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Brains, Girls, and Lazy: icecream-eaterrr I just heard this woman say "you procrastinate because you are afraid of rejection. It's a defense mechanism, you are trying to protect yourself without even trying." and I think I just realized what was wrong with me eupheme-butterfly Yep, this is a very, very common reason for procrastinating. It's also why procrastination, even though it's often associated with laziness, is a fairly common trait in a lot of people with anxiety and perfectionism issues dsudis This idea You're not lazy, you're protecting yourself- hit me really hard while reading, of all things, Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, which turns out to be as much about how brains work and how relationships work as how orgasms work. In an early part of the book she talks about Fight/Flight/Freeze responses to threats-the example she uses is being attacked by a lion You fight, if you think you can defeat the lion; you run away, if you think you can escape the lion; and when you think there's nothing you can do, when you feel the lion's jaws closing on your neck, you freeze, because dying will hurt less that way. You just stop and go numb and wait for it to be over, because that is the last way to protect any scrap of yourself Later in the book, she talks about the brain process that motivates you to pursue incentives, describing it as a little monitor that gauges your progress toward a goal versus the effort you're expending. If it feels like too little progress is being made you get frustrated, get angry, and, eventually, you.. despair. You stop trying You go numb and wait for it to be over, because that's the only way left to protect yourself. So it occurred to me that these are basically the same thing-when facing a difficult task, where failure feels like a Threat, you can get frustrated and fight it out-INCREASE DOING THE THING until you get where you're going Or you can flee-try to solve the problem some other way than straight on, changing your goal, changing your approach, whatever. Fight or flight But both of those only apply when you think the problem is solvable, right? If the problem isn't solvable, then you freeze. You despair And if you're one of those Smart Kids (Smart Girls, especially) who was praised for being smart so that all tasks in the world came to be divided between Ooh This Is Easy and I DON'T KNOW IF I CAN DO THAT AND IF I FUCK UP I WILL DIE, then... it's pretty easy to see how you lose the frustration/anger stage of working toward a goal, because your brain goes straight to freeze/despair every time. Things are easy and routine or they are straight up impossible So, you know, any time you manage to pull yourself up and give that lion a smack on the nose, or go stumbling away from it instead of just falling down like a fainting goat as soon as you spot it on the horizon, give yourself a gold star from me. Because this is some deeply wired survival-brain stuff. Even if logically you know that that term paper is not a lion, it really is like that sometimes Source: icecream-eaterrr 517,124 notes Procrastination
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Amazon, Anime, and Butt: X www.amazon.com Caz I bought these for a cosplay, but they changed my life! February 27, 2017 l originally bought these for a Naruto cosplay because they don't allow real weapons at Anime Boston. They look just like real kunai! Thankfully, no one seemed to notice that I was walking around with a dozen or so butt plugs strapped to my legs. l think maybe one girl who wanted to hold them for a picture recognized what they were but didn't say anything. I eventually ended up buying a couple dozen more for my LARPing events. These things actually have pretty good balance when thrown and usually land on the point, plus they don't hurt when you get hit by them. They're basically nerf ninja weapons. Okay. Now for the real review. When you have a backpack worth of mini butt plugs, eventually you start to get curious. I've never been the type to knock something until I try it, so one day I put one you-know-where just to see what the big deal was. It actually felt pretty great! My orgasms intensified and seemed to last longer. My girlfriend loves them too, and we both use them regularly during our love-making. It definitely added that spice we were missing in the bedroom. Pros: Smooth Soft. The taper allows for easy insertion, but the flare ensures it won't fall out. Easy to clean. No chemical smell Surprisingly accurate when thrown Doesn't hurt when you get hit. Cons: Buying 3 dozen of these will run you a pretty penny They're black so they're easy to lose when thrown They will damage your lawnmower if run over. Cannot be used with silicon lube Final thoughts: A great, reasonably priced, versatile product. Would I recommend this to a friend? Believe it! 7 people found this helpful Blush Novelties Eden Beginner Smooth Silicone Butt Plug Safe Loop Base Trainer Kit (Black Kit) ζœƒζœƒζœƒ! 4 Currently unavailable We don't know when or if this item will be back in stock.
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Beautiful, God, and Lottery: Hill I would like to share this beautiful passage with all of you, it's long, but worth it. And I swear to god I didn't alter any of this Her long hair, still wet from the shower, had been combed down her back in a wet swath Hilda was sitting on the floor, her round, wet boobs still wet from the shower's water. She dried off the water with a towel, which then became wet. Hilda gasped when she saw a reflection in her bedroom mirror: through the slightly open door, she caught a glimpse of the chiseled abs and square jaw of the mysterious stranger who shared her cabin. She stood and spun around, her breasts swinging heavily with the momentum. She grabbed the door She saw herself and Torolf happy together, bathed in the golden light of love. Her snooch got all warm, too Torolf," Hilda moaned, her lush teats straining with desire. "I need you." Torolf, coarse abs pulsing softly in the moonlight, stood silently Hilda looked at him expectantly. "Oh, sorry, she added. "Torolf, I need you sexually." At hearing those beautiful words, Torolf flexed his rough-hewn abs and Hilda found herself being guided to her soft bed by the sheer force of Torolfs undulating midsection. She parted her thighs in anticipation, exposing the soft pink petals of her clunge Torolf entered her like she was a lottery. His engorged pecker pushed inside her and she felt fulfilled with sexual fulfillment. Hilda clutched at the bedsheets with lust and ecstasy and her hands. Her spongy love mountains hurled to and fro with each pounding. Her body was like a beautiful flower that was opening and somebody was pushing their dick inside it. Then Torolf moaned, arched his back, and suffered from dick Parkinson's. He pumped in all of his hot pearlescent sperms as Hilda spasmed with so many orgasms! The two lay still for a moment as the stinky scent of lovemaking billowed around the room. Hilda got out of bed, still shimmering with orgasm. She glowed with contentment, like a cat who ate the cream of the crop She walked across the room and picked up her towel, still wet with shower water. "Torolf," she said softly, "there's something I have to tell you... But her bed was empty Torolf was gone, escaped out the bedroom window. In the distance, Hilda heard the fading sound of galloping abs DICK ANEURYSM GALLOPING ABS A beautiful piece of literature.
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