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        Anaconda, Drunk, and Friends: Sprint Wi-Fi
 2:25 PM
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 tl saint lil rogue Retweeted
 Noob Saibot
 @Mommaafro
 So a woman's idea of being friends is
 being friends?
 Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL
 A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is
 "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me
 company...while I have sex with someone
 else."
 9/14/17, 9:26 AM
 115 Retweets 168 Likes
 Tweet your reply
 2
astronomically-androngynous:
sounddesignerjeans:

princess-mint:

alarajrogers:

niambi:
I’m????
Oh my God this actually explains so much.
So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.
So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.
So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.
This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 
So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodityâ€Ķ because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.
The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolvedâ€Ķ so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend.

y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves


Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it’s called agentic vs communal friendship theorized by Steven McCornack

        

            
            

                
                
                    Anaconda, Drunk, and Friends: Sprint Wi-Fi
 2:25 PM
 Tweet
 tl saint lil rogue Retweeted
 Noob Saibot
 @Mommaafro
 So a woman's idea of being friends is
 being friends?
 Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL
 A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is
 "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me
 company...while I have sex with someone
 else."
 9/14/17, 9:26 AM
 115 Retweets 168 Likes
 Tweet your reply
 2
astronomically-androngynous:
sounddesignerjeans:

princess-mint:

alarajrogers:

niambi:
I’m????
Oh my God this actually explains so much.
So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.
So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.
So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.
This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 
So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodityâ€Ķ because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.
The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolvedâ€Ķ so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend.

y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves


Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it’s called agentic vs communal friendship theorized by Steven McCornack

                    
                
            

            
            
        

    

    

        
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        Books, Children, and Dating: kamorth:
 nerdygirlnoodles:
 Okay, but seriously on the topic of straight people being so overly
 concerned about their children being exposed to homosexuality
 As some of you know, I am a makeup artist in a holistic beauty
 boutique in a very wealthy area of eastern New York. The week
 before Halloween I was offering simple costume makeup designs for
 both adults and children. So my last client of the evening was a 15
 year old girl who came in to get her makeup done for the Halloween
 dance at her school. I was enjoying a conversation with both the girl
 and her mother when suddenly the topic of transgender came up. I
 got a little nervous because I have a hard time keeping my mouth
 shut when I hear people speaking negatively about these sorts of
 topics and as I mentioned, my store is in a very upscale, white
 conservative area
 Anyway, the girl starts telling us that her friend prefers to be a boy
 now. She says it very simply and comfortably and it made me happy
 to see her talk about it as if it was really no big deal
 Her mother says
 How does she even know what transgender is though? She's a little
 young to be making a decision like that. I really think the media is
 taking things too far with all this gay stuff. I'm not against it or
 anything, but didn't you just tell me two boys in your class are dating
 too?
 The girl said that yes, two boys she knew were dating and another
 boy she knew was gay also. (And she also corrected the pronouns her
 mother used for her friend)
 nl don't mind that she knows that homosexuality is," the mother said
 But I don't think it should be taught at such a young age. Did you
 know it's on Disney channel now?
 It took me a moment to respond, I just kept painting the girl's face
 until I could figure out what I wanted to say,
 Well," I said. "We tend to teach heterosexuality literally from the
 time a child is born. Most children's books and movies are even
 centered around a romance of some kind like a Prince and a Princess
 for example. There's rarely a children's movie that comes out where
 the main male and female character don't end up marrying each
 other in the end. If we don't have a problem flooding our children's
 minds with heterosexuality from the time they are able to sit up and
 watch a movie on their own, what is so wrong with showing them two
 boys or two girls being in love? We aren't showing them sex. We
 aren't showing them anything inappropriate. Since when is love
 inappropriate? If we show them love in all it's forms (be it gay or
 straight) from an early age, they will see that it's all perfectly normal
 and natural and maybe we can finally put homophobic the past.."
 The woman considered this for a second and then said "I just feel like
 they see it and then they start to think that they might be too
 And maybe they are. But isn't it better for them to know that it's
 okay? They aren't hurting anyone."
 Then the girl said. "No ones going around just thinking they are gay
 because they know what gay is, mom. I know what a chicken is, that
 doesn't mean I'm going to wake up tomorrow and start clucking."
 I loved this kid. I hope she does well in all of her endeavors
 I'm not going to wake up tomorrow and start clucking
Teach them well and let them lead the way.
        

            
            

                
                
                    Books, Children, and Dating: kamorth:
 nerdygirlnoodles:
 Okay, but seriously on the topic of straight people being so overly
 concerned about their children being exposed to homosexuality
 As some of you know, I am a makeup artist in a holistic beauty
 boutique in a very wealthy area of eastern New York. The week
 before Halloween I was offering simple costume makeup designs for
 both adults and children. So my last client of the evening was a 15
 year old girl who came in to get her makeup done for the Halloween
 dance at her school. I was enjoying a conversation with both the girl
 and her mother when suddenly the topic of transgender came up. I
 got a little nervous because I have a hard time keeping my mouth
 shut when I hear people speaking negatively about these sorts of
 topics and as I mentioned, my store is in a very upscale, white
 conservative area
 Anyway, the girl starts telling us that her friend prefers to be a boy
 now. She says it very simply and comfortably and it made me happy
 to see her talk about it as if it was really no big deal
 Her mother says
 How does she even know what transgender is though? She's a little
 young to be making a decision like that. I really think the media is
 taking things too far with all this gay stuff. I'm not against it or
 anything, but didn't you just tell me two boys in your class are dating
 too?
 The girl said that yes, two boys she knew were dating and another
 boy she knew was gay also. (And she also corrected the pronouns her
 mother used for her friend)
 nl don't mind that she knows that homosexuality is," the mother said
 But I don't think it should be taught at such a young age. Did you
 know it's on Disney channel now?
 It took me a moment to respond, I just kept painting the girl's face
 until I could figure out what I wanted to say,
 Well," I said. "We tend to teach heterosexuality literally from the
 time a child is born. Most children's books and movies are even
 centered around a romance of some kind like a Prince and a Princess
 for example. There's rarely a children's movie that comes out where
 the main male and female character don't end up marrying each
 other in the end. If we don't have a problem flooding our children's
 minds with heterosexuality from the time they are able to sit up and
 watch a movie on their own, what is so wrong with showing them two
 boys or two girls being in love? We aren't showing them sex. We
 aren't showing them anything inappropriate. Since when is love
 inappropriate? If we show them love in all it's forms (be it gay or
 straight) from an early age, they will see that it's all perfectly normal
 and natural and maybe we can finally put homophobic the past.."
 The woman considered this for a second and then said "I just feel like
 they see it and then they start to think that they might be too
 And maybe they are. But isn't it better for them to know that it's
 okay? They aren't hurting anyone."
 Then the girl said. "No ones going around just thinking they are gay
 because they know what gay is, mom. I know what a chicken is, that
 doesn't mean I'm going to wake up tomorrow and start clucking."
 I loved this kid. I hope she does well in all of her endeavors
 I'm not going to wake up tomorrow and start clucking
Teach them well and let them lead the way.
                    
                
            

            
                
                
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        Dad, Disney, and Life: nilesymon
 i wonder if magic is real, but only in a
 really mundane way.
 when i was little i could almost
 inerringly switch back to disney
 channel right as the ads ended when
 i was channel surfing
 maybe youve never accidentally
 crushed a ladybug underfoot. maybe
 your microwave popcorn never burns
 maybe you can spin around lots and
 lots of times before you get dizzy.
 is that magic??
 honestly im not sure if these are
 magic or just small, invisible skills. im
 not sure which i like better
 My ankles never twist. I've always been
 rather active, I did track for five years (all
 the running events), and one time while
 running I stepped in a hole, lost my shoe,
 and landed sprawling about five feet
 away. I pulled my shoe on and kept
 running
 I have a coworker who somehow makes
 better coffee than everyone else even
 though the grounds come pre-measured
 and all you have to do is load them up
 and push a button. I have a friend who
 has inch long nails that never break. My
 brother can copy origami just by looking
 at the finished product and my mother
 can do the same with knots. I knew a
 guy who never made an error when
 typing
 Maybe we all have little magics, the kind
 that you don't realize you have. Just tiny
 things that make your life slightly better
 but are completely unnoticed on the
 outside.
 this is the cutest post i have ever read...
 Nooo I've actually shared this theory before.
 Like my Dad is really lucky finding parking
 spaces. And I've never cracked my phone even
 though I drop it on the time and have an
 average case. Like what if everybody gets one
 trivial part of their life that they're illogically lucky
 at?
 Non-stop fun at FUNsubstance.com
Magic
        

            
            

                
                
                    Dad, Disney, and Life: nilesymon
 i wonder if magic is real, but only in a
 really mundane way.
 when i was little i could almost
 inerringly switch back to disney
 channel right as the ads ended when
 i was channel surfing
 maybe youve never accidentally
 crushed a ladybug underfoot. maybe
 your microwave popcorn never burns
 maybe you can spin around lots and
 lots of times before you get dizzy.
 is that magic??
 honestly im not sure if these are
 magic or just small, invisible skills. im
 not sure which i like better
 My ankles never twist. I've always been
 rather active, I did track for five years (all
 the running events), and one time while
 running I stepped in a hole, lost my shoe,
 and landed sprawling about five feet
 away. I pulled my shoe on and kept
 running
 I have a coworker who somehow makes
 better coffee than everyone else even
 though the grounds come pre-measured
 and all you have to do is load them up
 and push a button. I have a friend who
 has inch long nails that never break. My
 brother can copy origami just by looking
 at the finished product and my mother
 can do the same with knots. I knew a
 guy who never made an error when
 typing
 Maybe we all have little magics, the kind
 that you don't realize you have. Just tiny
 things that make your life slightly better
 but are completely unnoticed on the
 outside.
 this is the cutest post i have ever read...
 Nooo I've actually shared this theory before.
 Like my Dad is really lucky finding parking
 spaces. And I've never cracked my phone even
 though I drop it on the time and have an
 average case. Like what if everybody gets one
 trivial part of their life that they're illogically lucky
 at?
 Non-stop fun at FUNsubstance.com
Magic
                    
                
            

            
                
                
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        Confused, Thank You, and Hunting: a-fragile-sort-of-anarchy
 Here is my official plan to change the world as
 we know it:
 I become a paramedic.
 If l encounter patients who cannot be saved, just as they're about to
 die, I'll look them dead (haha) in the eyes and slap 'em real hard
 If ghosts are real, this will cause dozens of them to be personally
 upset with me. I mean, at the very least, they'll want answers. I'll be the
 most haunted person ever.
 This means I'll have dozens of opportunities to record paranormal
 phenomenon.
 I'll get my own show on the Travel Channel called GHOST SLAPPER,
 through which I'll eventually get irrefutable scientific evidence that
 ghosts exist, making me the wealthiest and most respected paranormal
 researcher of all time.
 . On my death bed, one of my interns will slap me real hard, to make
 sure I come back all pissed off and confused
 .I will be the first ghost to host a ghost hunting show (which is mega
 cool, come on, admit it)
 Eventually, the secret goes global, and everyone starts slapping their
 loved ones real hard as they die, because they believe it's the best way
 for their spirit to remain here on Earth with them
 . After enough time, death slaps become commonplace. People have
 DNS (do not slap) instructions in their wills instead of or along with DNR
 (do not resuscitate) ones.
 HOWEVER, because everyone expects the death slaps, they no longer
 have the desired effect. Getting slapped is just a natural part of dying,
 now, but it accomplishes nothing
 .Like with all cultural junk, the origin eventually slips away, and the
 knowledge of WHY we slap the dying is esoteric at best.
 .1, however, remember, and haunt hospitals for centuries, laughing
 because everybody's gettin' slapped.
 Thank you for your time
 spiritualwarriorofdestruction
 What the fuck man
 a-fragile-sort-of-anarchy
 Excuse me, do you have a better idea?
The ghost slapper
        

            
            

                
                
                    Confused, Thank You, and Hunting: a-fragile-sort-of-anarchy
 Here is my official plan to change the world as
 we know it:
 I become a paramedic.
 If l encounter patients who cannot be saved, just as they're about to
 die, I'll look them dead (haha) in the eyes and slap 'em real hard
 If ghosts are real, this will cause dozens of them to be personally
 upset with me. I mean, at the very least, they'll want answers. I'll be the
 most haunted person ever.
 This means I'll have dozens of opportunities to record paranormal
 phenomenon.
 I'll get my own show on the Travel Channel called GHOST SLAPPER,
 through which I'll eventually get irrefutable scientific evidence that
 ghosts exist, making me the wealthiest and most respected paranormal
 researcher of all time.
 . On my death bed, one of my interns will slap me real hard, to make
 sure I come back all pissed off and confused
 .I will be the first ghost to host a ghost hunting show (which is mega
 cool, come on, admit it)
 Eventually, the secret goes global, and everyone starts slapping their
 loved ones real hard as they die, because they believe it's the best way
 for their spirit to remain here on Earth with them
 . After enough time, death slaps become commonplace. People have
 DNS (do not slap) instructions in their wills instead of or along with DNR
 (do not resuscitate) ones.
 HOWEVER, because everyone expects the death slaps, they no longer
 have the desired effect. Getting slapped is just a natural part of dying,
 now, but it accomplishes nothing
 .Like with all cultural junk, the origin eventually slips away, and the
 knowledge of WHY we slap the dying is esoteric at best.
 .1, however, remember, and haunt hospitals for centuries, laughing
 because everybody's gettin' slapped.
 Thank you for your time
 spiritualwarriorofdestruction
 What the fuck man
 a-fragile-sort-of-anarchy
 Excuse me, do you have a better idea?
The ghost slapper
                    
                
            

            
            
        

    

    

        
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        Crazy, Girls, and Politics: Interestingly, the reasons men and women tend to get
 angry differ. A 15-year study of girls and women found that
 there are three primary causes of anger that are not the
 same in men: feelings of powerlessness, injustice, and
 other people's irresponsibility
cygnaut:

poesieplease:

whistle-notes:

coldasaslab:

johnstamostimelessbeauty:

Here’s something to chew on.

about me.jpg

honestly

In case you wanna read the article this quote is from: http://rolereboot.org/culture-and-politics/details/2016-05-daughter-know-ok-angry/



Adaptable girls find socially acceptable ways to internalize or channel their discomfort and ire, sometimes at great personal cost. Passive aggressive behavior, anxiety, and depression are common effects. Sarcasm, apathy, and meanness have all been linked to suppressed rage. Troublesome behaviors, such as lying, skipping school, bullying other people, even being socially awkward are often signs that a teenager is dealing with anger that they are unable to name as anger.
Girls, taught to ignore their anger, become disassociated from themselves.
Anger is so successfully sublimated that girls lose the ability to understand what it feels and looks like. Is her heart racing? Does she feel flushed or shaky? Does she clench her jaws at night? Is she breaking out in hives? Does she cry for no reason? Laugh inappropriately during difficult conversations? Fly off the handle over something that seems inconsequential? You can see where I’m going hereâ€Ķthose crazy girl hormones, right? Better to just think of it as a phase.
For too many women, however, the phase never ends. It’s lives spent never expressing anger at all and believing that they don’t have the right or ability to do so without great risk.


        

            
            

                
                
                    Crazy, Girls, and Politics: Interestingly, the reasons men and women tend to get
 angry differ. A 15-year study of girls and women found that
 there are three primary causes of anger that are not the
 same in men: feelings of powerlessness, injustice, and
 other people's irresponsibility
cygnaut:

poesieplease:

whistle-notes:

coldasaslab:

johnstamostimelessbeauty:

Here’s something to chew on.

about me.jpg

honestly

In case you wanna read the article this quote is from: http://rolereboot.org/culture-and-politics/details/2016-05-daughter-know-ok-angry/



Adaptable girls find socially acceptable ways to internalize or channel their discomfort and ire, sometimes at great personal cost. Passive aggressive behavior, anxiety, and depression are common effects. Sarcasm, apathy, and meanness have all been linked to suppressed rage. Troublesome behaviors, such as lying, skipping school, bullying other people, even being socially awkward are often signs that a teenager is dealing with anger that they are unable to name as anger.
Girls, taught to ignore their anger, become disassociated from themselves.
Anger is so successfully sublimated that girls lose the ability to understand what it feels and looks like. Is her heart racing? Does she feel flushed or shaky? Does she clench her jaws at night? Is she breaking out in hives? Does she cry for no reason? Laugh inappropriately during difficult conversations? Fly off the handle over something that seems inconsequential? You can see where I’m going hereâ€Ķthose crazy girl hormones, right? Better to just think of it as a phase.
For too many women, however, the phase never ends. It’s lives spent never expressing anger at all and believing that they don’t have the right or ability to do so without great risk.


                    
                
            

            
                
                
cygnaut:

poesieplease:

whistle-notes:

coldasaslab:

johnstamostimelessbeauty:

Here’s something to chew on.

about me.jpg

honestly

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        Drunk, Friends, and God: Sprint Wi-Fi
 2:25 PM
 Tweet
 tl saint lil rogue Retweeted
 Noob Saibot
 @Mommaafro
 So a woman's idea of being friends is
 being friends?
 Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL
 A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is
 "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me
 company...while I have sex with someone
 else."
 9/14/17, 9:26 AM
 115 Retweets 168 Likes
 Tweet your reply
 2
sounddesignerjeans:
princess-mint:

alarajrogers:

niambi:
I’m????
Oh my God this actually explains so much.
So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.
So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.
So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.
This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 
So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodityâ€Ķ because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.
The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolvedâ€Ķ so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend.

y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves

        

            
            

                
                
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Oh my God this actually explains so much.
So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.
So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.
So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.
This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 
So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodityâ€Ķ because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.
The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolvedâ€Ķ so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend.

y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves

                    
                
            

            
            
        

    

    

        
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        Alive, Bruh, and Cars: robotmango
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 it's ninety-nine degrees outside, four fuck-thousand percent humidity, and my
 husband was like, "i'm gonna go for a bike ride." and i was like "why. no. why
 don't put us on the news like that. local fool collapses on unnecessary journey
 don't do it." so he says he doesn't want to "hide in the house" because the sun is
 shining. bruh. honeybruh. "the sun is shining" does not cover it. its hot outside
 its motherfucking hot as fuck outside. our outdoor plants have been crying into
 their hands all week. whole cars are melting into the sewer. our fucking patio
 umbrella developed sentience to ask me for lemonade this morning
 @robotmango, you need to work for the weather forecast this was both hilarious
 and so vivid it made me stand up and get some iced tea
 this is a great idea, thank you. here goes. my audition tape for the weather channel.
 dearly beloved. we are gathered here today to have a fucking funeral for the
 outdoors. it had a good run, with all its creeks and clouds and shit. pretty great
 now it's ten-thirty at night but still ninety-two asshole-sweating degrees and humid
 as fuck. everything is hot and slimy, like being a "borrower" that got trapped inside a
 radar that nothing is moving around out there because everything is probably dead
 surprise that all the shitbag mosquitos are fine, since the thermostat of hell is always
 bottle of shampoo and then accidentally microwaved. you can see on my doppler
 the only alive thing is the mosquito currently trying to drill a hole in my leg. no
 at the devil's ρreferred temperature, this forecast has gotten away from me a little.
 but in conclusion fuck the sun
Its hot out, is what Im saying
        

            
            

                
                
                    Alive, Bruh, and Cars: robotmango
 awed-frog
 robotmango
 it's ninety-nine degrees outside, four fuck-thousand percent humidity, and my
 husband was like, "i'm gonna go for a bike ride." and i was like "why. no. why
 don't put us on the news like that. local fool collapses on unnecessary journey
 don't do it." so he says he doesn't want to "hide in the house" because the sun is
 shining. bruh. honeybruh. "the sun is shining" does not cover it. its hot outside
 its motherfucking hot as fuck outside. our outdoor plants have been crying into
 their hands all week. whole cars are melting into the sewer. our fucking patio
 umbrella developed sentience to ask me for lemonade this morning
 @robotmango, you need to work for the weather forecast this was both hilarious
 and so vivid it made me stand up and get some iced tea
 this is a great idea, thank you. here goes. my audition tape for the weather channel.
 dearly beloved. we are gathered here today to have a fucking funeral for the
 outdoors. it had a good run, with all its creeks and clouds and shit. pretty great
 now it's ten-thirty at night but still ninety-two asshole-sweating degrees and humid
 as fuck. everything is hot and slimy, like being a "borrower" that got trapped inside a
 radar that nothing is moving around out there because everything is probably dead
 surprise that all the shitbag mosquitos are fine, since the thermostat of hell is always
 bottle of shampoo and then accidentally microwaved. you can see on my doppler
 the only alive thing is the mosquito currently trying to drill a hole in my leg. no
 at the devil's ρreferred temperature, this forecast has gotten away from me a little.
 but in conclusion fuck the sun
Its hot out, is what Im saying
                    
                
            

            
            
        

    

    

        
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