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Advice, Anna, and Dad: You're the mother, he's That's not what l've been told but... the father. He has as much right to take that child as you do. ns Well, if you've gotten different advice, you Okay. were mistaken. ..including judges and probation officers, who still don't get that message... In this country, fathers are not second-class citizens. I know there are a lot of people out there... ...but fathers are not Not always. Sometimes second-class citizens. it's 50-50 but it's a Sometimes they're actually better parents. case-by-case basis. But anybody that says.it's not yours. It's both to me 'he can't take my of yours. You made her daughter with him... together. gaylibertariansc: queer-anna: matriarchyforeveryone: michaelam1978: I love this! Judge Judy schools a naïve and obviously disappointed mom who thinks dad doesn’t have any right to their child. The mother carried that girl nine months in her stomach and then pushed her out of her body. No, the father does NOT have even remotely the same rights to the child as the mother! My mother carried me for nine months in her stomach and then pushed me out of her body. My mother also got drunk and refused to feed me or my three siblings and forced my oldest brother to cook for us while she was passed-out drunk on the couch. My father has fought for us for as long as I can remember, while my mother was busy getting drinking straight-vodka and brainwashing us to think my father was the evil one. I nearly starved at age 6 because my mother was too drunk to cook half of the time. I had to dress my 4 year old sister for school, at age six. I had to walk in heavy snow at age 6 with my 4 year old sister to a bus stop to ride to school. My father has fought a long, long time to get custody of us. He deeply loves us. My mother has never, ever done anything like that. She has never nursed me when I had the flu, or kissed me goodnight, or told me she loved me. She has never taught me how to tie my shoes, or how to brush my hair, or how to take care of myself. Yes, my mother carried me, and three other kids, to term and successfully gave birth, but only has my father put 100% of his life into something that should require two people to do. Still a good one
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Children, College, and Confidence: Maya's Homework 5:32 PM (9 minutes ago) Bunmi Laditan to Hello Maya's teachers, Maya will be drastically reducing the amount of homework she does this year. She's been very stressed and is starting to have physical symptoms such as chest pain and waking up at 4AM worrying about her school workload. She's not behind academically and very much enjoys school. We've consulted with a tutor and a therapist suggested we lighten her workload. Doing 2-3 hours of homework after getting home at 4:30 is leaving little time for her to just be a child and enjoy family time and we'd like to avoid her sinking into a depression over this. Thank you for understanding. warmly, Bunmi vaporwavevocap: ryttu3k: darkwizardjamesmason: dienaziscum: fishcustardandclintbarton: huffingtonpost: Mom declares her daughter is done with homework in viral email. Blogger Bunmi Laditan sent her 10-year-old’s school a clear message. “Hello Maya’s teachers, Maya will be drastically reducing the amount of homework she does this year. She’s been very stressed and is starting to have physical symptoms such as chest pain and waking up at 4 a.m. worrying about her school workload. She’s not behind academically and very much enjoys school. We consulted with a tutor and a therapist suggested we lighten her workload. Doing 2-3 hours of homework after getting home at 4:30 is leaving little time for her to just be a child and enjoy family time and we’d like to avoid her sinking into a depression over this.” A++++ parenting 💜 I’ve talked with a whole cadre of child therapists and psychiatrists about this very issue. There is little conclusive evidence that homework significantly improves elementary school children’s grades, understanding of subjects, or facility with various operations, processes, etc. However, plenty of evidence suggests that ever-increasing amounts of homework for young children lead to stress, anxiety, emotional fatigue, resistance toward academics in general, lack of leisure time to build social/interpersonal skills, and poorer family relations.  (My kids were doing about 3 hours a week IN KINDERGARTEN, at age 5 – so that’s ½ hour every night, after a 6.5 hour school day, or else saving it up for long slogs over the weekend, even more disruptive. And that wasn’t including reading practice!) We have stopped doing homework altogether with my 7 year old as a result of severe anxiety/depression and a learning disability. She had gotten to a place where she had so little self confidence and truly believed that she was stupid and worthless, not just because of homework of course – but every time we tried to sit down to do homework with her, it’d end in tears with her really vehemently berating herself, and no amount of encouragement could ameliorate the damage done. Now, granted, she’s got other things going on besides just an overload of school work. But in NO WAY did the homework help her, either academically or emotionally.  No little kid should have to spend an hour or more each night getting through homework. Now, my deal with Siena is that if she wants to give her homework a shot, I will absolutely help her if she wishes for help, but I no longer force her to complete all of it or to work on it for some set length of time before finally throwing in the towel.  Guess what? With the pressure taken off, she’s actually doing MORE independent work now, purely out of the desire to learn and practice, than she ever was before we’d decided with her therapy team and school that homework was just not a thing this kid could handle. Luckily for my older daughter my school’s 3rd-grade team decided to hand out homework only 3x/week, and the sheets take no more than 15-20 minutes to complete. That is totally reasonable for 8-9 year olds!  Anyway tl;dr just because the school system may require it sure as shit doesn’t mean parents can’t, or shouldn’t, fight it. Do what’s right for your kid, and above all, let them be kids.  I eventually stopped doing homework because I was overwhelmed by it. There was an article just the other day in the local paper about a primary school that’s abolishing homework! You can read it here (autoplay video, gives you a few seconds to stop it). Homework is intrusive in a young child’s life. It makes sense for adults who will likely have to bring work home with them so in college it’s good training. But for young kids. No. Seriously I’m 100% on board with this. There are high school students expected to do three or four hours and beyond worth of homework every day. It’s fucking ridiculous. And I work in elementary school where we literally have little kids develop anxiety disorder and have panic attacks over homework and testing. This shit is not normal.
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Ass, Children, and Doctor: y Camille Echols added 2 new photos. 22 June at 07:45 I've been relatively quiet on social media about the "Anti-vax" movement. I've seen smart-ass memes saying "why would my unvaccinated kids be a threat to your vaccinated kids if you're so sure they work?" THIS is why. There are people who cannot have live vaccines, like my daughter, who had a kidney transplant when she was 2 years old. She got one varicella vaccine but couldn't get the second because she was immunosuppressed and instead of developing immunity, she would have contracted the virus. She was exposed to a child with chickenpox this weekend and now we are in the ER. She's getting labwork, injections of immunoglobulin and then we have to wait to see what the infectious disease doctor says. The incubation period of chicken pox is 7-21 days. So even with all we are doing, she could still become sick in the next 3 weeks. And that would mean an automatic admission to the hospital for IV antiviral meds. She could become very, very sick from this. Please, if you are someone who believes your child will get autism from vaccines, PLEASE educate yourself. There isn't a single peer reviewed study that came to that conclusion. And the people choosing to skip vaccinations put children like my daughter at risk. She has been through SO much already. And this was avoidable. Let me address the recurring questions: I contacted her transplant nephrologist regarding her exposure, who in turn consulted with the infectious disease team at Children's Healthcare of Atlanta and their solid organ transplant PharmD. recommendation that I take Ashley to the ER to receive VZIG, which costs approx $5k and cannot be given outpatient. was the team's Titers were drawn prior to giving her VZIG. I never claimed that the child with chicken pox was not vaccinated. That is irrelevant. The resurgence of chicken pox, whooping cough, measles and other diseases that were nearly eradicated years ago is a direct result of a large percentage of the population deciding not to vaccinate their children without sound research the support that decision. As for those telling me to "educate myself," I am a pediatric RN with over 10 years' experience in transplant and chronic llness populations. I have had extensive education regarding vaccinations. I would not post about something I was ignorant about. Those saying "it's just chicken pox, she won't die," please educate yourselves on transplant recipients. There are millions of people waiting for life saving organs. With those numbers, the odds are good that someone in your life has been affected by organ failure. Mom gets real in Facebook post about why the anti-vaxxer movement is so dangerous for her daughter.

Mom gets real in Facebook post about why the anti-vaxxer movement is so dangerous for her daughter.

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Carrie Fisher, Tumblr, and Blog: ৯৯ thefilmstage:R.I.P. Debbie Reynolds, who has passed away at the age of 84 – one day after her daughter Carrie Fisher died.

thefilmstage:R.I.P. Debbie Reynolds, who has passed away at the age of 84 – one day after her daughter Carrie Fisher died.

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Click, Crime, and Definitely: 50 $hadesOfRae @ThugLifeRae She Set Her Husband On Fire For Raping Her 7 Year Old Daughter. aeonwoman: ironfoxe: littleblackmanifesto: yungblkfeminist: crime-she-typed: pinkcookiedimples: gtf-o-m-d: ivanabrehas: angerylesbian: hypnictwitch: “[Vanessa Jackson] admitted to police that she intentionally set him on fire because shooting him would have been ‘too nice’.” a true american hero Her name is not Vanessa Jackson, it’s Tatanysha Hedman.  This is also not her mugshot. This is the mugshot of a Tulsa woman who was driving without a license. Lots of websites have replaced this fake mugshot with yet another fake mugshot… I have no clue why this is a thing, but this is what Tatanysha actually looks like: Here’s a link to a news article about her. http://www.news.com.au/world/wife-tatanysha-hedman-set-husband-vincent-phillips-on-fire-after-he-allegedly-molested-his-stepdaughter/news-story/40fe90869e273c68d24d9dd053482e48 She is a true American hero, I just don’t understand why her picture and name were changed. (Not the fault of the people posting it, I’m sure they didn’t know either.) FREE HER They wanted to portray that “Crazy Black Woman” character I’m sure. Why do they punish women for protecting their own?!?!!!??? Damn I didn’t know Finally the version with the correct info. Does anyone know if she has a go fund me or a way to support her/her daughter? Her GoFundMe page is here. she only has $30 raised so far. i’m so glad the correct information was posted. the website that posted the fake info is definitely a racist click-bait “satire” site. the site also has articles about blm members dismembering white women on it, so this picture was not made in good faith.

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Advice, Bad, and Books: angelwingsandhunterfreckles: saepphire: majormitchmajor: kayquimi: ceruleanrabbitking: doctor-john: the-cosmic-life: I BET THAT IF TWO KIDS LIVED IN THOSE TWO HOUSES THAT THEY WOULD COME OUT ON THEIR ALMOST CONJOINING ROOFS OUTSIDE THEIR BEDROOM WINDOWS AND TALK AND BE BEST FRIENDS AND FALL IN LOVE. I will not write fluff to that. I won’t. No. LUCY I FOUND IT But what if instead of two kids, it was, say, a kid and an old woman? And at first they just ignore each other and keep their blinds down and curtains shut, but then the kid climbs out onto the roof one spring morning to get a frisbee and she’s got the window open bc it’s so nice out and she tells him to cut that out, it’s not a jungle gym and maybe the kid shows off a bit and nearly falls, and the old woman catches his arm…. anyway, so sometimes they leave the windows open and the kid’ll show off his comic books or asks what rhymes with ‘beautiful’ (and it’s totally for homework shut up), and the old woman tells him about all the protests and marches she took part in, and asks him the name of that one cute pop star (it’s absolutely for her crossword now shush). And the old woman gives the kid relationship advice, and doesn’t tell when he tries a bit too much of his parents’ liquor cabinet one time, and the kid comes over and shows her how to use the smartphone her daughter bought for her, and doesn’t tell when she sneaks a cigarrette out of said daughter’s bag. And when the weather’s too bad to open the windows, they tape silly pictures or notes to the glass for the other to see (the kid makes sure to make his extra big so she doesn’t have to admit her eyeight isn’t what it used to be), and when it is nice the kid will sneak over and leave seashells on her windowsill, because the old woman said once she misses the sea, but she can’t travel like she used to. And one day he peeks in her window and sees her on the floor, and calls 911 and basically saves her life because she had a stroke and nobody would’ve known in time otherwise. And when she finally gets back from the hospital, just for a while because her daughter’s talking about a retirement home where she’ll have plenty of medical care and lots of friends her age, the kid comes through the window and then pulls another kid through the window who he introduces as his boyfriend, and says he wanted her to meet him. And she sniffs and interrogates the boyfriend in proper elderly relative fashion, and then declares him worthy of her boy— barely. And when she finally does have to go to that retirement home, the kid still comes to visit her, and always leaves seashells on the windowsill. sending this around again because of reasons. + oh my god

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Books, Children, and Definitely: Metro @MetroUK # t.L Follow Pregnant woman completes her psychology exam while in labour trib.al/fhxzJd4 mymindinaclusterfuck: thoughtsof-r: danielle-mertina: march27thoughts: blackademics: the-freckled-feminist: writingjenna: hermionxjean: 56blogsstillcrazy: Black women something amazing Okay, but what professor was such an asshole that they wouldn’t let a woman in labor do a makeup exam? You know someone said some shit and she felt like she HAD to do that exam, labor or no. OK true story from one of my professors: She got pregnant while getting her PhD. Not planned, but it would work out that she would do her lit review (where she had a massive list of books she had to spend two hours talking about) a month before her baby was due. Plenty of time, right? Well, her daughter came a month early. On the day that she scheduled her lit review. So she’s in labor with a baby that’s four weeks early, she calls up her male professors that are going to be doing her lit review, and they say that squeezing a human being out of your vagina isn’t a good enough reason to cancel. She can’t reschedule, they’ll just fail her. And my professor will have none of that. They agree to have the lit review at the hospital, but they kick out all nurses and doctors because you can’t have anyone else in the room. (like the nurses are really going to be secret undercover English professors who will whisper to her answers about Virginia Woolf). So for two hours while my professor was in labor, these male professors are hounding her about early 20th century British literature and the nurses are just about losing it and as soon as it’s finish they rush back in to make sure everything is okay. And the best part of it is that my professor was so focused, so determined to pass and not let her 5 years of work end in a failure, that she says she didn’t feel any pain for those two hours. WHILE IN LABOR. Fucking men. Seriously. YOU CAN’T TELL ME NOTHING BLACK WOMEN ARE JUST SUPERHEROES this is so unfair!!! she should sue them!!!!!!!!!!!!!! These are definitely amazing women but these situations shouldn’t even have happened. It’s so misogynist how inhospitable higher ed is to mothers. Whereas fathers don’t suffer anywhere near these consequences for having children while in school. GIVING BIRTH IS NOT A GOOD ENOUGH REASON>????CZVNJAKNKNJADMF Both the ridiculousness of the men and this woman’s constitution are something else
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