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Facebook, Friends, and Hello: What to do if you are witnessing ISlamophobIC A bystander's guide to help the persor harassment n who's being targeted Engage conversation. Go to them, sit beside them and say hello. Try to appear calm, collected and welcoming IGNORE THE ATTACKER Pick a random subject and start discussing it. It can be anything: a movie you liked, the weather, saying you like something they wear and asking where they got it.. THE WEATHER LATELYIS S0 İGNO RED Hl HOW ARE YOU? MY SISTER TOLD ME ABOUT THIS MOVIE Keep building the safe space. Keep eye contact with them and don't acknowledge the attacker's presence : the absence of response from you two wil push them to leave the area shortly Continue the conversation until the attacker leaves & escort them to a safe place if necessary. Bring them to a neutral area where they can recollect themselves; respect their wishes if they tell you they're ok and just want to go 2 This guide was written & illustrated by Maeril | @itsmaeril Translated in English for The Middle Eastern Feminist cognitiveinequality: maeril: Hi everyone! This is an illustrated guide I made as part of my co-admining work at The Middle Eastern Feminist on Facebook! It will be published there shortly. The technique that is displayed here is a genuine one used in psychology - I forgot the name and couldn’t find it again so if you know about it, feel free to tell me!Some could say: “Yes but you can use that technique for instances of harassment other than Islamophobic attacks!”, and my reply is: Sure! Please do so, it also works for other “types” of harassment of a lone person in a public space!! However I’m focusing on protecting Muslims here, as they have been very specific targets lately, and as a French Middle Eastern woman, I wanted to try and do something to raise awareness on how to help when such things happen before our eyes - that way one cannot say they “didn’t know what to do”! I’d like to insist on two things: 1) Do not, in any way, interact with the attacker. You must absolutely ignore them and focus entirely on the person being attacked! 2) Please make sure to always respect the wishes of the person you’re helping: whether they want you to leave quickly afterwards, or not! If you’re in a hurry escort them to a place where someone else can take over - call one of their friends, or one of yours, of if they want to, the police. It all depends on how they feel! For my fellow French-speakers: I will translate it in French and post it on my page as soon as I can :)Please don’t hesitate to share this guide as it could push a lot of people to overcome bystander syndrome!!Lots of love and stay safe! PS: I you repost this cartoon of mine on twitter or instagram, please add me in the post so I can see it, with @itsmaeril :) An important reminder today, and every day.

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Dating, Family, and Friends: HOWTO DETERMINE IF YOUR DATE IS MARRIED 1Examine the left ring finger After a period of about one year, a wedding band leaves a circle of lighter skin around the base of the ring finger. Your date may also touch the base of that finger inadvertently, as if something is missing 2 Ask for a home phone number Most people in committed relationships spend at least one or two hours a week on the phone; if your date will not give you his home phone number, then he is wor ried someone else will answer when you call 3 Insist on holding hands when walking in public. If your date is interested and attracted to you, then he will not object to such a small and commonplace display of affection unless he fears that someone wil spot you together Search your date's car The automobile registration may be in the spouse's name, or in both names. It is usually kept in the glove compartment, behind the sun visor or, for non-smok- ers, in the ashtray. Look for signs of a spouse (clothing, makeup) or other indicators (pacifiers, pieces of crack- ers, toys) of a family your date has not mentioned. 27. bto determine if your date is married un vison glove compartment ashtray earch your date's car. The automobile registration may include the spouse's mame. 5 Ask to meet some of his friends. After two or three dates, this is not an unusual request. If your date claims that his friends remain close to his ex-wife, or that it's too soon to bring you into their social circle, you have good reason to believe that you are not the only woman in his life. Invite him to spend the night. f you have engaged in sexual activity on several occa- sions but he always refuses to stay the night, then he very likely has someone waiting for him 6 28. cbapter I: defensive dating novelty-gift-ideas:The Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook: Dating Sex

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Dating, Family, and Friends: HOWTO DETERMINE IF YOUR DATE IS MARRIED 1Examine the left ring finger After a period of about one year, a wedding band leaves a circle of lighter skin around the base of the ring finger. Your date may also touch the base of that finger inadvertently, as if something is missing 2 Ask for a home phone number Most people in committed relationships spend at least one or two hours a week on the phone; if your date will not give you his home phone number, then he is wor ried someone else will answer when you call 3 Insist on holding hands when walking in public. If your date is interested and attracted to you, then he will not object to such a small and commonplace display of affection unless he fears that someone wil spot you together Search your date's car The automobile registration may be in the spouse's name, or in both names. It is usually kept in the glove compartment, behind the sun visor or, for non-smok- ers, in the ashtray. Look for signs of a spouse (clothing, makeup) or other indicators (pacifiers, pieces of crack- ers, toys) of a family your date has not mentioned. 27. bto determine if your date is married un vison glove compartment ashtray earch your date's car. The automobile registration may include the spouse's mame. 5 Ask to meet some of his friends. After two or three dates, this is not an unusual request. If your date claims that his friends remain close to his ex-wife, or that it's too soon to bring you into their social circle, you have good reason to believe that you are not the only woman in his life. Invite him to spend the night. f you have engaged in sexual activity on several occa- sions but he always refuses to stay the night, then he very likely has someone waiting for him 6 28. cbapter I: defensive dating novelty-gift-ideas:The Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook: Dating Sex

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Facebook, Friends, and Hello: What to do if you are witnessing ISlamophobIC A bystander's guide to help the persor harassment n who's being targeted Engage conversation. Go to them, sit beside them and say hello. Try to appear calm, collected and welcoming IGNORE THE ATTACKER Pick a random subject and start discussing it. It can be anything: a movie you liked, the weather, saying you like something they wear and asking where they got it.. THE WEATHER LATELYIS S0 İGNO RED Hl HOW ARE YOU? MY SISTER TOLD ME ABOUT THIS MOVIE Keep building the safe space. Keep eye contact with them and don't acknowledge the attacker's presence : the absence of response from you two wil push them to leave the area shortly Continue the conversation until the attacker leaves & escort them to a safe place if necessary. Bring them to a neutral area where they can recollect themselves; respect their wishes if they tell you they're ok and just want to go 2 This guide was written & illustrated by Maeril | @itsmaeril Translated in English for The Middle Eastern Feminist cognitiveinequality: maeril: Hi everyone! This is an illustrated guide I made as part of my co-admining work at The Middle Eastern Feminist on Facebook! It will be published there shortly. The technique that is displayed here is a genuine one used in psychology - I forgot the name and couldn’t find it again so if you know about it, feel free to tell me!Some could say: “Yes but you can use that technique for instances of harassment other than Islamophobic attacks!”, and my reply is: Sure! Please do so, it also works for other “types” of harassment of a lone person in a public space!! However I’m focusing on protecting Muslims here, as they have been very specific targets lately, and as a French Middle Eastern woman, I wanted to try and do something to raise awareness on how to help when such things happen before our eyes - that way one cannot say they “didn’t know what to do”! I’d like to insist on two things: 1) Do not, in any way, interact with the attacker. You must absolutely ignore them and focus entirely on the person being attacked! 2) Please make sure to always respect the wishes of the person you’re helping: whether they want you to leave quickly afterwards, or not! If you’re in a hurry escort them to a place where someone else can take over - call one of their friends, or one of yours, of if they want to, the police. It all depends on how they feel! For my fellow French-speakers: I will translate it in French and post it on my page as soon as I can :)Please don’t hesitate to share this guide as it could push a lot of people to overcome bystander syndrome!!Lots of love and stay safe! PS: I you repost this cartoon of mine on twitter or instagram, please add me in the post so I can see it, with @itsmaeril :) An important reminder today, and every day.

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Crush, Shit, and Soon...: Cycles ofAbuse TERFs have a system to their abusive cycle.I accounts will gang up on a trans woman, sending insults, poking, prodding They know our triggers by now. Mock our appearance, call us men, demand deep personal recountings of trauma to prove our oppression bonafides. None of it makes a difference. As soon as you say something even remotely useful to these abusers, they screenshot and disseminate it through their network. More prominent TERFs gleefully show off how fucked up these misogynistic, abusive men in dresses really are, which in turn triggers more harassment and abuse to their target and anyone supporting their target. nitially, sm If a transgression is large enough, the large media connected radical feminist accounts get involved. They'll say things like "I'm trying to be open-minded but I just can't ignore the evidence." Except, they're in on the system, This one-sidedness is by design. A design to crush trans women specifically. THat's how you end up with Hadley Freeman consistently writing transmisogynistic hottakes in The Guardian. The left-leaning British press is especially rife with TERFs who masquerade as rogue feminists, willing to speak "the unspeakable". Except, they all write the same things in the same papers. Their views are the most commonly spoken but they insist on gaslighting trans women by pretending to be the threatened truth tellers. I call bullshit. How many of these women make a living by shitting on trans women? How many trans women make a living by being a columnist? The numbers are astounding, and not at all balanced. Don't piss on me and tell me it's raining morphodyke: tranarchist: https://medium.com/@katelynburns/im-a-trans-woman-and-i-don-t-know-how-to-do-this-6958817a29b7 honestly everyone who’s not a trans woman should reblog this because way way too many of you are still falling for this shit.
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Crush, Shit, and Soon...: Cycles ofAbuse TERFs have a system to their abusive cycle.I accounts will gang up on a trans woman, sending insults, poking, prodding They know our triggers by now. Mock our appearance, call us men, demand deep personal recountings of trauma to prove our oppression bonafides. None of it makes a difference. As soon as you say something even remotely useful to these abusers, they screenshot and disseminate it through their network. More prominent TERFs gleefully show off how fucked up these misogynistic, abusive men in dresses really are, which in turn triggers more harassment and abuse to their target and anyone supporting their target. nitially, sm If a transgression is large enough, the large media connected radical feminist accounts get involved. They'll say things like "I'm trying to be open-minded but I just can't ignore the evidence." Except, they're in on the system, This one-sidedness is by design. A design to crush trans women specifically. THat's how you end up with Hadley Freeman consistently writing transmisogynistic hottakes in The Guardian. The left-leaning British press is especially rife with TERFs who masquerade as rogue feminists, willing to speak "the unspeakable". Except, they all write the same things in the same papers. Their views are the most commonly spoken but they insist on gaslighting trans women by pretending to be the threatened truth tellers. I call bullshit. How many of these women make a living by shitting on trans women? How many trans women make a living by being a columnist? The numbers are astounding, and not at all balanced. Don't piss on me and tell me it's raining morphodyke: tranarchist: https://medium.com/@katelynburns/im-a-trans-woman-and-i-don-t-know-how-to-do-this-6958817a29b7 honestly everyone who’s not a trans woman should reblog this because way way too many of you are still falling for this shit.
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Facebook, Friends, and Hello: What to do if you are witnessing ISlamophobIC A bystander's guide to help the persor harassment n who's being targeted Engage conversation. Go to them, sit beside them and say hello. Try to appear calm, collected and welcoming IGNORE THE ATTACKER Pick a random subject and start discussing it. It can be anything: a movie you liked, the weather, saying you like something they wear and asking where they got it.. THE WEATHER LATELYIS S0 İGNO RED Hl HOW ARE YOU? MY SISTER TOLD ME ABOUT THIS MOVIE Keep building the safe space. Keep eye contact with them and don't acknowledge the attacker's presence : the absence of response from you two wil push them to leave the area shortly Continue the conversation until the attacker leaves & escort them to a safe place if necessary. Bring them to a neutral area where they can recollect themselves; respect their wishes if they tell you they're ok and just want to go 2 This guide was written & illustrated by Maeril | @itsmaeril Translated in English for The Middle Eastern Feminist profeminist: maeril: Hi everyone! This is an illustrated guide I made as part of my co-admining work at The Middle Eastern Feminist on Facebook! It will be published there shortly. The technique that is displayed here is a genuine one used in psychology - I forgot the name and couldn’t find it again so if you know about it, feel free to tell me!Some could say: “Yes but you can use that technique for instances of harassment other than Islamophobic attacks!”, and my reply is: Sure! Please do so, it also works for other “types” of harassment of a lone person in a public space!! However I’m focusing on protecting Muslims here, as they have been very specific targets lately, and as a French Middle Eastern woman, I wanted to try and do something to raise awareness on how to help when such things happen before our eyes - that way one cannot say they “didn’t know what to do”! I’d like to insist on two things: 1) Do not, in any way, interact with the attacker. You must absolutely ignore them and focus entirely on the person being attacked! 2) Please make sure to always respect the wishes of the person you’re helping: whether they want you to leave quickly afterwards, or not! If you’re in a hurry escort them to a place where someone else can take over - call one of their friends, or one of yours, of if they want to, the police. It all depends on how they feel! For my fellow French-speakers: I will translate it in French and post it on my page as soon as I can :)Please don’t hesitate to share this guide as it could push a lot of people to overcome bystander syndrome!!Lots of love and stay safe! PS: I you repost this cartoon of mine on twitter or instagram, please add me in the post so I can see it, with @itsmaeril :) This is a great strategy for all types of harassment, please share!!! I don’t usually call for a Signal Boost, but FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS GOOD, SIGNAL BOOST THE HELL OUT OF THIS POST!!!!

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