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Advice, Confidence, and Energy: punk @NUEPORTS i took the same energy i used to hate myself and turned it into confidence that's how you recycle 9/30/17, 3:35 AM 194 RETWEETS 401 LIKES naamahdarling: mediokurrr: catastrofries: mediokurrr: Can i get a step by step on how to do this? So far for me it’s been something like: 1. Become aware of how and when you tearing yourself down. 2. Now that you can catch yourself doing it. Offer counters to the negative self talk. A really useful thing I read was to talk to yourself almost the way you would child. Gentle and patient. Even when they fuck up. 3. Take time to celebrate your small accomplishments. You’ve been attacking yourself for every little mistake. Apply that same fervor to the positive things in your life. Did the dishes even though you didn’t want to? Fuck yeah! Got up and took shower? YES!!! You are taking positive steps to feeling better. Celebrate it. 4. Make lists of things you’re good at/ like about yourself. The first time I did this the only two things in my list we’re that I liked my hair and I had good friends. It was start. 5. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up steps 1-4. It’s counter productive. When I catch myself calling my self stupid for some mistake or other my response now is,“We don’t talk to ourselves like that anymore. What’s something constructive that could actually help solve the problem.” Most of the time that seems to work. Not always. But more and more Everytime. I hope any of that made sense. This is great advice @catastrofries Sincerely, this is the best advice. It’s easy to dismiss it and say “That would never help!” but, like, if you try it, you might be surprised.
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Anaconda, Bad, and Beautiful: T-Mobile 12:38 PM 53 % Tweet Amritsizzurp2LaWhore @Vasheezy They made us hate ourselves: an Indian children's book, as evidence UGLY BEAUTIFUL 6/9/15, 8:32 AM Reply to Amritsizzurp2LaWhore Home Notifications Messages Me belligerentbagel: pilambdaod: xekstrin: pilambdaod: bengali-babe: “Colorism isn’t real.” Colorism? Wow because the term “racism” is so blase. pilambdaod Colorism specifically refers to people of their own race valuing lighter skin over darker skin. For example in latina culture, valuing “good” straight hair over “pelo malo” or bad, curly hair. Racism would imply we’re talking about at least two different races here; colorism specifically is about racist ideals within one race, people of one race policing others appearance within their own race.  (since this is an indian book, presumably made by indian people for indian children to read, depicting a light skinned indian woman as more beautiful than a dark skinned one, it’s colorism.) One of those is clearly Caucasian the other Indian. Creating random new “isms” only makes legitimate grievances seem petty and stupid. “One of those is clearly Caucasian” Aishwarya Rai, Kareena Kapoor, Kangana Ranaut  Karisma Kapoor, Shruti Haasan, Zarine Khan All actresses/models born in India to parents who were also born in India (or Pakistan), in a narrow view of “race.”  If a Papua New Guinean hooks up with a Swedish person all you get is a human.  There’s no new thing you’re going to get. You just get a human.  - Bill Nye: Race is a Human Construct (and don’t look at the comments; it’s the usual cesspool of bigots)  Ideas on “race” have been in slow development over the years, but colourism is a real thing (often with roots in imperialism, especially as Western ideas of beauty began to intrude upon countries).  The 100 Years of Beauty: Philippines has a jarring jump where April Villanueva (who has light/medium-toned skin) gets her skin darkened for the 1910s-20s aesthetic, then becomes powder-white when US/European colonial interests make a stronger influence on Philippine society in the 1930s (more in the research video).  Two more examples of skin tone variation between famous women in countries where colourism has become prevalent in celebrity culture (ie, it was a lot harder finding photos of a dark-skinned Korean actress than a light-skinned one):  Koreans: Song Hye-kyo and Lee Hyori  Filipinos: Valerie Garica and Nicole Scherzinger (active in the US; Filipino father, Hawaiian/Samoan-Russian mother)  Variation in skin colour across a “race” is as real as variation in eye colour (”oh, you have brown eyes? I guess you’re not a real Caucasian”).  Colourism also pervades a lot of modern beauty marketing.  What’s underneath your dark skin? A prettier, lighter version of yourself! Everyone should strive to be more fair and lovely because only then you’ll be happy with your flesh prison!!  tl;dr colourism exists and isn’t some bogeyman made up by “”es jay double-ews,”” and if you’re the person bemoaning how it “delegitimizes racism” then it’s likely you actually don’t care about racism at all and are just trying to devalue the arguments with the classic “but so-and-so people have it worse! how could you be so self-centered and selfish??” 
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