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Anaconda, Drunk, and Friends: Sprint Wi-Fi 2:25 PM Tweet tl saint lil rogue Retweeted Noob Saibot @Mommaafro So a woman's idea of being friends is being friends? Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me company...while I have sex with someone else." 9/14/17, 9:26 AM 115 Retweets 168 Likes Tweet your reply 2 astronomically-androngynous: sounddesignerjeans: princess-mint: alarajrogers: niambi: I’m???? Oh my God this actually explains so much. So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem. So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company. So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not. This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner.  So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists. The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers. The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend. y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it’s called agentic vs communal friendship theorized by Steven McCornack
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Anaconda, Bad, and Click: r/AskReddit 7h Men of reddit; what is the one thing you wish girls did in bed that they never do? NSFW 112.2k 7.9k L Share haiku-robot: ifcrueltyhadaname: rooftopasian: its-bewitched: the-darkest-of-souls: robb-greyjoy: thekutestkillua: comcastkills: lesbianrey: if you click to open this thread you die in real life predicted answer: “have sex with me” I read this thread and it’s surprisingly wholesome. Lots of guys either wanting to be the little spoon, making jokes about blanket hogging, or wanting their girlfriends to say what they like so that they can pleasure them more. Tbh I’m starting to think most of tumblr seriously lack any serious interaction with men, and not only sexual but to a platonic/friendship level. I don’t mean to attack anyone but how come all this people decided men would think something pervert and rapey? How come people who actually checked were so surprised that men wanted something humanly acceptable and maybe even *gasps* cute? I am serious in this question: did you ever had male friends? Because this thread to me was the LEAST surprising thing on earth. In HS, having been a butch lesbian and having had a ton of male friends, the typical sex questions were “hey, can you tell me how to mae her feel good?” or “hey, how do I tell if she likes it?” or “do I sound clingy/pathetic if I want cuddles after?”. Boyfriends worry about their girlfriends pleasure, their happiness and what they think of sex. They do. And when they don’t do much to pleasure them, most of the time is because they are inexperienced. Women do have a problem with communicating their desire, nobody denies that it’s also society’s fault but if you don’t ask stuff you can’t get surprised you don’t get it and out there it’s full of men wanting to do things with respect and to make their girlfriends happy.  Boys are WHOLESOME. As girls are. People are wholesome and nice and vulnerable and in strive for good things for them and others. And even those who made sexual comments like “blowjobs” or “more boob stuff”…. why is it bad? It’s a NSFW thread???? It’s the space to talk about that. Would you have the same reaction if in their matching thread women said they want their boyfriends to go down on them more? Or if they said they’d like him to touch them in different zones? Would you have complained if women said it of their girlfriends? Then why shaming boys? Having needs both sexual and emotional is natural, the important is not force them on people who don’t feel like that and these men didn’t (which is why the thread exists in first place). Men have emotional needs too and pretending they don’t and buying into the “all men think about is sex” and “ah men are all rapey and dirty” is sexism, not only towards men but because it implies that women are purer than them which leads to the HolyMary kinda misoginy that denies women their need to physical pleasure. Also let’s stop pretending sex is inherently dirty and bad. Sex is fun, as long as it’s consensual. But yeah I agree with op, I did die opening it, OUT OF THE CUTENESS THAT SPILLED FROM IT. Ok yeah that was cute Aw I want this. posts with bad vibes being turned into more comfy things like this are why i still browse this site The cuteness of men is, as always, ignored and taken for granted. the cuteness of men is as always ignored and taken for granted ^Haiku^bot^9. I detect haikus with 5-7-5 format. Sometimes I make mistakes.I’m less annoying than Windows® 10 update notificiations ♥‿♥ | PayPal | Patreon
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Anaconda, Bad, and Click: r/AskReddit 7h Men of reddit; what is the one thing you wish girls did in bed that they never do? NSFW 112.2k 7.9k L Share <p><a href="https://haiku-robot.tumblr.com/post/176289997978/ifcrueltyhadaname-rooftopasian" class="tumblr_blog">haiku-robot</a>:</p><blockquote> <p><a href="http://ifcrueltyhadaname.tumblr.com/post/166318439908/rooftopasian-its-bewitched" class="tumblr_blog">ifcrueltyhadaname</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="http://rooftopasian.tumblr.com/post/166204474938/its-bewitched-the-darkest-of-souls" class="tumblr_blog">rooftopasian</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="http://its-bewitched.tumblr.com/post/166190733616/the-darkest-of-souls-robb-greyjoy" class="tumblr_blog">its-bewitched</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="http://the-darkest-of-souls.tumblr.com/post/166190634040/robb-greyjoy-thekutestkillua-comcastkills" class="tumblr_blog">the-darkest-of-souls</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="http://robb-greyjoy.tumblr.com/post/166181804786/thekutestkillua-comcastkills-lesbianrey-if" class="tumblr_blog">robb-greyjoy</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="http://thekutestkillua.tumblr.com/post/165983043842/comcastkills-lesbianrey-if-you-click-to-open" class="tumblr_blog">thekutestkillua</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="http://comcastkills.tumblr.com/post/165982959857/lesbianrey-if-you-click-to-open-this-thread-you" class="tumblr_blog">comcastkills</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="http://lesbianrey.tumblr.com/post/165976087800/if-you-click-to-open-this-thread-you-die-in-real" class="tumblr_blog">lesbianrey</a>:</p> <blockquote><p>if you click to open this thread you die in real life</p></blockquote> <p>predicted answer: “have sex with me”</p> </blockquote> <p>I read this thread and it’s surprisingly wholesome. Lots of guys either wanting to be the little spoon, making jokes about blanket hogging, or wanting their girlfriends to say what they like so that they can pleasure them more. <br/></p> </blockquote> <p>Tbh I’m starting to think most of tumblr seriously lack any serious interaction with men, and not only sexual but to a platonic/friendship level.</p> <p><i>I don’t mean to attack anyone but how come all this people decided men would think something pervert and rapey? </i>How come people who actually checked were so surprised that men wanted something humanly acceptable and maybe even *gasps* cute?</p> <p><i>I am serious in this question: did you ever had male friends?</i> Because <b>this thread to me was the LEAST surprising thing on earth.</b></p> <p>In HS, having been a butch lesbian and having had a ton of male friends, the typical sex questions were “hey, can you tell me how to mae her feel good?” or “hey, how do I tell if she likes it?” or “do I sound clingy/pathetic if I want cuddles after?”. <b>Boyfriends worry about their girlfriends pleasure, their happiness and what they think of sex. They do</b>. And when they don’t do much to pleasure them, most of the time is because they are inexperienced. Women do have a problem with communicating their desire, nobody denies that it’s also society’s fault but if you don’t ask stuff you can’t get surprised you don’t get it and out there it’s full of men wanting to do things with respect and to make their girlfriends happy. </p> <p><b>Boys are WHOLESOME. As girls are. People are wholesome</b> and nice and vulnerable and in strive for good things for them and others.</p> <p><b>And even those who made sexual comments like “blowjobs” or “more boob stuff”…. why is it bad? It’s a NSFW thread???? </b>It’s the space to talk about that. <b>Would you have the same reaction if in their matching thread women said they want their boyfriends to go down on them more?</b> Or if they said they’d like him to touch them in different zones? Would you have complained if women said it of their girlfriends? Then why shaming boys?</p> <p><b>Having needs both sexual and emotional is natural, the important is not force them on people who don’t feel like that and these men didn’t (which is why the thread exists in first place).</b></p> <p>Men have emotional needs too and pretending they don’t and buying into the “all men think about is sex” and “ah men are all rapey and dirty” is sexism, not only towards men but because it implies that women are purer than them which leads to the HolyMary kinda misoginy that denies women their need to physical pleasure.</p> <p><b>Also let’s stop pretending sex is inherently dirty and bad.</b> Sex is fun, as long as it’s consensual.</p> <figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="311" data-orig-width="700"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/9657710e406c7223d524f54197a13421/tumblr_inline_oxiglvhowd1tbrwut_540.png" data-orig-height="311" data-orig-width="700"/></figure><figure data-orig-height="54" data-orig-width="265"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/fa8598213ec371e859e21392a64f6176/tumblr_inline_oxiglvoMk61tbrwut_540.png" data-orig-height="54" data-orig-width="265"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="90" data-orig-width="842"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/60c9960fcc615e013e90115d37288118/tumblr_inline_oxiglzf6091tbrwut_540.png" data-orig-height="90" data-orig-width="842"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="123" data-orig-width="699"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/d07e757deaa7118a1812c887bf081736/tumblr_inline_oxiglzHXzS1tbrwut_540.png" data-orig-height="123" data-orig-width="699"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="181" data-orig-width="711"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/560f6955a16b13e61e58ed56255aa1f4/tumblr_inline_oxigm0wAiS1tbrwut_540.png" data-orig-height="181" data-orig-width="711"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="361" data-orig-width="730"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/90e1532b4527c226f06160c1785ac662/tumblr_inline_oxigm0DlVB1tbrwut_540.png" data-orig-height="361" data-orig-width="730"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="76" data-orig-width="501"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/6f7f2c2523a2f4f84f12c6d2ae6d80bc/tumblr_inline_oxigm1lnAK1tbrwut_540.png" data-orig-height="76" data-orig-width="501"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="422" data-orig-width="740"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/328cb50e82c6ca0440c22df66eaec499/tumblr_inline_oxigm1zgEd1tbrwut_540.png" data-orig-height="422" data-orig-width="740"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="92" data-orig-width="713"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/e6b2df9dde94b89512f02af2858aecba/tumblr_inline_oxigm2jXy91tbrwut_540.png" data-orig-height="92" data-orig-width="713"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="175" data-orig-width="688"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/fcbce9c56bf867edc1fa8dc6d2120b21/tumblr_inline_oxigm2QNPD1tbrwut_540.png" data-orig-height="175" data-orig-width="688"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="256" data-orig-width="342"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/2fb53eaa6373dc3c41223b59509317e6/tumblr_inline_oxigm32HMD1tbrwut_540.png" data-orig-height="256" data-orig-width="342"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="100" data-orig-width="623"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/f795cda2fe335f7a4222e269b147f490/tumblr_inline_oxigm3Qs9M1tbrwut_540.png" data-orig-height="100" data-orig-width="623"/></figure><p>But yeah I agree with op, I did die opening it, OUT OF THE CUTENESS THAT SPILLED FROM IT.</p> </blockquote> <p>Ok yeah that was cute </p> </blockquote> <p>Aw I want this.</p> </blockquote> <p>posts with bad vibes being turned into more comfy things like this are why i still browse this site</p> </blockquote> <p>The cuteness of men is, as always, ignored and taken for granted.</p> </blockquote> <i>the cuteness of <br/><br/>men is as always ignored <br/><br/>and taken for granted </i><br/><hr><br/><small>^Haiku<sup>^bot<sup>^9. <sup>I detect haikus with 5-7-5 format. <sup>Sometimes I make mistakes.</sup></sup></sup></sup><br/><br/>I’m less annoying than Windows® 10 update notificiations ♥‿♥ | <a href="http://paypal.me/HaikuRobot/2">PayPal</a> | <a href="https://www.patreon.com/haikurobot">Patreon</a> </small> </blockquote>
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Anaconda, Drunk, and Fall: So a woman's idea of being friends is A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is Hey listen to all my problems and keep me niambi ers Oh my God this actually explains so much. So there's a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have- you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subject s but rarely involves actually on about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can't get emotional support unless you're drunk, you have a problem. So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women's friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can't lean on her when you're weak, she's not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company. So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That's what a romantic partner does. But women think that's what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not. This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support they don't die when widowed at nearly the rate that wid- owers die and they don't suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don't put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn't manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can't reach out to male friends for basic friendship I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It's emotional, it's important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn't have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can't share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can't get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the worlid owes them the love of a woman, like it's a commodity... because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can't share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply miS The only way to fix this is to teach boys it's okay to love your friends. It's okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It's okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved so men, this one's on you. Women can't fix this for you; you don't listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers. The next time a guy says, "What? You don't want to be my friend?" I'll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend. fall-out-man Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it's called Friend vs Friendzone
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Crime, Friends, and Head: thehumon it has come to my attention that most people don't know this about Simon Pegg and Nick Frost and that's a goddamn crime against humanity Back when they were young and poor they had to share a single person bed for six months. As Pegg put it, they started out sleeping head to feet, but after kicking each other in the face one too many times they started sleeping head to head. It wasn't long after that that they gave up on being macho no touchy dudes and just snuggled up during bedtime. In the moming they "couldn't tell where one began and the other ended That's why they're so cuddly today. They're so physically close that it worried Frost's fiance at the time and she asked them to never share a bed again after she got married to Frost. The night before the wedding Frost wasn't allowed to see her anyway, so Pegg dropped by his house so they could share a bed one last time (Frost since got a divorce though). Pegg's wife has no objections to any of this. If its important to her hubby, who is she to judge. Pegg recommend all male friends to try sharing a bed. If it turns out you want to fuck each other, great, you're going to have a lot of fun. If you don't want to fuck each other, well, then nothing happens anyway Side note. That's also why there's so many photos of Edgar Wright cuddling up to various guys. He learned that from Pegg and Frost. They created a cuddle monster that can't be stopped) <p>Cuddle buddies via /r/wholesomememes <a href="http://ift.tt/2AX4vC6">http://ift.tt/2AX4vC6</a></p>
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Anaconda, Bad, and Click: r/AskReddit 7h Men of reddit; what is the one thing you wish girls did in bed that they never do? NSFW 112.2k 7.9k L Share mama-germany: tamhonks: its-bewitched: the-darkest-of-souls: robb-greyjoy: thekutestkillua: comcastkills: lesbianrey: if you click to open this thread you die in real life predicted answer: “have sex with me” I read this thread and it’s surprisingly wholesome. Lots of guys either wanting to be the little spoon, making jokes about blanket hogging, or wanting their girlfriends to say what they like so that they can pleasure them more. Tbh I’m starting to think most of tumblr seriously lack any serious interaction with men, and not only sexual but to a platonic/friendship level. I don’t mean to attack anyone but how come all this people decided men would think something pervert and rapey? How come people who actually checked were so surprised that men wanted something humanly acceptable and maybe even *gasps* cute? I am serious in this question: did you ever had male friends? Because this thread to me was the LEAST surprising thing on earth. In HS, having been a butch lesbian and having had a ton of male friends, the typical sex questions were “hey, can you tell me how to mae her feel good?” or “hey, how do I tell if she likes it?” or “do I sound clingy/pathetic if I want cuddles after?”. Boyfriends worry about their girlfriends pleasure, their happiness and what they think of sex. They do. And when they don’t do much to pleasure them, most of the time is because they are inexperienced. Women do have a problem with communicating their desire, nobody denies that it’s also society’s fault but if you don’t ask stuff you can’t get surprised you don’t get it and out there it’s full of men wanting to do things with respect and to make their girlfriends happy.  Boys are WHOLESOME. As girls are. People are wholesome and nice and vulnerable and in strive for good things for them and others. And even those who made sexual comments like “blowjobs” or “more boob stuff”…. why is it bad? It’s a NSFW thread???? It’s the space to talk about that. Would you have the same reaction if in their matching thread women said they want their boyfriends to go down on them more? Or if they said they’d like him to touch them in different zones? Would you have complained if women said it of their girlfriends? Then why shaming boys? Having needs both sexual and emotional is natural, the important is not force them on people who don’t feel like that and these men didn’t (which is why the thread exists in first place). Men have emotional needs too and pretending they don’t and buying into the “all men think about is sex” and “ah men are all rapey and dirty” is sexism, not only towards men but because it implies that women are purer than them which leads to the HolyMary kinda misoginy that denies women their need to physical pleasure. Also let’s stop pretending sex is inherently dirty and bad. Sex is fun, as long as it’s consensual. But yeah I agree with op, I did die opening it, OUT OF THE CUTENESS THAT SPILLED FROM IT. Ok yeah that was cute Aw I want this. wholesome post wholesome 
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Drunk, Friends, and God: Sprint Wi-Fi 2:25 PM Tweet tl saint lil rogue Retweeted Noob Saibot @Mommaafro So a woman's idea of being friends is being friends? Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me company...while I have sex with someone else." 9/14/17, 9:26 AM 115 Retweets 168 Likes Tweet your reply 2 sounddesignerjeans: princess-mint: alarajrogers: niambi: I’m???? Oh my God this actually explains so much. So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem. So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company. So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not. This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner.  So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists. The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers. The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend. y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves
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Arguing, Friends, and God: in a relationship you can't just do what you want, you always have to think about the other person and that's what people don't understand Here's the thing about sooo many single women nowadays, they always think they know, but they don't know WHAT IT TAKES to be married and stay faithful. Married folks tell us they put their spouse first, whether their spouse asked or not, this ain't about control, they took these actions out of respect for their other half, they distanced themselves from male friends, they compromised, they learned how to cook, the list goes on and on but no YOU are adamant you still gonna act like a single person in a relationship. Carry on👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽😑The level of selfishness is amazing. You're there boasting about doing what you want, yet have the audacity to make demands on top. Really? "I want a man who provides..." "I want a man who is consistent..." 😩and just the simple act of dropping your male friends (who are only there to boost your ego anyway) cooking for a hungry man, putting him first, you refuse to do point blank period. You got allll this attitude yet you're single!!! There's nothing wrong with being single btw but be humble!!!! Don't miss the message trying to prove that your single self can do what you want in a relationship because guess what... you will stay single. And that's not what God intended for you. A marriage takes more than a pretty face honey you have to GIVE. Now you can see why men hit it & quit...would you date you? Seriously. There are TONS of single women out here, the ones who get married are the ones who are HUMBLE and willing to listen. If this post doesn't relate to you pls keep scrolling it's way too early to argue. Blackcitygirl

Here's the thing about sooo many single women nowadays, they always think they know, but they don't know WHAT IT TAKES to be married and sta...

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