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Arguing, Asian, and Fucking: 3 HOURS AGO+236,870 NOTES VIA+SOURCE 5d My biggest 'how to tackle office racism inspiration is my mum. 6,0514,381 I remember she was holding a meeting and when she entered everyone assumed she was the tea lady and gave her their orders わ 6,107 4271 So she made them all tea and once they were all made, started the meeting, announced herself as the new boss and fired all of them. わ 6,391 5,925 I'M LIVING SIS reddit.uruetabe m TUMBLRINACTION c comments Y The titty collection, from TiA: 1 2 3 4567 89 10 1 Check the embargo list before submitting! /// pok wins TiA/1/ /r/IncelsInAction ...and everyone clapped, including the tea (i.redd.it) 198 submitted 1 month ago by 31 comments share save hide report hide all child comments Data-kin (because men have no emotions) 98 puins munch ago So there's a new boss coming in today right?" "Yeah." Anyone know what they look like?" "Nope." "Oh look, there's a new person I haven't seen in the office before. I'm going to jump to the obvious conclusion she's the tea lady." permalink source embed sve save-RES report reply hide child comments 71 points 1 month ago Even more so, if one person assumed she was the tea lady and she started to accept the order and not correct him, the others would have then been led to believe she is the tea lady and not have deserved to be fired. permalink source embed save save-RES parent report <p><a href="http://penguinpeddler.tumblr.com/post/170019563205/matt-ruins-your-shit-the-first-time-ive-ever" class="tumblr_blog">penguinpeddler</a>:</p> <blockquote><p><a href="http://matt-ruins-your-shit.tumblr.com/post/170018361636/the-first-time-ive-ever-heard-of-office-tea-lady" class="tumblr_blog">matt-ruins-your-shit</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>The first time I’ve ever heard of office tea lady as a profession. She gave them tea then went and sat in a corner for 8 hours and 50 minutes until the work day was over. </p> <p>Also I have no idea what race this assumption was supposed to be racist against? Assume it’s true and not at all made up…why is thinking she was there to get tea racist? Was she black? Asian? British? What?</p> <p>How telling is it that these fucking people’s fantasies are ruining people’s lives over weak perceptions of racism.</p> </blockquote><p>Here is where you can see what <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fcareertrend.com%2Flist-6532632-duties-tea-lady-.html&amp;t=YzMxZmNiZmRjOTcyMmE2NjM2ZWY2Yjk1YzZmNGRjNTgzMWQ5ZGY4Myw1Y2IzZTE0NTAxYjk5NDJhOGZjZjE3OTA5YThiY2ZhNjVhNmViZjUz">tea ladies do</a>. Apologies if the link doesn’t work, I’m on mobile. </p><p>Does it matter her race? As long as she was obviously a minority from the wording. Since this is most likely Britain, it is also likely she wasn’t black/white/asian but Irish.</p><p>Not gonna argue whether or not the story is true, but, the level of thought here is lacking.</p></blockquote> <p>Reblogging because now I know that “tea lady” is a thing.</p>
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America, Bad, and Best Friend: e ka rdes s oon dhsapeaned Age9, Ce hemar le her and he beipedmould hosupesa The awkwardness soon disappeared. Aged 19, Carey was discovered by Tommy Mottola, boss of the multi-national Columbia label. her he married her and he helped mould her into a superstar covered by "Alot of young women relate to these e signed her. introspective, really honest moments about childhood and overcomind After the rise came the inevitable fall: divorce, a (sort of) nervous breakdown, relative failure and ridicule. Finally, there is redemption via a musical renaissance culminating in her 10th album, The Emancipation Of Mimi. The only constant in the morality tale that is her life has been the constant sneering: she's dull, she's dim, she's a diva. "I don't understand that," she admits. "It's a sexist thing, honestly. If a man, say Mick Jagger, is regarded as a sex symbol- not that I'm calling myself a sex symbol, perish the thought - do people doubt that he writes and sings his songs as they do me? I bring the melody, I bring the concept and I bring the lyrics to my songs. I've always been fully involved in my music. Always." That may not be in doubt. Less clear is why she should be so staggeringly popular. After all, others have the looks and the songs and who wouldn't relish being greeted by a platoon of three-foot candles? "I don't know," she confesses. I've worked very hard, but because of my songwriting my fans relate to me on another level. They hear the personal songs such as Looking In from Daydream, Close My Eyes and Outside fronm Butterfly or Petals from Rainbow where I talk about things that have happened to me. A lot of young women relate to these introspective, really honest moments about childhood and overcoming difficulties. That's whyI have such a connection with my fans. "When people say 'your song got me through a moment of my life', that the validation, the real moment of glory, because you've actually touc somebody's life. I always said that if I became famous, it would validate my existence. It didn't. Instead, the fans compel me to keep going Those fans were desperately needed in her darkest hour. After a lavish ceremony in 1993, her marriage to the domineering Mottola soon turned sour "When you're married to someone who's also the head of your label; when his best friend is your lawyer and his lawyer; when your manager used to work for him and when everybody around you is on s payroll feat. What I'm really proud of is that I paid for half of everything in our mansion, down to the lighting bills and the water in the refrigerator. I knoww that I was never kept by anybody. Overall though, I really do look at what happened as a blessing because I had to go through everything so I could write about it and other people could find inspiration. I had to stop with all the worrying and rise above all the negativity that person had brought to my life and to the people around me. icult situation. For a young woman to get out of it is a By the time they divorced five years later, Carey was emotionally spent and had what is routinely referred to as a breakdown: "I was physically and emotionally depleted from having to fight constantly She fled Columbia and signed to Virgin for $80 million, the biggest reco September 11, 2001 and promptly disappeared. Having followed her wallet rather than her instinct, Carey was soon paid off and moved on. "Anybody would have taken that deal, but now I realise that Virgin weren't equipped to deal with the type of music I make." ract in istory. Her Virgin album, Glitter, was released on When she re-surfaced with 2002's Charmbracelet, "that whole moment was about this supposed breakdown. People wanted me to talk about it and to cry on television with Oprah. People were whispering 'be vulnerable in my ear. People cloud your perceptions sometimes especially when youu don't want them to think you're a difficult diva. Ultimately, you have to trust your gut The joyous experience that was recording The Emancipation Of Mimi (Mimi is her pet name) has completed her recovery. "I'm in the best state I've ever been in. I'm in a great moment. I'm very excited and it's a really great time for me." Not bad going for a woman who, when she isn't demanding red carpets, three-foot candles and breaking fingernails, legendarily refuses to use stairs. "Yeah right," she giggles. "I'm the complete opposite. Actually I've been stuck in elevators in Germany, in Japan and in my own apartment close to where the World Trade Center used to be, so I really, really hate elevators. "But I go in them when I have to. Here in Britain, the elevators seem to be much smaller than in America, so it gets me feeling even more uneasy. All the time I'm saying can't we just take the stairs?' I'm always about stairs unless it's 20 flights, l even use stairs when I'm in my heels. Sometimes, I just don't know what people are talking about." T he Emancipation Of Mimi is out now on Def Jam festivemomentspow:Mariah Carey, 2005

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Apparently, Bad, and Confused: 2 What is gaslighting? NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE 1.800.799.SAFE loveisrespect: What is Gaslighting? You’re crazy - that never happened. Are you sure? You tend to have a bad memory. It’s all in your head. Does your significant other say things like this to you a lot? Do you often start questioning what’s really true – or even your own sanity – within your relationship? If so, your partner may be using what mental health professionals call “gaslighting.” This term comes from the 1938 stage play Gas Light, in which a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy by dimming the lights (which were powered by gas) in their home, and then he denies that the light changed when his wife points it out. It is a very effective form of emotional abuse that causes a victim to question their own feelings, instincts, and sanity, which gives the abusive partner a lot of power (and we know that abuse is about power and control). Once an abusive partner has broken down the victim’s ability to trust their own perceptions, the victim is more likely to stay in the abusive relationship. Signs of being a victim of gaslighting (Stern, 2009) include: You constantly second-guess yourself. You ask yourself, “Am I too sensitive?” multiple times a day. You often feel confused and even crazy. You’re always apologizing to your partner. You can’t understand why, with so many apparently good things in your life, you aren’t happier. You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family. You find yourself withholding information from friends and family so you don’t have to explain or make excuses. You know something is terribly wrong, but you can never quite express what it is, even to yourself. You start lying to avoid the put downs and reality twists. You have trouble making simple decisions. You have the sense that you used to be a very different person - more confident, more fun-loving, more relaxed. You feel hopeless and joyless. You feel as though you can’t do anything right. You wonder if you are a “good enough” partner. If any of these signs ring true for you, give us a call at 1-866-331-9474, chat online, or text loveis to 22522. Our advocates are here to support and listen to you! [Head over to loveisrespect.org to read this blogpost in its entirety.]

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Love, Scream, and Struggle: THE BEST THINGS TO REMEMBER when writing a highly emotional scene Show, don't tell; it's the golden rule of writing. I get it, you hear it everywhere you turn, and by now (even if you don't totally get it), you've become desensitized to the mantra. It's actually a pretty hard thing to master. Believe or not, all writers struggle to show, but I hope this lesson will help you out! NO EMOTION WORDS USE ACTION No, your character isn't sad, happy, devastated, in pain, angry, nervous, scared, or worried. Don't use words like this that describe emotions They cut down on the hit of your scene, and they're harder for readers to connect to/get emotional over Instead of being angry, your character is screaming, has their fists tightly clenched, and is trembling. See what I did? I took the emotion, thought of how to show it, and used that instead. It adds a little oomph, and it's more sensory for your reader USE SETTING USE PERCEPTIONS I dig this one. Your character is sad? No, your character is suddenly seeing their lover not as their lover, but something they just lost in battle. Their perception of what that person is changed. Love turns to loss, smiling turns to tears. Nothing is the same after the emotional action hits Your character is happy? Yeah, no they're not. Your character is noticing the tiniest, most delicate things about their new car that are, in all honesty, kind of weird to notice on just a normal car. When you love something, you notice more. When it makes you sad, you try to close it out. See? GO OUT OF BOUNDS High emotion often means lovw ability to think things through. It's okay to make your character wander from their borders during highly emotional moments. Make themm kick, scream, kiss harder, throw stuff, break down sobbing, knock out some teeth. I promise, it's okay! You're not out of bounds! USE DIALOGUE Angry? You'll say things you really don't mean. Sad? You'll hide the truth. Happy? You'll confess. Use these human faults to vour advantage. Alter your character's dialogue, word choice, and ability to open up during highly emotional scenes to portray what they feel through their words! PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE! This is not easy to master. It seems simple, but it can be frustrating time consuming, and confusing. Take some time to sit and make lists. Scour your piece for emotion words, and replace them with other representations of that emotion. Get a little frustrated! It's okay to have to practice this, and if you do regularly and the right way, you will get better. It just takes time. Presented by: Olivia Paige at www.oliviapaigewrites.tumblr.com oliviapaigewrites:THIS IS AN IMPORTANT ONE! Don’t ignore this in your writing!

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