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Anaconda, Drunk, and Friends: Sprint Wi-Fi 2:25 PM Tweet tl saint lil rogue Retweeted Noob Saibot @Mommaafro So a woman's idea of being friends is being friends? Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me company...while I have sex with someone else." 9/14/17, 9:26 AM 115 Retweets 168 Likes Tweet your reply 2 astronomically-androngynous: sounddesignerjeans: princess-mint: alarajrogers: niambi: I’m???? Oh my God this actually explains so much. So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem. So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company. So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not. This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner.  So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists. The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers. The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend. y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it’s called agentic vs communal friendship theorized by Steven McCornack
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Abc, Girls, and Money: ooo Verizon 9:27 PM O 71%) a Search ABC News NEWS 5 hrs. 14-year-old Utah teen gives every girl in his school a Valentine's Day chocolate to let them know that they are "special and unique" after learning about high rates of depression in young teen girls. Utah teen gives chocolates to all 537 girls in school ABC News 16K Shares Like Comment share Write a comment... Post reachmouse: buttermilk-thegoat: Don’t read the comments on this article. The kid did it because he was learning about how teenage girls suffer from depression more than any other age group, and didn’t want any girls going home feeling sad on Valentine’s Day. Ofc half the comments are like “what an EPIC playa, bet he got some action after that hahaha” or “why do these special snowflakes need a handout like this” or “what kind of Richie Rich kid” (chocolate company donated the boxes after learning why he wanted so much) Like… why is humanity like this THIS BURNS MY BACON, LET ME SHARE WHY.  At the school where I work, we had a similar lovely Valentine’s moment:  One of our seniors bought hundreds of roses on Valentine’s Day. Every girl in every grade got one; there were enough left over for staff and extras for others who might want one. This is our library bouquet.  One year ago, our school lost a student to suicide. As Valentine’s Day was approaching, this sad anniversary was all our student body was talking about and remembering. This senior student decided to try to lift us up from that narrative, and literally fill the halls with flowers. The surprise was carried out flawlessly – even his own sister didn’t know what he was about to do.  I have rarely seen a happier school holiday.  I’ve seen EXACTLY those comments on social media about what happened with us, and about similar gestures from high school students. Lots of “spoiled kids with money”, lots of “this is just to get laid”.  I don’t think this diminishes my senior student or his gesture at all, but it diminishes us when good things happen and we turn around and reduce these moments to their most cynical interpretation. And that’s not even touching on what it says when people feel the need to belittle younger people for trying to do good; the kids can’t catch a break from some people. Can’t we take sweet things at face value the way we do all the darkness out there lately? 
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Drunk, Friends, and God: Sprint Wi-Fi 2:25 PM Tweet tl saint lil rogue Retweeted Noob Saibot @Mommaafro So a woman's idea of being friends is being friends? Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me company...while I have sex with someone else." 9/14/17, 9:26 AM 115 Retweets 168 Likes Tweet your reply 2 sounddesignerjeans: princess-mint: alarajrogers: niambi: I’m???? Oh my God this actually explains so much. So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem. So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company. So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not. This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner.  So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists. The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers. The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend. y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves
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Being Alone, Arguing, and Bitch: I do not understand this male privilege builshit What Fucking. Privleges. Do Men. Have.?27777 Name them.I swear, I challenge you to name these male privileges" and be able to prove them. Come on, I tucking dare you them! Oh boy well, as a man. I'll te you my male privilege 1. My odds of being hired for a job, when competing against female applicants, are probably skewed in my favor The more prestigious the job, the larger the odds are skewed I can be confident in the fact that my co-workers won't think that I was hired/promoted because of my sex- despite the fact that it's 2 true. 3, If I ever am promoted when a woman of my peers is better suited 4. If i ever fail at my job or career, it won't be seen as a blacklist 5I am tar less likely to face sexual harassment than my female peers. for the job, it is because of my sex. against 6. If i do the same task as a woman, and if the measurement is at all 7. If I am a teen or an adult, and I stay out of prison, my odds of 8 subjective, chances are people will think I did a better job low On average, I'm taught that walking alone after dark by myself is less than dangerous than it is for my female peers, 9 IfI choose not to have children, my masculinity will not be 10. It i do have children but i do not provide primary care for them, my 11. If I have children and I do care for them, I'll be praised even if my 12. IfI have children and a career, no one will think I'm selfish for not 13. If I seek political office, my relationship with my children or who masculinity will not be questioned. deem to take care of them will more often not be scrutinized by the press. 14. My elected representatives are mostly people of my own sex. The more prestigious the position, the more this is true 15. When I seek out "the person in charge", it is likely that they will be someone of my own sex. The higher the position, the more oftern 16. As a child, chances are I am encouraged to be more active and 17. As a child, I could choose from an almost infinite variety of children's media featuring positive, active, non-stereotyped heroes of my own sex. I never had to look for it; male protagonists were 18. As a child, chances are I got more teacher attention than giris who raised their hands just as often. 19. If my day, week or year is going badly, I need not ask of each negative episode or situation whether or not it has sexist overtones. (Nobody's going to ask if I'm upset because I'm 20 I ean turn on the television or glance at the front page of the newspaper and see peopie of my own sex widely represented. 21. It I'm careless with my financial atfairs it won't be attributed to my 22. If I'm careless with my driving it won't be attributed to my sex. 23. I can speak in public to a large group without putting my sex on trial 24. Even if I sleep with a lot of women, there is little to no chance that I will be seriously labeled a "slut." nor is there any male counterpart 25 I do not have to worry about the message my wardrobe sends 26 My clothing is typically less expensive and better-constructed than women's clothing for the same social status. While I have fewer options, my clothes will probably fit better than a woman's 27. The grooming regimen expected of me is relatively cheap and 28 It buy a new car, chances are I'll be offered a better price than a woman buying the same car. The same goes for other expensive 29 If 'm not conventionaly attractive, the disadvantages are relatively 30 I can be loud with no fear of being called a shrew. I can be 31. I can ask for legal protection from violence that happens mostly to small and easy to ignore aggressive with no fear of being called a bitch. men without being seen as a selfish special interest, since that kind of violence is called crime and is a general social concen. (Molence that happens mosty to women is usually called "domestic violence" or “acquaintance rape," and is seen as a 32 I can be contident that the ordinary language of day-to-day existence wil always include my sex. “All men are created equal," mailman, chairman, freshman, he 33. My ability to make important decisions and my capability in general will never be questioned depending on what time of the 34. I will never be expected to change my name upon marriage or 35. The decision to hire me will not be based on assumptions about 36 Every major religion in the world is led primarily by people of my 37. Most major religions argue that I should be the head of my questioned if I don't change my name. whether or not I might choose to have a family sometime soon. own sex. Even God, in most major religions, is pictured as male household, while my wite and children should be subservient to 38 It I have a wite or live-in girifriend, chances are we'll divide up household chores so that she does most of the labor, and in asks 39. If I have children with my girlfriend or wife, I can expect her to do most of the basic childcare such as changing diapers and feeding. 40. If I have children with my wife or girlfriend, and it turns out that one of us needs to make career sacrifices to raise the kids, chances are we'll both assume the career sacrificed should be hers. 41, Assuming Iam heterosexual, magazines, billboards, television, movies, pomography, and virtualily all of media is filled with images of scantily-clad women intended to appeal to me sexually. Such n exist, but are rarer. 42 In general, I am under much less pressure to be thin than my female counterparts are. If I am over-weight, I probably suffer fewer social and economic consequences for being fat than over-weight 43. If I am heterosexual, it's incredibly unlikely that I'll ever be beaten 44. Complete strangers generally do not walk up to me on the street 45 Sexual harassment on the street virtually never happens to me. I up by a spouse or lover and tell me to "smile." do not need to plot my movements through public space in order to avoid being sexually harassed, or to mitigate sexual 46. On average, I am not interrupted by women as often as women are interru 47. On average, I will have the privilege of not knowing about my male And lastly, I am taken as a more credible feminist than my female peers, despite the fact that the feminist movement is not liberating to my sex THIS. THIS IS HOW YOU BE A MALE FEMINIST 297,700 notes Male Privilege
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Being Alone, Crazy, and Facebook: A mother-of-two suffering from postpartum depression has posed for a powerful photoshoot featuring two vastly different parenting scenarios to show what it is really like to live with the mood disorder Kathy DiVincenzo with Paul DiVincenzo and Danielle Fantis May 2 at 7-27am- Chances are, you're feeling pretty uncomfortable right now (trust me I am too). I'm going to challenge you to push past the discomfort soclety has placed on postpartum mental illness and hear me out May has been declared Postpartum Depression Awareness Month and as someone with diagnosed postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD I feel like it's time to show you what that can really look like, not just the side of me that's Facebook worthy The truth is, both of these pictures represent my life depending on the day. I would only ever comfortably share one of these realities though and that's the problem. The only thing more exhausting than having these conditions is pretending daily that I don't. I work twice as hard to hide this reality from you because I'm afraid to make you uncomfortable. I'm afraid you'll think I'm weak, crazy, a terrible mother, or the other million things my mind convinces me of and I know Im not alone in those thoughts. We need to stop assuming that the postpartum period is always euphoric, because for 1 in 7 it's not. We need to start asking new parents how they're doing in a deeper way than the normal, "so how are you doing? that triggers the knee jerk, "everything's greatl" response. We need to learn the signs, symptoms, risk factors, and support plans for postpartum conditions. We need to break the stigma and BEndTheSilence by sharing our stories and letting others know theyre not alone. If you have had a postpartum mood disorder please share your story below, or simply postto show you can relate. Let's show athers that they don't have to suffer in silence n case no one has told you, you're doing an amazing job. You are loved and you are worthy. You're nat alone. Information to local and national support will be in the comment section. I know how unbel ievably hard it is to reach out, but I promise you it is worth it. YOU'RE worth it Thank you to my close friend Danielle from Danielle Fantis Photography, a fellow mom that struggled with ppd, for capturing these images for me and encouraging me to share them with you. She encouraged other women who have dealt with postpartum depression to share their stories. Many did Lauren Fisher So very true and such a serious topic that needs to be out in the open more! I struggled with both postpartum depression and anxiety. I'm lucky to have a great support system of family, friends and doctors that helped me through it. I pray all those that experience it don't suffer in silence. Like Reply 1 Yesterday at 12:10pm Charly Higson I feel like this most days, suffered with ppd with my 1st and still suffering a year later with my 2nd child. X Like Reply 21 hrs Grace Cenita nobody would understand postpartum even your husband doesn't know about it! Thanks for your bravery. Count me in, im one of the others Like Reply 1 Yesterday at 12:16pm Edited Stephanie Creasey Thank you, so much for sharing this. I was fortunate enough not to have ppd,but I do have OCD and as a new mom, I've struggled daily with making sure everything is always picture perfect. You are strong, you are oved and you are doing a great job! Don't let your inner demons win. Like Reply 1 Yesterday at 9:44am Now go find a mom in your life, and ask her "how are you? No, how are you really? And then listen. Mom goes viral with photos showing what life with postpartum depression actually looks like.

Mom goes viral with photos showing what life with postpartum depression actually looks like.

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