scenes she could not address in the books. She couldn’t address it, btw, because it was a known fact in the publishing industry that young adult novels had to top out at like 250, maybe 300 pages because kids didn’t have the attention span for anything longer. And early HP was middle grade, which is the next age category down. She was only able to start addressing deeper lore halfway through the series because that’s how long it took to convince her publishers it wouldn’t scare readers away.(I distinctly remember another, long-established children’s fantasy author dedicating a book to JKR because the success of HP was the reason said author was able to negotiate an extra 100 pages into that novel.)In the mean time, she was in a ton of interviews. She was absolutely the most open author about her worldbuilding. If a fan asked her a question and the answer wasn’t a spoiler, she answered it every time. JKR was famous for this. She was worshipped for it practically. I remember on the early internet boards, when one fan had the chance to meet her in a Q&A we would all pile together and come up with as many questions as possible. Ask what year Beauxbatons was founded. Ask who the ghost of Hufflepuff is. Ask McGonagall’s age. Ask Lily’s maiden name. Were all the Marauders in Gryffindor? Which of Gilderoy Lockheart’s stories were stolen and which were flat out made up?We collected these interviews, we held them as canon, we altered our fanfic to accommodate what she revealed. And then, all of a sudden, that wasn’t what the fans wanted any more. When she finished HP, she said she was done, that she’d move on to other projects. No one wanted any of her non-HP stuff. No one cared. So she came back to build the Fantastic Beasts verse, with exactly the same policy about answering fans that we had welcomed back in the early 2000s.So, like, you don’t have to enjoy what she’s doing. The fan community has changed, and that’s fine. But JKR contributed a lot to the children’s fantasy genre and to the way fandom operated, and we should at least acknowledge that. : Only start creating a lore after you already finished half of the series and keep adding stuff a decade after finishing it Steal 90% of your deep lore from real life history and other authors to fill out your world map Create an entire universe with a bloody, theological history with hundreds of characters and dozens of devastating wars, then write a childrens book in it aethelflaedladyofmercia: Ok like I think people are forgetting something very important about JKR.Namely, she did not make up this stuff after the fact. Back in the day, JKR was extremely open about the fact that there was tons of lore behind the scenes she could not address in the books. She couldn’t address it, btw, because it was a known fact in the publishing industry that young adult novels had to top out at like 250, maybe 300 pages because kids didn’t have the attention span for anything longer. And early HP was middle grade, which is the next age category down. She was only able to start addressing deeper lore halfway through the series because that’s how long it took to convince her publishers it wouldn’t scare readers away.(I distinctly remember another, long-established children’s fantasy author dedicating a book to JKR because the success of HP was the reason said author was able to negotiate an extra 100 pages into that novel.)In the mean time, she was in a ton of interviews. She was absolutely the most open author about her worldbuilding. If a fan asked her a question and the answer wasn’t a spoiler, she answered it every time. JKR was famous for this. She was worshipped for it practically. I remember on the early internet boards, when one fan had the chance to meet her in a Q&A we would all pile together and come up with as many questions as possible. Ask what year Beauxbatons was founded. Ask who the ghost of Hufflepuff is. Ask McGonagall’s age. Ask Lily’s maiden name. Were all the Marauders in Gryffindor? Which of Gilderoy Lockheart’s stories were stolen and which were flat out made up?We collected these interviews, we held them as canon, we altered our fanfic to accommodate what she revealed. And then, all of a sudden, that wasn’t what the fans wanted any more. When she finished HP, she said she was done, that she’d move on to other projects. No one wanted any of her non-HP stuff. No one cared. So she came back to build the Fantastic Beasts verse, with exactly the same policy about answering fans that we had welcomed back in the early 2000s.So, like, you don’t have to enjoy what she’s doing. The fan community has changed, and that’s fine. But JKR contributed a lot to the children’s fantasy genre and to the way fandom operated, and we should at least acknowledge that.

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lafemmedemon: Me before the Black Mountain Hunger, Cloak, Uada, and 1349 show at The Mothlight in Asheville, NC on October 26, 2019. I’ve been tagged by so many lovely people! Idk why y’all still tag me so much when I never post selfies, but I appreciate all the love!Tagged by @ankinskywalker (6), @macabremusings (2), @runtowaters (3), @mysticbride, @scarsoftheshatteredsky (2), @beatasticband (5), @heart-stained-in-hate, @wizardwinterwolf, @wonderinghobbit, @ghostof-nothing, @justsomeartgeek, @theashenone (4), @flatchinchilla, @thedarkchimera, @apollonlight (2), @gipsyspirits (3), @welcome-to-the-dark-circus, @thecolombianviking (2), @badassspacewitch, @winterdryad, @misfit-on-a-journey, @glimpseofsanity (2), @calumari, @petrak (2), @bloodofheroes, @graveland, @sleepyvampiress, @mistress-of-doom (2), @m00nbeans, @xx-miss-cadaverous-xx, @karakittencd, @bluesdemarrr, @bridgesinthesky, @entangled-in-chaos, and a few more people who have apparently deactivated! Hope y’all move on to better things.I’m tagging everyone of you back as well as @adreamofmirrors, @alan-frogger, @almostlookedhuman, @ashesofthepaleserpent, @asylumsammet, @awarmcupofno, @bitch-of-izalith, @bitesize-butterflies, @blackenedgoat, @cannabyss666, @chubbawubbadubdub, @cthulhu-is-metal, @darkestwonder, @darthnihilvs, @defilementupontheseaofnurnen, @drum-cu-naluci, @elixmia, @ethereal-valky, @fleshbutt-apocalypse​, @forging-towards-the-sunset​, @fourthorandsevenyearsago​, @goat-division​, @hera-salander​, @kidzbopdeathmetal​, @lamialamorte​, @letwhatyoulovekillyouu​, @livingdeadgirlmagicx​, @lord-worms-shakespeare-class​, @midsummergore​, @morbidmacabremin​, @nazgulqveen​, @nvmendivinvm​, @ollis-beard​, @orthar-the-tooth-collector​, @radiant-aether​, @rottenpossvm​, @rustdustandguts​, @saturniine​, @somethingkvlt​, @storm-and-flame​, @teddyshreddy​, @ultimategeekboy​, and any other mutual who wants to show their face!Also, bonus gif from before the show:: lafemmedemon: Me before the Black Mountain Hunger, Cloak, Uada, and 1349 show at The Mothlight in Asheville, NC on October 26, 2019. I’ve been tagged by so many lovely people! Idk why y’all still tag me so much when I never post selfies, but I appreciate all the love!Tagged by @ankinskywalker (6), @macabremusings (2), @runtowaters (3), @mysticbride, @scarsoftheshatteredsky (2), @beatasticband (5), @heart-stained-in-hate, @wizardwinterwolf, @wonderinghobbit, @ghostof-nothing, @justsomeartgeek, @theashenone (4), @flatchinchilla, @thedarkchimera, @apollonlight (2), @gipsyspirits (3), @welcome-to-the-dark-circus, @thecolombianviking (2), @badassspacewitch, @winterdryad, @misfit-on-a-journey, @glimpseofsanity (2), @calumari, @petrak (2), @bloodofheroes, @graveland, @sleepyvampiress, @mistress-of-doom (2), @m00nbeans, @xx-miss-cadaverous-xx, @karakittencd, @bluesdemarrr, @bridgesinthesky, @entangled-in-chaos, and a few more people who have apparently deactivated! Hope y’all move on to better things.I’m tagging everyone of you back as well as @adreamofmirrors, @alan-frogger, @almostlookedhuman, @ashesofthepaleserpent, @asylumsammet, @awarmcupofno, @bitch-of-izalith, @bitesize-butterflies, @blackenedgoat, @cannabyss666, @chubbawubbadubdub, @cthulhu-is-metal, @darkestwonder, @darthnihilvs, @defilementupontheseaofnurnen, @drum-cu-naluci, @elixmia, @ethereal-valky, @fleshbutt-apocalypse​, @forging-towards-the-sunset​, @fourthorandsevenyearsago​, @goat-division​, @hera-salander​, @kidzbopdeathmetal​, @lamialamorte​, @letwhatyoulovekillyouu​, @livingdeadgirlmagicx​, @lord-worms-shakespeare-class​, @midsummergore​, @morbidmacabremin​, @nazgulqveen​, @nvmendivinvm​, @ollis-beard​, @orthar-the-tooth-collector​, @radiant-aether​, @rottenpossvm​, @rustdustandguts​, @saturniine​, @somethingkvlt​, @storm-and-flame​, @teddyshreddy​, @ultimategeekboy​, and any other mutual who wants to show their face!Also, bonus gif from before the show:
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