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what-even-is-thiss: bobcatdump: jaskiegg: mellomaia: aphony-cree: beyoncescock: gahdamnpunk: Honestly!!! This is just psychological trauma in the making THANK YOU I’ve asked parents about this and they always say they are teaching the child responsibility and “respect for other people’s things.” If I point out that the child accidentally broke their own toy they always say “I bought them that toy” or “my sister gave that to them.” The problem is that parents view all possessions as not really belonging to the child. A part of them always seems to think that the adult who provided the money is the real owner If a parent breaks a dish they see it as breaking something that already belonged to them, but if a child breaks it they see it as the child breaking something that belonged to the parents People raising children need to realize that household possessions belong to the entire household. If everyone has to use that plate then it belongs to everyone and anyone can have a forgivable accident with it. It’s okay to deem certain possessions as just yours and ask everyone in the house to respect that, but extend the same respect to your child’s belongings Big mood. I know most of these are talking about little little kids, but here’s a tale from middle school. I had forgotten to charge my phone one night, and this was back when cell phones used to beep loudly when they were low on battery. I kept hearing the noise throughout the afternoon and not recognizing what it was because I’d never heard it before. When I finally did realize what it was, I was in science class and my fellow classmates were making presentations. I reached into my bag to try to turn off the phone, and then the low-battery sound went off, loud enough for the teacher to hear it. She confiscated my phone in front of everyone, and I didn’t get it back until after the weekend because it was a Friday. I was really embarrassed, especially to tell my parents. When I got my phone back that Monday, my teacher said it was important for me to learn this lesson now since in college they wouldn’t tolerate phones going off. Fast forward to when I was in college, any time someone’s phone went off, either the professor would tell them to turn it off, or they would say, “Oh, my bad,” and turn it off themselves, and everyone would move on. I even had a professor who danced around while someone’s phone went off, and it was a welcome moment of levity during the lecture. I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious. God I’ve been reading these posts for a while and each time I am struck with the realization that certainly not all parents were supposed to be a parent “I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious.”YES this The problem is, even if families are forgiving the culture around children still effects the child. I use myself as proof of that. A few times between the ages of 4 and 18 I broke things. I broke my grandma’s favorite Christmas ornament. Her first question was: “Are you hurt?” and when I apologized profusely she said “I’m just glad you weren’t hurt.” I broke a few plates. I broke a couple glasses. Every time my dad’s first response was “Did you get cut?” the second step was cleaning up the broken bits, and the third was a discussion of what led to me breaking it and how I could avoid doing that in the future. Same with spills. Same with stains. My biggest “punishment” from my immediate family was being taught how to clean up the mess I made and being shown in detail how to avoid the same mistake in the future if it was avoidable. There were consequences for my actions, but they were the direct result of those actions and nothing much beyond that. My family tried so hard to teach me how to deal with accidents in a healthy way. They were patient. They treated every slip-up as a learning opportunity. They showed me a lot of love. The other adults still got to me. Teachers still punished and publicly shamed me and other students for our mess-ups. Extended family members outside of my small supportive circle still yelled at me. My friends’ parents still got mad. To the point where whenever I messed up my first instinct was that my dad or grandparents were going to punish me, or yell at me, or hit me, even though they never did. They just didn’t. They always responded with patience and an attitude of “I’m glad you’re safe and I want to help you learn from this.” And I was still afraid of messing up. Mortified. Expecting the worst every time. It’s like… we need to change the culture around this, man. Completely. : what-even-is-thiss: bobcatdump: jaskiegg: mellomaia: aphony-cree: beyoncescock: gahdamnpunk: Honestly!!! This is just psychological trauma in the making THANK YOU I’ve asked parents about this and they always say they are teaching the child responsibility and “respect for other people’s things.” If I point out that the child accidentally broke their own toy they always say “I bought them that toy” or “my sister gave that to them.” The problem is that parents view all possessions as not really belonging to the child. A part of them always seems to think that the adult who provided the money is the real owner If a parent breaks a dish they see it as breaking something that already belonged to them, but if a child breaks it they see it as the child breaking something that belonged to the parents People raising children need to realize that household possessions belong to the entire household. If everyone has to use that plate then it belongs to everyone and anyone can have a forgivable accident with it. It’s okay to deem certain possessions as just yours and ask everyone in the house to respect that, but extend the same respect to your child’s belongings Big mood. I know most of these are talking about little little kids, but here’s a tale from middle school. I had forgotten to charge my phone one night, and this was back when cell phones used to beep loudly when they were low on battery. I kept hearing the noise throughout the afternoon and not recognizing what it was because I’d never heard it before. When I finally did realize what it was, I was in science class and my fellow classmates were making presentations. I reached into my bag to try to turn off the phone, and then the low-battery sound went off, loud enough for the teacher to hear it. She confiscated my phone in front of everyone, and I didn’t get it back until after the weekend because it was a Friday. I was really embarrassed, especially to tell my parents. When I got my phone back that Monday, my teacher said it was important for me to learn this lesson now since in college they wouldn’t tolerate phones going off. Fast forward to when I was in college, any time someone’s phone went off, either the professor would tell them to turn it off, or they would say, “Oh, my bad,” and turn it off themselves, and everyone would move on. I even had a professor who danced around while someone’s phone went off, and it was a welcome moment of levity during the lecture. I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious. God I’ve been reading these posts for a while and each time I am struck with the realization that certainly not all parents were supposed to be a parent “I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious.”YES this The problem is, even if families are forgiving the culture around children still effects the child. I use myself as proof of that. A few times between the ages of 4 and 18 I broke things. I broke my grandma’s favorite Christmas ornament. Her first question was: “Are you hurt?” and when I apologized profusely she said “I’m just glad you weren’t hurt.” I broke a few plates. I broke a couple glasses. Every time my dad’s first response was “Did you get cut?” the second step was cleaning up the broken bits, and the third was a discussion of what led to me breaking it and how I could avoid doing that in the future. Same with spills. Same with stains. My biggest “punishment” from my immediate family was being taught how to clean up the mess I made and being shown in detail how to avoid the same mistake in the future if it was avoidable. There were consequences for my actions, but they were the direct result of those actions and nothing much beyond that. My family tried so hard to teach me how to deal with accidents in a healthy way. They were patient. They treated every slip-up as a learning opportunity. They showed me a lot of love. The other adults still got to me. Teachers still punished and publicly shamed me and other students for our mess-ups. Extended family members outside of my small supportive circle still yelled at me. My friends’ parents still got mad. To the point where whenever I messed up my first instinct was that my dad or grandparents were going to punish me, or yell at me, or hit me, even though they never did. They just didn’t. They always responded with patience and an attitude of “I’m glad you’re safe and I want to help you learn from this.” And I was still afraid of messing up. Mortified. Expecting the worst every time. It’s like… we need to change the culture around this, man. Completely.

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my-discourse-blog: ryrythescienceguy: Children being naturally exposed to a variety of germs from a very young age (from dirt, pets, playplaces, sandboxes, other kids, etc) is actually really good for the immune system and can even prevent the development of allergies. The reason food allergies are so common these days is precisely because parents are avoiding exposing their kids to possible trigger foods and not letting them get dirty (also the overuse of antibacterial soaps/hand santitizers and antibiotics!). Source: grew up on a farm, played in the dirt and with germy animals and germy siblings/cousins/friends all the time, and very rarely took antibiotics… today I’m 24, have zero allergies, and a great immune system (even my little sister is the same, and she wasn’t vaccinated until she was a teenager). This is also why oldest siblings and only children tend to have more allergies in my anecdotal experience; the parents often get overprepared and don’t let their kid get exposed to ANY germs/allergens—by the time other children come along the parents are jaded enough to not care about it as much, and thus the kids afterwards are exposed to more germs from birth! If this sounds weird and backwards, it’s because for a long time doctors used to teach the exact opposite. Keep your child clean and away from germs and potenial allergy triggers. Until they saw the long-term side effects of this and are now starting to tell new parents how to do it better. NOTE: I AM EXTREMELY PRO-VAX! DO NOT MISTAKE THIS COMMENT AS ANTI-VAX. VACCINATE YOUR FUCKING CHILDREN AND EXPOSE THEM TO GERMS IN A CONTROLLED WAY. THE HUMAN IMMUNE SYSTEM IS CAPABLE OF MANY THINGS BUT IT’S NOT A MIRACLE WORKER AND IT NEEDS HELP!!! Can confirm this is true. I’ve studied food science for 5 years and have 3 qualifications in food safety. : my-discourse-blog: ryrythescienceguy: Children being naturally exposed to a variety of germs from a very young age (from dirt, pets, playplaces, sandboxes, other kids, etc) is actually really good for the immune system and can even prevent the development of allergies. The reason food allergies are so common these days is precisely because parents are avoiding exposing their kids to possible trigger foods and not letting them get dirty (also the overuse of antibacterial soaps/hand santitizers and antibiotics!). Source: grew up on a farm, played in the dirt and with germy animals and germy siblings/cousins/friends all the time, and very rarely took antibiotics… today I’m 24, have zero allergies, and a great immune system (even my little sister is the same, and she wasn’t vaccinated until she was a teenager). This is also why oldest siblings and only children tend to have more allergies in my anecdotal experience; the parents often get overprepared and don’t let their kid get exposed to ANY germs/allergens—by the time other children come along the parents are jaded enough to not care about it as much, and thus the kids afterwards are exposed to more germs from birth! If this sounds weird and backwards, it’s because for a long time doctors used to teach the exact opposite. Keep your child clean and away from germs and potenial allergy triggers. Until they saw the long-term side effects of this and are now starting to tell new parents how to do it better. NOTE: I AM EXTREMELY PRO-VAX! DO NOT MISTAKE THIS COMMENT AS ANTI-VAX. VACCINATE YOUR FUCKING CHILDREN AND EXPOSE THEM TO GERMS IN A CONTROLLED WAY. THE HUMAN IMMUNE SYSTEM IS CAPABLE OF MANY THINGS BUT IT’S NOT A MIRACLE WORKER AND IT NEEDS HELP!!! Can confirm this is true. I’ve studied food science for 5 years and have 3 qualifications in food safety.
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galexion: randomnightlord: twisted-monarch: mahi-does-some-art: flashflashitsash: gryffindorcls: lighterstike: cause-a-gay-has-got-to-slay: sirfoggybrain: dark-eyed-harmothoe: rainbow-eeveegirl: aceofspades-lena: aquilacalvitium: je56: anxiousflybi: i-am-your-highlady: flynn-science: scruffymcwhiskers: opals-official-twitter-account: hockeylvr42: that-sammy-bitch: aaaaa42: nyehs: w-for-wumbo: it’s time ITS NOT TIME ITS FUCKING MARCH I DONT WANT TO SEE THIS it’s time 237 more days till halloween! ITS LIKE NEXT MONTH GUYS I have a feeling someone had this queued for an entire year just so they could post this in march I T S T I M E ITS TIME IT’S MARCH YOU ANIMALS IT’S LITERALLY MARCH 8TH 2017 THE FUCK IS THIS DOING ON MY DASH ITS MARCH , 2018. ITS TIME I swear tumblr has a thing about March. What’s going on? I thought I knew all of tumblr’s secrets. Well I guess I haven’t even been here for a full year yet, so… it’s time. Time INTERNATIONAL HOLIDAY >??>?>?? march 1st 2020! it’s Halloween! HALLOWEEN IS RIGHT AROUND THE CORNER BOIS @flashflashitsash MY TIME HAS COME ITS HERE~~~ It’s 2nd of March, you heathens. It’s second of March 6:52am GO BACK TO SLEEP ITS 16:29 YOU CRETIN: galexion: randomnightlord: twisted-monarch: mahi-does-some-art: flashflashitsash: gryffindorcls: lighterstike: cause-a-gay-has-got-to-slay: sirfoggybrain: dark-eyed-harmothoe: rainbow-eeveegirl: aceofspades-lena: aquilacalvitium: je56: anxiousflybi: i-am-your-highlady: flynn-science: scruffymcwhiskers: opals-official-twitter-account: hockeylvr42: that-sammy-bitch: aaaaa42: nyehs: w-for-wumbo: it’s time ITS NOT TIME ITS FUCKING MARCH I DONT WANT TO SEE THIS it’s time 237 more days till halloween! ITS LIKE NEXT MONTH GUYS I have a feeling someone had this queued for an entire year just so they could post this in march I T S T I M E ITS TIME IT’S MARCH YOU ANIMALS IT’S LITERALLY MARCH 8TH 2017 THE FUCK IS THIS DOING ON MY DASH ITS MARCH , 2018. ITS TIME I swear tumblr has a thing about March. What’s going on? I thought I knew all of tumblr’s secrets. Well I guess I haven’t even been here for a full year yet, so… it’s time. Time INTERNATIONAL HOLIDAY >??>?>?? march 1st 2020! it’s Halloween! HALLOWEEN IS RIGHT AROUND THE CORNER BOIS @flashflashitsash MY TIME HAS COME ITS HERE~~~ It’s 2nd of March, you heathens. It’s second of March 6:52am GO BACK TO SLEEP ITS 16:29 YOU CRETIN
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twisted-monarch: mahi-does-some-art: flashflashitsash: gryffindorcls: lighterstike: cause-a-gay-has-got-to-slay: sirfoggybrain: dark-eyed-harmothoe: rainbow-eeveegirl: aceofspades-lena: aquilacalvitium: je56: anxiousflybi: i-am-your-highlady: flynn-science: scruffymcwhiskers: opals-official-twitter-account: hockeylvr42: that-sammy-bitch: aaaaa42: nyehs: w-for-wumbo: it’s time ITS NOT TIME ITS FUCKING MARCH I DONT WANT TO SEE THIS it’s time 237 more days till halloween! ITS LIKE NEXT MONTH GUYS I have a feeling someone had this queued for an entire year just so they could post this in march I T S T I M E ITS TIME IT’S MARCH YOU ANIMALS IT’S LITERALLY MARCH 8TH 2017 THE FUCK IS THIS DOING ON MY DASH ITS MARCH , 2018. ITS TIME I swear tumblr has a thing about March. What’s going on? I thought I knew all of tumblr’s secrets. Well I guess I haven’t even been here for a full year yet, so… it’s time. Time INTERNATIONAL HOLIDAY >??>?>?? march 1st 2020! it’s Halloween! HALLOWEEN IS RIGHT AROUND THE CORNER BOIS @flashflashitsash MY TIME HAS COME ITS HERE~~~ It’s 2nd of March, you heathens. : twisted-monarch: mahi-does-some-art: flashflashitsash: gryffindorcls: lighterstike: cause-a-gay-has-got-to-slay: sirfoggybrain: dark-eyed-harmothoe: rainbow-eeveegirl: aceofspades-lena: aquilacalvitium: je56: anxiousflybi: i-am-your-highlady: flynn-science: scruffymcwhiskers: opals-official-twitter-account: hockeylvr42: that-sammy-bitch: aaaaa42: nyehs: w-for-wumbo: it’s time ITS NOT TIME ITS FUCKING MARCH I DONT WANT TO SEE THIS it’s time 237 more days till halloween! ITS LIKE NEXT MONTH GUYS I have a feeling someone had this queued for an entire year just so they could post this in march I T S T I M E ITS TIME IT’S MARCH YOU ANIMALS IT’S LITERALLY MARCH 8TH 2017 THE FUCK IS THIS DOING ON MY DASH ITS MARCH , 2018. ITS TIME I swear tumblr has a thing about March. What’s going on? I thought I knew all of tumblr’s secrets. Well I guess I haven’t even been here for a full year yet, so… it’s time. Time INTERNATIONAL HOLIDAY >??>?>?? march 1st 2020! it’s Halloween! HALLOWEEN IS RIGHT AROUND THE CORNER BOIS @flashflashitsash MY TIME HAS COME ITS HERE~~~ It’s 2nd of March, you heathens.
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