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Bad, Bill Cosby, and Donald Trump: Wagatwe Sara Wanjuki 3 hrs I won't say "Me, too." Partially because most of you know that' already. But mostly because we shouldn't have to "out" ourselves as survivors Because men have *always* seen the gendered violence happening around them (and/or being perpetrated by them)-they just haven't done anything about it. Because it shouldn't matter how many women, femmes, and gender neutral & non- conforming folk speak their truths. Post by @wagatwe. This is not to say that MeToo is a bad thing at all; just that, once again, the burden falls on the oppressed group (people who have been assaulted-harassed) to appeal to the moral sense of their oppressors. Also, to clarify, the emphasis on men in this post is not meant to imply that men cannot be raped or assaulted. Hereโ€™s a longer quote I really liked about all this: โ€œBefore Weinsteinโ€™s alleged sexual misconduct, it was Donald Trumpโ€™s. Before Trump, there was Bill Cosby and his half-century of woman accusers. Woody Allen, though determinedly sticking around in Hollywood, has been publicly accused by his own daughter of sexual abuse on a number of occasions. There are just no excuses anymore. We all know that sexual misconduct is a widespread epidemic in our world. So, why are we still asking women and other survivors to rip open their traumas to prove to us there is a problem we already know exists? And when will the problem finally be laid at the feet of those responsible to solve, instead of burdening survivors who have already endured so much?โ€ It is not our responsibility to rip open our wounds and expose our trauma in a solidarity ritual just so you can finally acknowledge there is a problem with menโ€™s violence toward women. We have been screaming into a void for centuries; Iโ€™m fairly certain one more round of begging isnโ€™t going to convince you the problem exists if you havenโ€™t already accepted it. For those people who have already used the MeToo hashtag to create some solidarity around their expeirences, or to heal some of their unacknowledged trauma: it is absolutely your right to do that. But just once I would like to see us NOT asking for women, or other oppressed people, to solve a problem that disproportionately affects us. We have already been through enough โ€” we cannot solve your sickness of sexual violence too.โ€ - Matilda Dixon-Smith @matildadixonsmith, โ€œWill We Ever Stop Asking Women And Survivors To Fix Rape Culture?โ€
Bad, Bill Cosby, and Donald Trump: Wagatwe Sara Wanjuki
 3 hrs
 I won't say "Me, too."
 Partially because most of you know that'
 already.
 But mostly because we shouldn't have to
 "out" ourselves as survivors
 Because men have *always* seen the
 gendered violence happening around them
 (and/or being perpetrated by them)-they just
 haven't done anything about it.
 Because it shouldn't matter how many
 women, femmes, and gender neutral & non-
 conforming folk speak their truths.
Post by @wagatwe. This is not to say that MeToo is a bad thing at all; just that, once again, the burden falls on the oppressed group (people who have been assaulted-harassed) to appeal to the moral sense of their oppressors. Also, to clarify, the emphasis on men in this post is not meant to imply that men cannot be raped or assaulted. Hereโ€™s a longer quote I really liked about all this: โ€œBefore Weinsteinโ€™s alleged sexual misconduct, it was Donald Trumpโ€™s. Before Trump, there was Bill Cosby and his half-century of woman accusers. Woody Allen, though determinedly sticking around in Hollywood, has been publicly accused by his own daughter of sexual abuse on a number of occasions. There are just no excuses anymore. We all know that sexual misconduct is a widespread epidemic in our world. So, why are we still asking women and other survivors to rip open their traumas to prove to us there is a problem we already know exists? And when will the problem finally be laid at the feet of those responsible to solve, instead of burdening survivors who have already endured so much?โ€ It is not our responsibility to rip open our wounds and expose our trauma in a solidarity ritual just so you can finally acknowledge there is a problem with menโ€™s violence toward women. We have been screaming into a void for centuries; Iโ€™m fairly certain one more round of begging isnโ€™t going to convince you the problem exists if you havenโ€™t already accepted it. For those people who have already used the MeToo hashtag to create some solidarity around their expeirences, or to heal some of their unacknowledged trauma: it is absolutely your right to do that. But just once I would like to see us NOT asking for women, or other oppressed people, to solve a problem that disproportionately affects us. We have already been through enough โ€” we cannot solve your sickness of sexual violence too.โ€ - Matilda Dixon-Smith @matildadixonsmith, โ€œWill We Ever Stop Asking Women And Survivors To Fix Rape Culture?โ€

Post by @wagatwe. This is not to say that MeToo is a bad thing at all; just that, once again, the burden falls on the oppressed group (peopl...

Bad, Bitch, and Friends: Lara Witt @Femmefeministe We shouldn't have to out ourselves as survivors in order for people to grasp the magnitude of how systemic assault & harassment are. #MeToo 10/15/17, 7:07 PM This is not to say that MeToo is a bad thing at all; just that, once again, the burden falls on the oppressed group (people who have been assaulted-harassed) to appeal to the moral sense of their oppressors. @femmefeministe explains, "Each time I pour my soul into a piece about assault, I draw out words and put them together with the hope that someone will feel connected or some sense of solidarity. I write for victims, but I also write for those who donโ€™t know what itโ€™s like, I have written with the hope that those of you who have never felt themselves shredded and stripped of their autonomy will hear us and fight alongside us because we need more people to stand up against rape culture. We march, we carry signs, we hold hands, we cry, we scream โ€” but whoโ€™s listening? Sometimes it feels as if no matter how many times we write our stories, no matter how many statistics we show you, you donโ€™t really care. For a moment you ingest our pain; you read details and see flashes of images pushed into the sentences we stitch together. Perhaps you almost feel a sense of revulsion, or even guilt. You think we were raped by monsters, but the people in our nightmares are people like your fathers, your brothers, your friends... How many stories will we have to write for you to care? Or have you read too many of our horrors? Are you desensitized now? Your friend made a rape joke, but hey, heโ€™s a good guy. Right? I wonโ€™t tell you about the person who destroyed me. I wonโ€™t tell you about the scars. I wonโ€™t tell you about the night terrors or the depression or the anxiety or loneliness โ€” because, to you, Iโ€™m just another bitch who was probably asking for it. Iโ€™m a statistic you will forget, these words of mine, you will forget but I will go back to bed and not have the luxury of forgetting. I am tired of proving to you just how difficult it is to recover. I cannot do that labor anymore. The numbers are out there for you to research: the essays, the songs, the art and the speeches are there for you to absorb and carry within your heart so that perhaps one day you can find the time to actually help us dismantle rape culture.โ€
Bad, Bitch, and Friends: Lara Witt
 @Femmefeministe
 We shouldn't have to out
 ourselves as survivors in order
 for people to grasp the
 magnitude of how systemic
 assault & harassment are.
 #MeToo
 10/15/17, 7:07 PM
This is not to say that MeToo is a bad thing at all; just that, once again, the burden falls on the oppressed group (people who have been assaulted-harassed) to appeal to the moral sense of their oppressors. @femmefeministe explains, "Each time I pour my soul into a piece about assault, I draw out words and put them together with the hope that someone will feel connected or some sense of solidarity. I write for victims, but I also write for those who donโ€™t know what itโ€™s like, I have written with the hope that those of you who have never felt themselves shredded and stripped of their autonomy will hear us and fight alongside us because we need more people to stand up against rape culture. We march, we carry signs, we hold hands, we cry, we scream โ€” but whoโ€™s listening? Sometimes it feels as if no matter how many times we write our stories, no matter how many statistics we show you, you donโ€™t really care. For a moment you ingest our pain; you read details and see flashes of images pushed into the sentences we stitch together. Perhaps you almost feel a sense of revulsion, or even guilt. You think we were raped by monsters, but the people in our nightmares are people like your fathers, your brothers, your friends... How many stories will we have to write for you to care? Or have you read too many of our horrors? Are you desensitized now? Your friend made a rape joke, but hey, heโ€™s a good guy. Right? I wonโ€™t tell you about the person who destroyed me. I wonโ€™t tell you about the scars. I wonโ€™t tell you about the night terrors or the depression or the anxiety or loneliness โ€” because, to you, Iโ€™m just another bitch who was probably asking for it. Iโ€™m a statistic you will forget, these words of mine, you will forget but I will go back to bed and not have the luxury of forgetting. I am tired of proving to you just how difficult it is to recover. I cannot do that labor anymore. The numbers are out there for you to research: the essays, the songs, the art and the speeches are there for you to absorb and carry within your heart so that perhaps one day you can find the time to actually help us dismantle rape culture.โ€

This is not to say that MeToo is a bad thing at all; just that, once again, the burden falls on the oppressed group (people who have been as...

Books, Fifty Shades of Grey, and Head: New Fifty Shades Novel Coming in November@balleralert New Fifty Shades Novel Coming in November-blogged by @baetoven โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € In 2015, Vintage Books released "Grey: Fifty Shades of Grey as Told by Christian," the first book in the Fifty Shades series told from the perspective of the leading male character, Christian. This year, ELJames is releasing a second book, "Darker: Fifty Shades Darker as Told by Christian," which will also chronicle details through Christian's point of view. โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € "The inside of Christian Grey's head is a fascinating place to be,โ€ James said in a statement. โ€œIn Grey we got the first glimpse of what makes Christian tick, but in Darker we go deeper, into his most painful memories and the encounters that made him the damaged, demanding man Ana falls in love with. Writing this novel has been a journey of discovery, and I hope readers will find what Iโ€™ve learned as compelling as I did. Finally, itโ€™s always a joy to work with the great team at Vintage.โ€ โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € "Darker: 50 Shades Darker as Told by Christian" will be available on Nov. 28.
Books, Fifty Shades of Grey, and Head: New Fifty Shades Novel Coming in
 November@balleralert
New Fifty Shades Novel Coming in November-blogged by @baetoven โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € In 2015, Vintage Books released "Grey: Fifty Shades of Grey as Told by Christian," the first book in the Fifty Shades series told from the perspective of the leading male character, Christian. This year, ELJames is releasing a second book, "Darker: Fifty Shades Darker as Told by Christian," which will also chronicle details through Christian's point of view. โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € "The inside of Christian Grey's head is a fascinating place to be,โ€ James said in a statement. โ€œIn Grey we got the first glimpse of what makes Christian tick, but in Darker we go deeper, into his most painful memories and the encounters that made him the damaged, demanding man Ana falls in love with. Writing this novel has been a journey of discovery, and I hope readers will find what Iโ€™ve learned as compelling as I did. Finally, itโ€™s always a joy to work with the great team at Vintage.โ€ โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € "Darker: 50 Shades Darker as Told by Christian" will be available on Nov. 28.

New Fifty Shades Novel Coming in November-blogged by @baetoven โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ €โ € In 2015, Vintage Books released "Grey: Fifty Shades of Grey a...