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Children, Christmas, and Cookies: "In our family, we have a special way of transitioning the kids from receiving from Santa, to becoming a Santa. This way, the Santa construct is not a lie that gets discovered, but an unfolding series of good deeds and Christmas spirit When they are 6 or 7, whenever you see that dawning suspicion that Santa may not be a material being, that means the child is ready | take them out "for coffee" at the local wherever. We get a booth, order our drinks, and the following pronouncement is made "You sure have arown an awful lot this year. Not only are you taller, but l can see that your heart has grown, too. [ Point out 2-3 examples of empathetic behavior, consideration of people's feelings, good deeds etc, the kıd has done in the past year]. In fact, your heart has grown so much that I think you are ready to become a Santa Claus You probably have noticed that most of the Santas you see are people dressed up ike him. Some of vour friends miaht have even told you that there is no Santa. A lot of children think that, because they arent ready to BE a Santa yet, but YOU ARE Tell me the best things about Santa. What does Santa get for all of his trouble? [lead the kid from cookies to the good feeling of having done something for someone else]. Well, now YOU are ready to do your first job as a Santa!" Make sure you maintain the proper conspiratorial tone We then have the child choose someone they know-a neighbor, usually. Ihe child'S mission is to secretly, deviously, find out something that the person needs, and then provide it, wrap it, deliver it-and never reveal to the target where it came from. Being a Santa isn't about getting credit, you see. It's unselfish giving My oldest chose the "witch lady" on the corner. She really Was horrible--had a fence around the house and would never let the kids go in and get a stray ball or Frisbee. Shed yell at them to play quieter, etc--a real pill. He noticed when we drove to school that she came out every morning to get her paper in bare feet, so he decided she needed slippers. So then he had to go spy and decide how big her feet were. He hid in the bushes one Saturday, and decided she was a medium. We went to Kmart and bought warm slippers. He wrapped them up, and tagged it "merry Christmas from Santa. After dinner one evening, he slipped down to her house, and slid the package under her driveway gate. The next morning, we watched her waddle out to get the paper, pick up the present, and go inside. My son was all excited, and couldn't wait to see what would happen next. The next morning, as we drove off, there she was, out getting her paper--wearing the slippers. He was ecstatic. I had to remind him that NO ONE could ever know what he did, or he wouldn't be a Santa Over the years, he chose a good number of targets, always coming up with a unique present just for them. One year, he polished up his bike, put a new seat on it, and gave it to one of our friend's daughters. These people were and are very poor. We did ask the dad if it was ok The look on her face, when she saw the bike on the patio with a big bow on it, was almost as good as the look on my son's face When it came time for Son #2 to join the ranks, my oldest came along, and helpeo with the induction speech. They are both excellent gifters, by the way, and never felt that they had been lied to-because they were let in on the Secret of Beinga Santa geekinglikeaboss: cunningcelt: hilarious-nefarious: Source This is bloody genius

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Charlie, Creepy, and Respect: Hari Kondabolu @harikondabolu When someone says "l am not politically correct," what I hear is"I don't really care how these words affect you.' smarter-than-the-republicans: ithelpstodream: everything-casey: ithelpstodream: i can’t believe all the people losing their shit over this post are the same people who make ‘triggered’ jokes. Here’s the thing. If you at all monitor your language based on your audience—avoiding curse words in front of kids, using bigger words in front of your boss—you obviously care about the impression your words give people.  Do you avoid talking about the attractive sex after your bestie’s breakup? Congratulations, friend, you’re being a decent human being. Your friend wishes you call them Charlie instead of Charlotte. It’s just a nickname. Would you say “No, your birth certificate says Charlotte so I’m calling you Charlotte?” Your co-worker tells you that he gets extremely uncomfortable when you clap him on the shoulder, due to a creepy uncle who did the same thing. Do you make a point to clap him on the shoulder every time you see him? It is really not that difficult to be “politically correct.” It does not mean that you must eliminate all opinions completely, it merely means—at a basic level—that you should attempt to be aware of your audience and how your words and actions affect them.  Don’t call it being “PC,” if you must. Call it being “aware and empathetic.” Being a human with decency and respect for other people, cultures, and experiences. ^boom. couldn’t have said it better myself. Tldr: You’re not being “word policed” when people expect you to have manners.
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Beautiful, Energy, and Fake: How do narcissists "pick" their supply? Do they have emotional antennae that allow them to hone in on their prey? Gary Watson, BE Engineering, Vanderbilt University Answered Nov 3 5 things generally a narcissist looks for in a partner. And yes, they have emotional antennae up to detect these traits more so than you could ever believe. 1. Devotion to the concept of love - the more caring, loving you are, the better and more long lasting your energy supply appears 2. Compassionate Person - same, you'll put up with more 3. Decent Person - same, you give the narc a fake shell for the moment while they drain you 4. Has a moral compass - the narc loves this because they get to learn so much about the rest of us from this person. And, how to smear you in the end 5. Caring and empathetic - you'll overlook years of abuse, allow yourself to be triangulated, all while somehow thinking it is your fault. A side note, if you live away from family, have a close but small group of friends, maybe some of them aren't near you geographically, and you have these traits, watch out for the covert narcissist. These virtues plus their ability to isolate vou will make your energy supply irresistible to the covert narc. 45.8k Views View Upvoters Answer requested by Jennifer Heim-Ewen for those of you who are caring, empathetic, and always want to help- just be aware that there are people out there who if given the chance will use your most beautiful character traits and use it to their advantage. 

for those of you who are caring, empathetic, and always want to help- just be aware that there are people out there who if given the chance ...

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