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Is Love a Feeling or a Choice?: oo US. Cellular - 10:38 AM 0 100% acutelesbian A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover's once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes fat-thin-skinny this fucks me up every single time acutelesbian I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I've written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I o0 U.S. Cellular I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I've written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class 10:38 AM 100% After my teacher introduced us to this theory she asked us, "is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?" We were all a bunch of teenagers. urally we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, we'd never have a lasting relationship of any sort. She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the "feeling of love" had vanished or faded and they weren't happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation. The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, eeeoo U.S. Cellular 10:38 AM 100% bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with The divorced ones said they chose to walk away Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I've never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I've chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again. fr3ight-train This is so fucking important and I think it's something I needed right novw Since you've been gone Source: acutelesbian 1,226,982 notes Is Love a Feeling or a Choice?
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Always remember to be insightful on tumblr: oo U.S. Cellular 10:38 AM o 100% acutelesbian A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I tooka class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover's once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life. Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes. fat-thin-skinny this fucks me up every single time acutelesbian I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I've written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I oo U.S. Cellular 10:38 AM 0 100% I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I've written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class. After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, "is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?" We were all a bunch of teenagers. Naturally we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, we'd never have a lasting relationship of any sort. She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice. Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the "feeling of love" had vanished or faded and they weren't happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation. The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, oo U.S. Cellular o 100% 10:38 AM bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with. The divorced ones said they chose to walk away. Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I've never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I've chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days. I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again. fr3ight-train This is so fucking important and I think it's something I needed right now Since you've been gone Source: acutelesbian 1,226,982 notes Uber Humor 2013, stt no tlying cars Instead, bankets with sleeves Always remember to be insightful on tumblr
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@Regrann from @khenti_renaissance - The more complex a social system becomes, the higher the level of emotional maturity and formal education needed to negotiate that system successfully. Often the level of functioning reached by children is correlated with the level of emotional maturity achieved by the parent(s) prior to the birth of the child. In brief, emotionally immature and poorly educated parents raise children who are more likely to fail than children of emotionally mature and well-educated parents. Although income is an important factor, it is a less important factor than emotional maturity in successfully rearing a child – particularly a non-white child living under the conditions of white supremacy. (Dr. Frances Cress Welsing, The Isis Papers, p.260) Regrann: @Regrann from @khenti_renaissance - The more complex a social system becomes, the higher the level of emotional maturity and formal education needed to negotiate that system successfully. Often the level of functioning reached by children is correlated with the level of emotional maturity achieved by the parent(s) prior to the birth of the child. In brief, emotionally immature and poorly educated parents raise children who are more likely to fail than children of emotionally mature and well-educated parents. Although income is an important factor, it is a less important factor than emotional maturity in successfully rearing a child – particularly a non-white child living under the conditions of white supremacy. (Dr. Frances Cress Welsing, The Isis Papers, p.260) Regrann

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Important message ⬇️ Do Read β¬‡οΈπŸ‘πŸ» A Father is someone who sacrifices & does lot a lot of things to make his children happy πŸ’• When we are kids we normally don't realize what all things they do for us just to see a Smile on our Face β€οΈπŸ‘ŒπŸ» . This is for everyone out here who acts stubborn in front parents & demands things from them out of peer pressure like expensive gadgets or Mobile & other things! . Know the situation & imagine yourself in their place! He has do lot of savings to fulfill those demands of yours! . I've seen many people who pass out with less marks from high school & then relying solely upon parents that they will pay the donations in big esteem colleges! *Arey paapa donation bhar dege* Like seriously bro ??? Do you imagine what it takes to save 5-10 Lac rupees to pay for your immature behaviour & getting wasted during high school Life!!! . Instead if you had studied well then same money could have been saved! ThinkAboutTheseThings . Be a matured person & work hard by yourself if you want things like iPhones or Sports bike & stuff! I'm independent from past few years & it feels great to buy things by your own πŸ‘ŒπŸ» Do any Part time job OR turn your expertise into Profession & Provide services to earn your πŸ’°πŸ’°πŸ’° And that thing even makes our Parents more Proud & Happier πŸ‘πŸ» Dont waste their efforts & money behind your Foolish behaviour! . I hope atleast one teenager realizes these things & acts like matured wise person henceforth πŸ‘ŒπŸ» Soon in next 10-15 years or so even you'll become a Parent & will realize how tough things actually are but your Parents never made it feel in front of your Desires & Happiness πŸ‘πŸ» . Our Real SuperHero ; Father πŸ’―β€οΈ . I Personally felt this message was much needed seeing what today's generation is doing! LoveAndMakeYourParentsProud That's the best thing you could ever do in your Life πŸ’―πŸ‘ŒπŸ»βœŒπŸ» DO TAG YOUR FRIENDS Or SHARE WITH THEM πŸ‘πŸ» . Even i became emotional while writing this up now but we people need to realize what they are doing for us! Make sure you say them today that you Love them like anything β€οΈπŸ’•πŸ’ž ➑️ @ommy_007: Father son bon wanted them & Just saw ture th mom dekhbrai TNS was eart Touching Important message ⬇️ Do Read β¬‡οΈπŸ‘πŸ» A Father is someone who sacrifices & does lot a lot of things to make his children happy πŸ’• When we are kids we normally don't realize what all things they do for us just to see a Smile on our Face β€οΈπŸ‘ŒπŸ» . This is for everyone out here who acts stubborn in front parents & demands things from them out of peer pressure like expensive gadgets or Mobile & other things! . Know the situation & imagine yourself in their place! He has do lot of savings to fulfill those demands of yours! . I've seen many people who pass out with less marks from high school & then relying solely upon parents that they will pay the donations in big esteem colleges! *Arey paapa donation bhar dege* Like seriously bro ??? Do you imagine what it takes to save 5-10 Lac rupees to pay for your immature behaviour & getting wasted during high school Life!!! . Instead if you had studied well then same money could have been saved! ThinkAboutTheseThings . Be a matured person & work hard by yourself if you want things like iPhones or Sports bike & stuff! I'm independent from past few years & it feels great to buy things by your own πŸ‘ŒπŸ» Do any Part time job OR turn your expertise into Profession & Provide services to earn your πŸ’°πŸ’°πŸ’° And that thing even makes our Parents more Proud & Happier πŸ‘πŸ» Dont waste their efforts & money behind your Foolish behaviour! . I hope atleast one teenager realizes these things & acts like matured wise person henceforth πŸ‘ŒπŸ» Soon in next 10-15 years or so even you'll become a Parent & will realize how tough things actually are but your Parents never made it feel in front of your Desires & Happiness πŸ‘πŸ» . Our Real SuperHero ; Father πŸ’―β€οΈ . I Personally felt this message was much needed seeing what today's generation is doing! LoveAndMakeYourParentsProud That's the best thing you could ever do in your Life πŸ’―πŸ‘ŒπŸ»βœŒπŸ» DO TAG YOUR FRIENDS Or SHARE WITH THEM πŸ‘πŸ» . Even i became emotional while writing this up now but we people need to realize what they are doing for us! Make sure you say them today that you Love them like anything β€οΈπŸ’•πŸ’ž ➑️ @ommy_007
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