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shed1nja: salty-sadness22: kintatsujo: pretentioussongtitle: disease-danger-darkness-silence: captainroxythefoxy: e-v-roslyn: guu: kuruluv: catwithaknife: https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/kzqpd9/heres-an-insane-story-about-a-rogue-music-teacher-cutting-a-kids-hair what the fuck iā€™m just gonna take this post for a moment so i can rant but like i Hate how entitled adults can feel over a childā€™s hair! it started when i was young myself, i wanted a mohawk, but my dad didnā€™t approve of that look on a ā€œgirlā€, and insisted iā€™d regret such a bold cut. at 16 i was finally given full autonomy over my own head. but then i have a son and everyone around us is trying to keep his hair short. when we finally moved out just me my partner and him, i told him he doesnā€™t need to get any haircuts he doesnā€™t want. so he starts growing it out, itā€™s still short but coming on mid-length. his teacher makes a point to tell me itā€™s getting long as if i donā€™t have eyes. i hear her walking out with him one day talking to him about haircuts, as if to coax him into one. eventually i get child services called on me for ā€˜forcing a transgender lifestyleā€™ over what i can only assume is from a combination of me drawing cute ponies on his valentine box and letting him go to school in a ponytail. he kept it short for awhile after but told me he wanted to grow it out again, so i let him of course. he comes home one day after getting a haircut at his grandpaā€™s and tells me he didnā€™t Want the haircut. i ask why he got it then and learned he was bribed with a promise of a surprise IF he cut his hair. tl;dr people need to back the hell up off of children and let them have owership of whatā€™s on THEIR body! /rant Same thing about getting a child to curl or straighten their hair. Or do anything with it. Just let kids have control over their bodies. This happened to me when I was little too!! Growing up I had naturally tight Shirley Temple curls. The only problem was that you canā€™t get a hair brush through it if your life depended on it until it grew out over a few years. but This One Lady from church decided that leaving my hair messy and curly was child abuse and threatened to call social services on my family every damn time she saw me until one day she was the designated kid watcher and ho boy my momma tells me i came out with tears in my eyes and greasy slicked down hair and thatā€™s where she ends the story because i think my mother beat her ass but yeah. Leave kids hair alone. Iā€™m going to be honest, parents who are super-controlling of their childrenā€™s hair creep me the fuck out and Iā€™m not entirely certain why except that I get a vague feeling they kind of relegate them to, ā€œannoying talking dollā€ status. I loved my daughterā€™s long blond hair. It was thick and wavy and beautiful but when she told me she wanted it cut shortĀ ā€˜like a boyā€™(she was four)Ā  I took her to the salon and let her whack it off.Ā  The stylist was skeptical, ā€˜are you sure?ā€ and the thing is, she said this to me, not my daughter. So I asked my girlĀ ā€˜are you sure you want it cut short?ā€™ She was. The hair went. The stylist acted nervous most of the way through like she was waiting for one of us to burst into tears, but it looked cute! And my daughter loved it! (And itā€™s been short ever since.) Autonomy over your hair is bodily autonomy and we as a culture need to start holding bodily autonomy as sacred My family, for years, wouldnā€™t let me dye/cut my hair really short. I could understand the dye, but the shortest theyā€™d let me go is a bob. They even let me dye my hair before letting me go that short. Iā€™m finally in control of my hair and my hair is one of my favorite things about myself. Itā€™s an easy way to express myself. Let kids do what they want with their hair! Let them have fun with their hair before theyā€™re told to grow up and have ā€˜professionalā€™ hair! My mom had a monopoly over my hair. Wouldnā€™t let me wear it natural, was obsessed with me having flyaways in the front and wouldnā€™t let me get out of the car in the mornings until they were flat, permed it when I was 10, wouldnā€™t let me cut it off for years after even though it was really damaged, vocally disapproved when I finally cut it as short as sheā€™d let me. When I moved out I stopped putting any heat in it and a few years later I cut it all off again. The second cut was my decision alone and it felt like a weight lifted off me, like no one could ever tell me what to do with it again or tell me ā€œI needed itā€ to be pretty. My stepfather and his stepfather forced a hair cut on me 10 years ago because they said i was too girly for their tastes.I grew my hair out ever since because ill never go fucking bald again like those two fucking neo nazis: shed1nja: salty-sadness22: kintatsujo: pretentioussongtitle: disease-danger-darkness-silence: captainroxythefoxy: e-v-roslyn: guu: kuruluv: catwithaknife: https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/kzqpd9/heres-an-insane-story-about-a-rogue-music-teacher-cutting-a-kids-hair what the fuck iā€™m just gonna take this post for a moment so i can rant but like i Hate how entitled adults can feel over a childā€™s hair! it started when i was young myself, i wanted a mohawk, but my dad didnā€™t approve of that look on a ā€œgirlā€, and insisted iā€™d regret such a bold cut. at 16 i was finally given full autonomy over my own head. but then i have a son and everyone around us is trying to keep his hair short. when we finally moved out just me my partner and him, i told him he doesnā€™t need to get any haircuts he doesnā€™t want. so he starts growing it out, itā€™s still short but coming on mid-length. his teacher makes a point to tell me itā€™s getting long as if i donā€™t have eyes. i hear her walking out with him one day talking to him about haircuts, as if to coax him into one. eventually i get child services called on me for ā€˜forcing a transgender lifestyleā€™ over what i can only assume is from a combination of me drawing cute ponies on his valentine box and letting him go to school in a ponytail. he kept it short for awhile after but told me he wanted to grow it out again, so i let him of course. he comes home one day after getting a haircut at his grandpaā€™s and tells me he didnā€™t Want the haircut. i ask why he got it then and learned he was bribed with a promise of a surprise IF he cut his hair. tl;dr people need to back the hell up off of children and let them have owership of whatā€™s on THEIR body! /rant Same thing about getting a child to curl or straighten their hair. Or do anything with it. Just let kids have control over their bodies. This happened to me when I was little too!! Growing up I had naturally tight Shirley Temple curls. The only problem was that you canā€™t get a hair brush through it if your life depended on it until it grew out over a few years. but This One Lady from church decided that leaving my hair messy and curly was child abuse and threatened to call social services on my family every damn time she saw me until one day she was the designated kid watcher and ho boy my momma tells me i came out with tears in my eyes and greasy slicked down hair and thatā€™s where she ends the story because i think my mother beat her ass but yeah. Leave kids hair alone. Iā€™m going to be honest, parents who are super-controlling of their childrenā€™s hair creep me the fuck out and Iā€™m not entirely certain why except that I get a vague feeling they kind of relegate them to, ā€œannoying talking dollā€ status. I loved my daughterā€™s long blond hair. It was thick and wavy and beautiful but when she told me she wanted it cut shortĀ ā€˜like a boyā€™(she was four)Ā  I took her to the salon and let her whack it off.Ā  The stylist was skeptical, ā€˜are you sure?ā€ and the thing is, she said this to me, not my daughter. So I asked my girlĀ ā€˜are you sure you want it cut short?ā€™ She was. The hair went. The stylist acted nervous most of the way through like she was waiting for one of us to burst into tears, but it looked cute! And my daughter loved it! (And itā€™s been short ever since.) Autonomy over your hair is bodily autonomy and we as a culture need to start holding bodily autonomy as sacred My family, for years, wouldnā€™t let me dye/cut my hair really short. I could understand the dye, but the shortest theyā€™d let me go is a bob. They even let me dye my hair before letting me go that short. Iā€™m finally in control of my hair and my hair is one of my favorite things about myself. Itā€™s an easy way to express myself. Let kids do what they want with their hair! Let them have fun with their hair before theyā€™re told to grow up and have ā€˜professionalā€™ hair! My mom had a monopoly over my hair. Wouldnā€™t let me wear it natural, was obsessed with me having flyaways in the front and wouldnā€™t let me get out of the car in the mornings until they were flat, permed it when I was 10, wouldnā€™t let me cut it off for years after even though it was really damaged, vocally disapproved when I finally cut it as short as sheā€™d let me. When I moved out I stopped putting any heat in it and a few years later I cut it all off again. The second cut was my decision alone and it felt like a weight lifted off me, like no one could ever tell me what to do with it again or tell me ā€œI needed itā€ to be pretty. My stepfather and his stepfather forced a hair cut on me 10 years ago because they said i was too girly for their tastes.I grew my hair out ever since because ill never go fucking bald again like those two fucking neo nazis
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paramud: personal-scientist: draconym: themaishi: draconym: Mutualistic pairs for an ā€œOdd Couplesā€ Valentineā€™s program at my work. (Why do so many of my big work projects revolve around Valentineā€™s programs?) Also, by ā€œsea bugs,ā€ I obviously meant ā€œgnathiid isopod larvae.ā€ The himan one is not as good as the rest If you mean the mutualism between humans and honeyguides, I respectfully disagree. Human/honeyguide mutualism is one of the most sophisticated interspecies relationships in the animal kingdom. While humans have domesticated many other animals for their labor, the honeyguide remains entirely wild while electing to partner up with humans. Both humans and honeyguides have each developed specific calls to signal to one another that they are on the hunt, and these calls greatly increase the likelihood of success. According to this paper: The production of this sound increased the probability of being guided by a honeyguide from about 33 to 66% and the overall probability of thus finding a beesā€™ nest from 17 to 54%, as compared with other animal or human sounds of similar amplitude. Thatā€™s fucking bonkers, you guys!!! There are people out there who over the course of human history have created a sound to communicate with birds, and the birds themselves have a Human Call they use to communicate with us. There is no other wild animal you can just make noises at and immediately communicate that you want it to come help you!!! Whatā€™s more, many scientists consider this relationship more exploitative on the honeyguideā€™s end than on our end! Thatā€™s unprecedented!! These birds have essentially negotiated a trade deal with humanity!!!! This is the stuff of fantasy movies, except itā€™s real. Hereā€™s an article from The Guardian about the broader implications of this kind of relationship with wild animals. Itā€™s a good read: Apart from with our gut bacteria, we humans donā€™t really have any mutualistic relationships with other creatures. There is no special tune that we can sing to magically attract nearby hedgehogs into our gardens to feast on slugs. There will never be a special wink that fishermen can offer otters, encouraging them to catch fish that we might then de-bone for them, in return for some of the catch. The world is poorer for this. OKAY BUT the noise we make at honeyguides is one of my favorite noises there is, and if yā€™all havenā€™t heard the ā€œBRRR-HM?ā€ call that hunters use to summon honeyguides you are SERIOUSLY missing out. Thereā€™s an audio clip on the Audobon Societyā€™s article about them [link] @metalpaca : I HAVE TINY CRUSTACEANS STUCK IN MY GILLS! I'M HUNGRY FOR SEA BUGS! WHITETIP SHARK CLEANER WRASSE I NEED SOMEONE TO CARRY MY POLLEN TO OTHER FLOWERS I NEED NECTAR TO EAT! TICKSEED FLOWERS BUCKEYE BUTTERFLY l'M LOOKING FOR A BIG MEAL, BUT I NEED HELP FINDING A DEER I WANT TO EAT VENISON, BUT I'M TOO SMALL TO HUNT DEER! COMMON RAVEN COYOTE I NEED SOMEONE TO KEEP ANTS FROM EATING MY EGGS! I WANT A HOME WITH A BODYGUARD AND FREE ANT DELIVERY INCLUDED! COLOMBIAN LESSERBLACK TARANTULA DOTTED HUMMING FROG M. TILLERY - CYANEUS.COM /w/Av[ paramud: personal-scientist: draconym: themaishi: draconym: Mutualistic pairs for an ā€œOdd Couplesā€ Valentineā€™s program at my work. (Why do so many of my big work projects revolve around Valentineā€™s programs?) Also, by ā€œsea bugs,ā€ I obviously meant ā€œgnathiid isopod larvae.ā€ The himan one is not as good as the rest If you mean the mutualism between humans and honeyguides, I respectfully disagree. Human/honeyguide mutualism is one of the most sophisticated interspecies relationships in the animal kingdom. While humans have domesticated many other animals for their labor, the honeyguide remains entirely wild while electing to partner up with humans. Both humans and honeyguides have each developed specific calls to signal to one another that they are on the hunt, and these calls greatly increase the likelihood of success. According to this paper: The production of this sound increased the probability of being guided by a honeyguide from about 33 to 66% and the overall probability of thus finding a beesā€™ nest from 17 to 54%, as compared with other animal or human sounds of similar amplitude. Thatā€™s fucking bonkers, you guys!!! There are people out there who over the course of human history have created a sound to communicate with birds, and the birds themselves have a Human Call they use to communicate with us. There is no other wild animal you can just make noises at and immediately communicate that you want it to come help you!!! Whatā€™s more, many scientists consider this relationship more exploitative on the honeyguideā€™s end than on our end! Thatā€™s unprecedented!! These birds have essentially negotiated a trade deal with humanity!!!! This is the stuff of fantasy movies, except itā€™s real. Hereā€™s an article from The Guardian about the broader implications of this kind of relationship with wild animals. Itā€™s a good read: Apart from with our gut bacteria, we humans donā€™t really have any mutualistic relationships with other creatures. There is no special tune that we can sing to magically attract nearby hedgehogs into our gardens to feast on slugs. There will never be a special wink that fishermen can offer otters, encouraging them to catch fish that we might then de-bone for them, in return for some of the catch. The world is poorer for this. OKAY BUT the noise we make at honeyguides is one of my favorite noises there is, and if yā€™all havenā€™t heard the ā€œBRRR-HM?ā€ call that hunters use to summon honeyguides you are SERIOUSLY missing out. Thereā€™s an audio clip on the Audobon Societyā€™s article about them [link] @metalpaca
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