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Anaconda, Drunk, and Friends: Sprint Wi-Fi 2:25 PM Tweet tl saint lil rogue Retweeted Noob Saibot @Mommaafro So a woman's idea of being friends is being friends? Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me company...while I have sex with someone else." 9/14/17, 9:26 AM 115 Retweets 168 Likes Tweet your reply 2 astronomically-androngynous: sounddesignerjeans: princess-mint: alarajrogers: niambi: I’m???? Oh my God this actually explains so much. So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem. So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company. So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not. This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner.  So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists. The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers. The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend. y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it’s called agentic vs communal friendship theorized by Steven McCornack
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Advice, Being Alone, and College: Gabriella @gabriellarichh Last night some girl came running up to me whispering "please pretend to be my friend this man has been following me for 6 blocks" as soon as this guy saw me hugging her he said "fuck" and went the other way. Please ladies stay safe and never walk alone! Co. des @ddestinyynicole l expect all you girls that get scared like this just to run up and hug me, don't even ask, just do it. onecatshort: eclecticstudentwriter: succubus-is-smol: black-hippie-moonchild: 17mul: phoenixwolf876: lovelynemesis: This has happened to me before when I was in college at a frat party. This girl comes squeezing herself in between me and my friend and throws her arms around me. “Amanda, I am so glad you decided to come!” I was so confused and just figured she was drunk and mistaked me for someone else, until I saw the panic on her face. She leaned close and whispered that a guy was following her, was certain that he had put something in her drink and if I would please play along. I looked behind her and sure enough, some creep was watching her like a hawk. We invited her to hang out with us the rest of the night and even waited until her ride showed up just to make sure she was safe. Always look out for each other! If you ever feel scared like this just come up to me like we have been friends since kindergarten, call me any name u can come up with ill play along. 🗣 👌🏾 Stay together, stay safe Perfect advice.I’m reblogging this as a guy, because first of all, if you”re a guy : DON’T DO THAT. Don’t be that creep. And if you’re a guy and you notice some creep is following or stalking a girl, and that she’s obviously uncomfortable or panicked, go ahead and say hi, long time no see, pretend to be her cousin, and tell her discretly you noticed there was a shady guy. Ask her if something’s wrong, if she feels unsafe, if she wants your help (very important - she may not trust you enough, no one could blame her, don’t take it personally). (and don’t you dare take advantage of the help you offered for a flirt opportunity, that would make you no better than the creep) We can all stop “witnessing and do nothing”, and set an example. Reblog every time because there are new stories every time.
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America, Ass, and Books: Thomas McFall @thomas_mcfall Hey guys, I know l usually just post shitty jokes on my Twitter but bear with me because l wanted to share something So in one of my Management classes l sit in the same seat in the front every day. Every single day I sit there Now, l also sit next to some foreign guy that 4/9/18, 6:22 AM 83.9K Retweets 151K Likes Thomas McFall @thomas mcfall. 5d 、 barely speaks English. The most advanced thing l've heard this guy say in English is "Wow, my muffin is really good" This guy also has a habit of stackin;g every item he owns in the exact space l sit. His bag, his food, his books, and his phone are ALWAYS right on my desk space 5 t 743 9,104 Thomas McFall @thomas mcfall 5d Now, every single time l walk into class this guy says "Ah, Tom. You here. Okay." And starts frantically clearing my desk of his belongings. He then makes it a habit to say "Ready for class, yeah?" And gives me a high five. Every day this quy gives me a high five 714 10.8K Thomas McFall @thomasmcfall 5d Tweet your reply Thomas McFall @thomas mcfall 5d I was ALWAYS annoyed with this guy. l'm thinking "Dude, you know I sit in this seat every day. Why are you always stacking your shit here? And the last thing I want to do is give a guy who barely speaks my language high fives at 8 in the morning" Just get your shit off my desk 682 8,716 Thomas McFall @thomas mcfall 5d But today I came to class and was running a few minutes late. I'm standing outside because l had to send a quick text. I could see my usual space through the door out of the corner of my eye. Of course, my desk was filled with his belongings. The usual 4 1652 8,168 Thomas McFall @thomas mcfall 5d As I'm standing there on my phone another guy who was also late walks into the class before me and tried to take my seat since it's closest to the door. Tweet your reply 0 The guy sitting next to me stops this dude from sitting down and says "I'm sorry. My good friend Thomas sits here." t 1,125 19.5K Thomas McFall @thomas mcfall. 5d It was then that I realized this guy wasn't putting stuff on my seat to annoy me. He was saving me the seat every morning And this whole time he saw me as a friend but I was too busy thinking about myself to take him into consideration Cheesy as it sounds, I was touched 38 Thomas McFall @thomas mcfall. 5d ﹀ l ended up going into class and of course he cleared the seat and said "Ah, Tom You here. Okay." And I did get a high five 02,686 41.1KT At the end of class l ended up asking him if he wanted to get a bite to eat with me We did. And we talked for a while. I got through the broken English 4 0795 15.2K Tweet your reply The guy moved here from the Middle East to pursue a college education in America. He plans to go back after he gets his degree. He's got two kids and a wife. He works full time and sends his all his left over money back home to his wife 6 875 18.1K Thomas McFall @thomas mcfall 5d | asked him how he liked America as well He said he misses his family but it's exciting to be here. He also said "Not every American is nice to me like you are, Tom. I bought lunch, of course. Dude deserves it. He gave me a high five for buying lunch. Gotta keep up tradition 16 0994 23.2K Thomas McFall @thomas_mcfall 5d Moral of the story? Don't do what I do and constantly only think about yourself It took me nearly the entire semester to get my head out of my ass and realize this guy was just trying to be my friend Tweet your reply positive-memes: Student finds annoying foreigner is a friend he didn’t know he had.
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Complex, Friends, and Future: I'm an ugly 3/10 beta male with no real discernable positive traits, I'm scared of anything and everything. I'm too timid and anxious to live life like a normal person. I haven't had a friend sincel was a child and I don't really understand how to even make friends as an adult. My massive inferiority complex has convinced me that everyone else is too good for me. I have nothing that makes me stand out as a desirable partner or friend, so I don't even bother out of fear of hurting myself or wasting somebody else's time. I have no hobbies, no passion, no motivation, no real reason for living, but I'm too cowardly to die, so I crawl lazily from day to day, living in the same rut, doing the same things, hoping something will change and someone will come to save me. Deep down I know the truth, no one can fix me but me, and I'm not capable of doing the job. I cant even perform basic tasks. I want to believe that I'm a good person who is just held back by shyness and anxiety but I know the truth, and the truth is I'm just as ugly on the inside as on the outside. If someone took the time to be my friend or my romantic partner, their life would be tangibly worse by association. All I do is spend my days on the internet, which has long since lost its luster, hoping and praying for someone to take pity on me and see a beauty in me that no one else has ever seen, but I know it isn't going to happen. There is no hidden beauty, no special aspect of me that makes me a worthwhile friend, I'm a mediocre lazy piece of human garbage who is living the unhappy life he deserves. The most realistic option I see for my future is finally rking up the guts to pull the trigger and end my life, but I doubt I ever will. I'll be an old man, laying on his deathbed, filled with regret and remorse from a wasted life.
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