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The second post I ever read after recently discovering r/muslimmarriage . I thought cousin marriage was only a significant issue in third world countries.: Ir/MUSLIMMARRIAGE COMMENTS This sub needs to be more nuanced when discussing the risks of cousin marriages Serious Discussion 255 submitted 4 months ago * by [deleted] Salam brothers and sisters, I'm putting my butt on the line with this post so if I make some mistakes or misjudgments, forgive me. I do not want to offend anyone, just want to offer some insights I've gained from what is hopefully a rare experience and my own research. If you are in a happy marriage with your cousin with healthy babies, I'm happy for you. I've read posts on here about cousin marriages and have noticed quite a few users refuse to go beyond "Its sunnah so it's always okay and an encouraged practice." full stop. I urge you to consider what we have learned about consanguineous relationships and their children in the last few centuries. For background, I am regrettably the product of a cousin marriage, as are my parents, and their parents, etc. and many of my cousins. I'm probably one of the luckier ones. I am a carrier for 2 fatal illnesses, and have an ultra rare gene mutation from both my parents which pretty much guarantees I'll get breast cancer within the next 20 years. I technically haven't been cleared of any of those illnesses myself, because I'm too scared to get officially tested. They're autosomal recessive conditions, so if someone who's a carrier like me had a kid with someone who's also a carrier, each kid has a 1 in 4 chance of inheriting two faulty genes and getting said condition. This exact scenario has been happening in my family for generations, and it's been happening in other families to0 with a myriad of illnesses: thalassemia, sickle cell, cystic fibrosis, MLD, etc. I'm overall healthy but I've lost way too many cousins to conditions that wouldn't have happened had their parents married someone they weren't related to. One of my cousins was born with a whole in her heart and stomach because her parents are first cousins. I accept that cousin marriage was practiced by the Prophet PBUH. But the study of genetic illnesses is a fairly new thing, and now we know how horribly easy it is for the child of cousins to inherit illnesses. Part of being Muslim is to do no harm. Please be careful. Please don't condemn your children to a horribly painful life, most of these conditions have no known cure. If you're serious about marrying someone you're related to, get genetic testing. It's pretty common in areas where cousin marriage is popular and genetic counselors can let you know if there is a risk and how to avoid it. I love kids and can't wait to be a mother but I'm still deciding on whether or not it's ethical for me to have kids given my absurdly trash genes (talk about overkill.) Many people say cousin marriage is harmless if it's a one off thing but most of the times it's a generational pattern. Also cousin marriages are risky because if you divorce, there is a double stigma as you are basically cast out from your own family, something I have witnessed so many times first hand. I know a lovely woman who married her first cousin. She had three beautiful daughters, each of whom was diagnosed with the same extremely rare genetic illness (both she and her husband carried daughters within months of each other. She brought up this topic, and says she greatly regrets not being more careful and feels guilty about what her daughters went through. and she lost all her At the end of the day no one can tell you what to do, but I would just like to say whatever you do please be safe and careful. There are billions of people out there in the world, other than your cousins. Only Allah knows best. Eid Mubarak. 75 comments share save hide report crosspost The second post I ever read after recently discovering r/muslimmarriage . I thought cousin marriage was only a significant issue in third world countries.

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