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Drunk, Friends, and God: Sprint Wi-Fi 2:25 PM Tweet tl saint lil rogue Retweeted Noob Saibot @Mommaafro So a woman's idea of being friends is being friends? Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me company...while I have sex with someone else." 9/14/17, 9:26 AM 115 Retweets 168 Likes Tweet your reply 2 sounddesignerjeans: princess-mint: alarajrogers: niambi: I’m???? Oh my God this actually explains so much. So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem. So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company. So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not. This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner.  So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists. The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers. The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend. y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves
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Bad, Logic, and Mood: HOW TO BUILD MENTAL STRENGTH WITH CBT Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Thoughts Feelings (Cognitions) How you think impacts how you feel Scenario A: Scenario A: Person is waiting on a long line and thinking This line is going to take forever. What is taking the cashier/information clerk so long?" Scenario B: Person is feeling impatient and frustrated. Scenario B: Person is feeling relaxed rson is waiting on same long line but thinking "It looks like this line is going to take awhile What can I do to make the most use of my time while waiting?" Behaviors How you feel impacts how you behave Scenario A: Person is starting to pace; heart is beating rapidly and he/she may start behaving in an aggressive manner Scenario B: Person is reading a book for leisure, or some work papers that he/she needed to catch up on and is ensuring that he/she will be doing a good job for work. Which approach do you think would be a healthier and more productive one to adopt? EVERYONE CAN IMPROVE THEIR MENTAL STRENGTH To Be Optimal Self+ Best Cope With Life's Challenges Practice Good Habits+ Give Up Bad Habits ReGULATe YOUR Thoughts Feelings Behaviors Control your Behave productlvely regardless of circumstances Recognize and replace thoughts emotions so that that aren't true.they don't control Consider: What is the evidence that this is true? What is the evidence that this is NOT true? What is another way of looking at this? If this was true, how bad would this be? you Name emotions Balance with logic Face your fears Engage in mood- boosting activities Conduct experiments Monitor habits Maintain positive habits Discontinue unhelpful habits Reference: Morin, A. (2015). Mental Strength: Mastering The 3 Core Factors, e-course Retrieved from htp:l/www.amymorinlesw.com/ecourse/ Social Work ,Career
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Butt, Kim Possible, and Love: Wellit soundslike a sheet of paper but lquess you are referring to whats on the sheet of paper girl steer the giant arship ha would retu 曺ithE 0 e n thisisvodka beeftony Toph's blindness was one of the most excellently handled aspects of AtLA because it wasn't treated like a disability. So often in shows and especially children's animation) disabled characters are limited to apperances in "very special episodes" where the main characters have to learn a lesson that these people are capable "in spite of" their handicaps, like that episode of Kim Possible wherein Kim constantly stumbles over herself around Felix. This approach is often just as insulting as making them the butt of jokes, because it's patronizing and it limits the amount of roles disabled characters are allowed to have Avatar challenged that stereotype with Teo, and then sent a giant middle finger its way by introducing Toph. She's turned what would otherwise be a disability into an advantage, and she's not afraid to crack jokes about it. She functions well enough that the other characters often forget that she is blind, but at the same time it's an integral part of her bending and allows her to be the greatest earthbender ever. It sends a powerful message that having a disability does not make you less of a person, and often affords you a unique perspective that the so-called "normal" people never get to experience. One of the many reasons I love this show. l've reblogged this before, but I'm reblogging it again. Best character <3 Top badass bei fong

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Martin, News, and Tumblr: kyle cassidy @kylecassidy + Follow This is Yan Ping, the trajectory designer, she flew this freaking space ship to Pluto. 7/18/15, 12:43 PM kyle cassidy @kylecassidy Follow She was 70 seconds off her projected time on a 9 year 3 billion mile voyage, #PlutoFlyBy 7/18/15, 12:43 PM The Pluto Fyby RIZONS Women make up approximately 25 percent of the New Horizons flyby team. The female team members were photographed at Johns Hopkins University Applied Physics Laboratory on July 11, 2015, just three days before the spacecraft's closest approach to Pluto. Kneeling from left to right: Amy Shira Teitel, Cindy Conrad, Sarah Hamilton, Allisa Earle, Leslie Young, Melissa Jones, Katie Bechtold, Becca Sepan, Kelsi Singer, Amanda Zangari, Coralie Jackman, Helen Hart. Standing, from left to right: Fran Bagenal, Ann Harch, Jillian Redfern, Tiffany Finley, Heather Elliot, Nicole Martin, Yanping Guo, Cathy Olkin, Valerie Mallder, Rayna Tedford, Silvia Protopapa, Martha Kusterer, Kim Ennico, Ann Verbiscer, Bonnie Buratti, Sarah Bucior, Veronica Bray, Emma Birath, Carly Howett, Alice Bowman. Not pictured: Priya Dharmavaram, Sarah Flanigan, Debi Rose, Sheila Zurvalec, Adriana Ocampo, Jo-Anne Kierzkowski. Credit: Michael Soluri sorayachemaly:Women scientists made up 25% of the Pluto fly-by New Horizon team. Make sure you share this, because erasing women’s achievements in science and history is a tradition. Happens every day.. http://pluto.jhuapl.edu/News-Center/News-Article.php?page=20150712

sorayachemaly:Women scientists made up 25% of the Pluto fly-by New Horizon team. Make sure you share this, because erasing women’s achieveme...

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