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pieprincess-andthe-fallenangel: westotanu: jeanjauthor: ao3commentoftheday: You’ve heard of lemons and the Citrus Scale? Well, what about KINKTOMATO? KINKTOMATO is an important concept in fandom. It’s a humourous re-spelling of YKINMKATO - Your Kink Is Not My Kink (And That’s OK). This is the idea that if you don’t like a particular kink or ship etc, that’s fine but you don’t need to attack or shame the people who do. Just leave them alone to enjoy their fics and art in peace and ask that they do the same in return.  KINKTOMATO is the “you do you” of fandom. It’s the “whatever floats your boat” of leaving other people alone. It’s an easy and judgement-free way of hoping that your fellow fans enjoy their content as much as you enjoy yours and understanding that different folks like different strokes.  Having preferences is human. Having squicks is totally normal. Everyone has NOTPs or lines they don’t want to cross. But fandom is a large group of diverse people with varying tastes and interests and backgrounds. Infinite Diversity in Infinite Combinations. Ship and let ship. Don’t like? Don’t read. Your kink is not my kink, and that’s okay.  This, writers. And yes, do bring back “squick” because if it makes you go “ew, ick” then that’s a squick, or a hard “uh no NOT for me” it’s a squick.  (Something that’s genuinely triggering will give you symptoms like hyperventillating, shaking hands, cold sweats, nausea, the feeling like you’re gonna faint, etc, but if it just makes you go “ew, ick” and scrunches your face in distaste, then that’s a squick, my friend.) just to add on - KINKTOMATO is not easy, which goes against the usual ‘it’s not hard to just hit the back button’ narrative but I’m gonna say it. most people think they can do this stuff just fine but usually what they’re considering as ‘things they don’t like’ are things they feel neutral about. ‘I’m not really fond of X but it doesn’t make me want to run for the hills if I see it in a fic’ is not ‘oh wow I really REALLY hate that’. it takes conscious effort to be fair about it. you have to resist the urge to be like ‘this is disgusting and I want to yell at someone for subjecting my poor eyeballs to this’. sometimes you gotta leave and do other things for a few days or even weeks just because you read the tags/summary on something and were like ‘oh god nope no ew ew ew’. nobody really enjoys practicing this type of self-discipline. it is sincerely unpleasant to encounter kinks you are repulsed/squicked by. there have been times when i was lax in reading through the tags or when i assumed a tag represented one kind of take on a thing but no actually it was another, way less appealing one, and it’s not a fun time to get that particular cold glass of water thrown onto your soul. be mature and fair about it anyway. resist the urge to be the fandom equivalent of those white suburban moms who yell at underpaid (or volunteer, in this case) cashiers and demand to speak to the manager. ignore the people who will try and appeal to you by telling you that your aversion is a result of some innate Goodness on your part and that people who make things you don’t like are Evil. And friendly reminder that both tumblr and AO3 have ways to filter out unwanted tags so that you can easily go about your day without seeing content for one of your squicks or notps. In fact, I find it good practice to do an AO3 search for all of my favourite ships, filtering out all tags and ships I don’t like, and then saving that page as a bookmark/favourite to make my future fic-browsing easier. That way, I never accidentally come across something that makes me squick. And whenever I come across another ship or tag that I hate, I add that into my ‘excluded tags’ list and resave it. It’s really simple and saves me a lot of pain and effort! : pieprincess-andthe-fallenangel: westotanu: jeanjauthor: ao3commentoftheday: You’ve heard of lemons and the Citrus Scale? Well, what about KINKTOMATO? KINKTOMATO is an important concept in fandom. It’s a humourous re-spelling of YKINMKATO - Your Kink Is Not My Kink (And That’s OK). This is the idea that if you don’t like a particular kink or ship etc, that’s fine but you don’t need to attack or shame the people who do. Just leave them alone to enjoy their fics and art in peace and ask that they do the same in return.  KINKTOMATO is the “you do you” of fandom. It’s the “whatever floats your boat” of leaving other people alone. It’s an easy and judgement-free way of hoping that your fellow fans enjoy their content as much as you enjoy yours and understanding that different folks like different strokes.  Having preferences is human. Having squicks is totally normal. Everyone has NOTPs or lines they don’t want to cross. But fandom is a large group of diverse people with varying tastes and interests and backgrounds. Infinite Diversity in Infinite Combinations. Ship and let ship. Don’t like? Don’t read. Your kink is not my kink, and that’s okay.  This, writers. And yes, do bring back “squick” because if it makes you go “ew, ick” then that’s a squick, or a hard “uh no NOT for me” it’s a squick.  (Something that’s genuinely triggering will give you symptoms like hyperventillating, shaking hands, cold sweats, nausea, the feeling like you’re gonna faint, etc, but if it just makes you go “ew, ick” and scrunches your face in distaste, then that’s a squick, my friend.) just to add on - KINKTOMATO is not easy, which goes against the usual ‘it’s not hard to just hit the back button’ narrative but I’m gonna say it. most people think they can do this stuff just fine but usually what they’re considering as ‘things they don’t like’ are things they feel neutral about. ‘I’m not really fond of X but it doesn’t make me want to run for the hills if I see it in a fic’ is not ‘oh wow I really REALLY hate that’. it takes conscious effort to be fair about it. you have to resist the urge to be like ‘this is disgusting and I want to yell at someone for subjecting my poor eyeballs to this’. sometimes you gotta leave and do other things for a few days or even weeks just because you read the tags/summary on something and were like ‘oh god nope no ew ew ew’. nobody really enjoys practicing this type of self-discipline. it is sincerely unpleasant to encounter kinks you are repulsed/squicked by. there have been times when i was lax in reading through the tags or when i assumed a tag represented one kind of take on a thing but no actually it was another, way less appealing one, and it’s not a fun time to get that particular cold glass of water thrown onto your soul. be mature and fair about it anyway. resist the urge to be the fandom equivalent of those white suburban moms who yell at underpaid (or volunteer, in this case) cashiers and demand to speak to the manager. ignore the people who will try and appeal to you by telling you that your aversion is a result of some innate Goodness on your part and that people who make things you don’t like are Evil. And friendly reminder that both tumblr and AO3 have ways to filter out unwanted tags so that you can easily go about your day without seeing content for one of your squicks or notps. In fact, I find it good practice to do an AO3 search for all of my favourite ships, filtering out all tags and ships I don’t like, and then saving that page as a bookmark/favourite to make my future fic-browsing easier. That way, I never accidentally come across something that makes me squick. And whenever I come across another ship or tag that I hate, I add that into my ‘excluded tags’ list and resave it. It’s really simple and saves me a lot of pain and effort!

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bogleech: bogleech: I have to agree with the response, if you truly can’t bear life without lathering yourself up in your own rotting piss juice because you think it’s magic, you should probably do the right thing and spare your loved ones from yourself. Oh no, you mean some of you still didn’t know that FERMENTED HUMAN PISS is the latest homeopathic health craze??? They drink it, they bathe in it, they buy and trade it, they think it’ll cure cancer and de-age them and boost their immunity and anything else they feel like making up.Mark my words, eating shit is probably next. The funniest part is these are the same people obsessed with “detoxifying” their bodies. What the fuck do they think piss IS. they totally have a fetish…: 5 hours ago Hello! My husband is repulsed by my aged urine rubs. He hates every single hing about it. Even with the essential oils, he says he still smells it all over me- even to the point he doesnt want to touch me. Should I compromise by only drinking it and using it up the nose ears ect. I have literally tried everything to get rid of the smell. he even says the jars look like dead waste. please i need some help here I will give you the same advice I gave who is now a member of this group to0,when his husband was complaining about AU. Leave him. There are other fish in the sea, and had he never left we wouldve never began our journey together United by AU. Aged urine rubs with a partner are electrifying spiritually DO 33 4h Like Reply bogleech: bogleech: I have to agree with the response, if you truly can’t bear life without lathering yourself up in your own rotting piss juice because you think it’s magic, you should probably do the right thing and spare your loved ones from yourself. Oh no, you mean some of you still didn’t know that FERMENTED HUMAN PISS is the latest homeopathic health craze??? They drink it, they bathe in it, they buy and trade it, they think it’ll cure cancer and de-age them and boost their immunity and anything else they feel like making up.Mark my words, eating shit is probably next. The funniest part is these are the same people obsessed with “detoxifying” their bodies. What the fuck do they think piss IS. they totally have a fetish…
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thesinisstronginthisone: onepieceistruepain: mxcleod: mmikan: Here’s information about sexual/romantic orientations and gender identities that I put together! I..I don’t do graphic design, so this isn’t that great. Also, I’m very sorry if I missed your orientation or identity or got some information wrong. Sources: (1)(2)(3)(4)(5)(6) Flags: (1) Top photo: (1) I hope this helps some of you out! Oh god. I never realized!! I’m placiosexual. I’m so glad I found this!!!!! This is really important because I used to identify as ‘questioning/unlabelled’ with my sexuality because I never knew that I could identify as ‘Quoisexual’ (excuse me if the spelling is wrong) instead of spending all that time debating over pan and bi. I now identify as bi (two or more) but this could have really helped me earlier on and I hope it helps others identify themselves if they do wish. I think being able to give myself an official label whilst I wasn’t sure what I was would have been amazing because it’s so reassuring to know that there is a flag and everything.And I didn’t know there were that many genders!!!! I feel so happy now that I am more educated and that this exists to help and educate people!! Yay! : ORIENTATION G GENDER IDENTITY Sexual attraction: attraction that makes people desire sexual contact or shows sexual interest in another person(s) Romantic attraction: attraction that makes people desire romantic contact or interaction with another person(s) A-lack of attraction Bi-attraction toward one or more genders Hetero-attr action towards the gender opposite of oneself Homo-attraction towards the same gender as oneself tion toward all genders/"regardless of gender" But wait, there's more! Abro-fluctuates between different Gray-does not normally experience attraction, butmay experienceit sometimes under rare or specific circumstances, mayhaveno desire to act on attraction Placio-little to no desireto receive sexual/romantic acts but desires performing them on someone else Akoi-(or Lith-) experiences attraction, but doesn't wish for it to be acted on/reciprocated Apothi-sex-repulsed/romance- repulsed Autochoris-disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may enjoy pornbut feelsno desire toparticipate Poly- attraction tomultiple genders (butnot necessarily all genders) Quoi-not knowing where one fits on Cetero-attraction to only nonbinary the spectrum; or notidentifyingwith any of the existing labels Cupio-lack of attraction, but desires arelationship Recipro-Experiencing attraction only after realizing someone is Demi-attraction only after a bond hasbeen formed Requies-limited or no attraction/interest/activity due to some form of emotional exhaustiorn Fray-attraction fades after initially meeting someone Just add -sexual or -romantic to the end of these stems! homoflexible: primarily attracted to members of the same-sex but occasionally finds themselves attracted to the opposite sex heteroflexible: primarily attracted to the opposite sex but occasionally finds themselves attracted to the same-sex What's gender? Gender # Sex Sex is determined by genitalia, while gender is a social construct thatrefers to a person's experience of their identity. Gender identity is how a person thinks of their own gender within themselves. Gender is complex and goes way beyond just"male" and"female." Graygender: ambivalent about their gender identity/expression, butwho Agender: nogender/genderless dentifies atleast partially with a Alia/Aporagender: defines gender as other' or apart from existing genders Androgyne: identi fies as androgynous, gender-wise Bigender: twogenders, canidentif as both, or movebetween the two gender (defined or not) outside of he binary Intergender: in themiddle between the binary genders of female and male, and may beamix of both; intended for intersex people to use Cisgender: gender is same as sex they were assigned atbirth Demigender: feeling a partial, but not a full, connection to a particular Pangender: experiencing a wide variety of genders, may feel that they experience gendersbeyond their ability to describe or beyond thosewhich are currently recognized Polygender:'many genders; experiencemultiple gender identities, either simultaneously or varying between them gender identity (also called: demiboy, demigirl) Genderfluid: moves between genders, their gender isnot something that they or anyone can pin down and define Transgender: self-identity does not conform unambiguously to conventional notions of male or female gender Genderflux: Having a gender that varies inintensity or degree over time, related to but distinct from genderfluid Trigender: one shifts between or among the stereotypical behaviors of male, female, and a third gender thesinisstronginthisone: onepieceistruepain: mxcleod: mmikan: Here’s information about sexual/romantic orientations and gender identities that I put together! I..I don’t do graphic design, so this isn’t that great. Also, I’m very sorry if I missed your orientation or identity or got some information wrong. Sources: (1)(2)(3)(4)(5)(6) Flags: (1) Top photo: (1) I hope this helps some of you out! Oh god. I never realized!! I’m placiosexual. I’m so glad I found this!!!!! This is really important because I used to identify as ‘questioning/unlabelled’ with my sexuality because I never knew that I could identify as ‘Quoisexual’ (excuse me if the spelling is wrong) instead of spending all that time debating over pan and bi. I now identify as bi (two or more) but this could have really helped me earlier on and I hope it helps others identify themselves if they do wish. I think being able to give myself an official label whilst I wasn’t sure what I was would have been amazing because it’s so reassuring to know that there is a flag and everything.And I didn’t know there were that many genders!!!! I feel so happy now that I am more educated and that this exists to help and educate people!! Yay!

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onepieceistruepain: mxcleod: mmikan: Here’s information about sexual/romantic orientations and gender identities that I put together! I..I don’t do graphic design, so this isn’t that great. Also, I’m very sorry if I missed your orientation or identity or got some information wrong. Sources: (1)(2)(3)(4)(5)(6) Flags: (1) Top photo: (1) I hope this helps some of you out! Oh god. I never realized!! I’m placiosexual. I’m so glad I found this!!!!! This is really important because I used to identify as ‘questioning/unlabelled’ with my sexuality because I never knew that I could identify as ‘Quoisexual’ (excuse me if the spelling is wrong) instead of spending all that time debating over pan and bi. I now identify as bi (two or more) but this could have really helped me earlier on and I hope it helps others identify themselves if they do wish. I think being able to give myself an official label whilst I wasn’t sure what I was would have been amazing because it’s so reassuring to know that there is a flag and everything.And I didn’t know there were that many genders!!!! I feel so happy now that I am more educated and that this exists to help and educate people!! Yay!: ORIENTATION G GENDER IDENTITY Sexual attraction: attraction that makes people desire sexual contact or shows sexual interest in another person(s) Romantic attraction: attraction that makes people desire romantic contact or interaction with another person(s) A-lack of attraction Bi-attraction toward one or more genders Hetero-attr action towards the gender opposite of oneself Homo-attraction towards the same gender as oneself tion toward all genders/"regardless of gender" But wait, there's more! Abro-fluctuates between different Gray-does not normally experience attraction, butmay experienceit sometimes under rare or specific circumstances, mayhaveno desire to act on attraction Placio-little to no desireto receive sexual/romantic acts but desires performing them on someone else Akoi-(or Lith-) experiences attraction, but doesn't wish for it to be acted on/reciprocated Apothi-sex-repulsed/romance- repulsed Autochoris-disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may enjoy pornbut feelsno desire toparticipate Poly- attraction tomultiple genders (butnot necessarily all genders) Quoi-not knowing where one fits on Cetero-attraction to only nonbinary the spectrum; or notidentifyingwith any of the existing labels Cupio-lack of attraction, but desires arelationship Recipro-Experiencing attraction only after realizing someone is Demi-attraction only after a bond hasbeen formed Requies-limited or no attraction/interest/activity due to some form of emotional exhaustiorn Fray-attraction fades after initially meeting someone Just add -sexual or -romantic to the end of these stems! homoflexible: primarily attracted to members of the same-sex but occasionally finds themselves attracted to the opposite sex heteroflexible: primarily attracted to the opposite sex but occasionally finds themselves attracted to the same-sex What's gender? Gender # Sex Sex is determined by genitalia, while gender is a social construct thatrefers to a person's experience of their identity. Gender identity is how a person thinks of their own gender within themselves. Gender is complex and goes way beyond just"male" and"female." Graygender: ambivalent about their gender identity/expression, butwho Agender: nogender/genderless dentifies atleast partially with a Alia/Aporagender: defines gender as other' or apart from existing genders Androgyne: identi fies as androgynous, gender-wise Bigender: twogenders, canidentif as both, or movebetween the two gender (defined or not) outside of he binary Intergender: in themiddle between the binary genders of female and male, and may beamix of both; intended for intersex people to use Cisgender: gender is same as sex they were assigned atbirth Demigender: feeling a partial, but not a full, connection to a particular Pangender: experiencing a wide variety of genders, may feel that they experience gendersbeyond their ability to describe or beyond thosewhich are currently recognized Polygender:'many genders; experiencemultiple gender identities, either simultaneously or varying between them gender identity (also called: demiboy, demigirl) Genderfluid: moves between genders, their gender isnot something that they or anyone can pin down and define Transgender: self-identity does not conform unambiguously to conventional notions of male or female gender Genderflux: Having a gender that varies inintensity or degree over time, related to but distinct from genderfluid Trigender: one shifts between or among the stereotypical behaviors of male, female, and a third gender onepieceistruepain: mxcleod: mmikan: Here’s information about sexual/romantic orientations and gender identities that I put together! I..I don’t do graphic design, so this isn’t that great. Also, I’m very sorry if I missed your orientation or identity or got some information wrong. Sources: (1)(2)(3)(4)(5)(6) Flags: (1) Top photo: (1) I hope this helps some of you out! Oh god. I never realized!! I’m placiosexual. I’m so glad I found this!!!!! This is really important because I used to identify as ‘questioning/unlabelled’ with my sexuality because I never knew that I could identify as ‘Quoisexual’ (excuse me if the spelling is wrong) instead of spending all that time debating over pan and bi. I now identify as bi (two or more) but this could have really helped me earlier on and I hope it helps others identify themselves if they do wish. I think being able to give myself an official label whilst I wasn’t sure what I was would have been amazing because it’s so reassuring to know that there is a flag and everything.And I didn’t know there were that many genders!!!! I feel so happy now that I am more educated and that this exists to help and educate people!! Yay!

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onepieceistruepain: mxcleod: mmikan: Here’s information about sexual/romantic orientations and gender identities that I put together! I..I don’t do graphic design, so this isn’t that great. Also, I’m very sorry if I missed your orientation or identity or got some information wrong. Sources: (1)(2)(3)(4)(5)(6) Flags: (1) Top photo: (1) I hope this helps some of you out! Oh god. I never realized!! I’m placiosexual. I’m so glad I found this!!!!! : ORIENTATION G GENDER IDENTITY Sexual attraction: attraction that makes people desire sexual contact or shows sexual interest in another person(s) Romantic attraction: attraction that makes people desire romantic contact or interaction with another person(s) A-lack of attraction Bi-attraction toward one or more genders Hetero-attr action towards the gender opposite of oneself Homo-attraction towards the same gender as oneself tion toward all genders/"regardless of gender" But wait, there's more! Abro-fluctuates between different Gray-does not normally experience attraction, butmay experienceit sometimes under rare or specific circumstances, mayhaveno desire to act on attraction Placio-little to no desireto receive sexual/romantic acts but desires performing them on someone else Akoi-(or Lith-) experiences attraction, but doesn't wish for it to be acted on/reciprocated Apothi-sex-repulsed/romance- repulsed Autochoris-disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may enjoy pornbut feelsno desire toparticipate Poly- attraction tomultiple genders (butnot necessarily all genders) Quoi-not knowing where one fits on Cetero-attraction to only nonbinary the spectrum; or notidentifyingwith any of the existing labels Cupio-lack of attraction, but desires arelationship Recipro-Experiencing attraction only after realizing someone is Demi-attraction only after a bond hasbeen formed Requies-limited or no attraction/interest/activity due to some form of emotional exhaustiorn Fray-attraction fades after initially meeting someone Just add -sexual or -romantic to the end of these stems! homoflexible: primarily attracted to members of the same-sex but occasionally finds themselves attracted to the opposite sex heteroflexible: primarily attracted to the opposite sex but occasionally finds themselves attracted to the same-sex What's gender? Gender # Sex Sex is determined by genitalia, while gender is a social construct thatrefers to a person's experience of their identity. Gender identity is how a person thinks of their own gender within themselves. Gender is complex and goes way beyond just"male" and"female." Graygender: ambivalent about their gender identity/expression, butwho Agender: nogender/genderless dentifies atleast partially with a Alia/Aporagender: defines gender as other' or apart from existing genders Androgyne: identi fies as androgynous, gender-wise Bigender: twogenders, canidentif as both, or movebetween the two gender (defined or not) outside of he binary Intergender: in themiddle between the binary genders of female and male, and may beamix of both; intended for intersex people to use Cisgender: gender is same as sex they were assigned atbirth Demigender: feeling a partial, but not a full, connection to a particular Pangender: experiencing a wide variety of genders, may feel that they experience gendersbeyond their ability to describe or beyond thosewhich are currently recognized Polygender:'many genders; experiencemultiple gender identities, either simultaneously or varying between them gender identity (also called: demiboy, demigirl) Genderfluid: moves between genders, their gender isnot something that they or anyone can pin down and define Transgender: self-identity does not conform unambiguously to conventional notions of male or female gender Genderflux: Having a gender that varies inintensity or degree over time, related to but distinct from genderfluid Trigender: one shifts between or among the stereotypical behaviors of male, female, and a third gender onepieceistruepain: mxcleod: mmikan: Here’s information about sexual/romantic orientations and gender identities that I put together! I..I don’t do graphic design, so this isn’t that great. Also, I’m very sorry if I missed your orientation or identity or got some information wrong. Sources: (1)(2)(3)(4)(5)(6) Flags: (1) Top photo: (1) I hope this helps some of you out! Oh god. I never realized!! I’m placiosexual. I’m so glad I found this!!!!!

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