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Bad, Dank, and Family: Validating your wife's feelings. You don't have to understand the exact feelings in play to show solidarity. Below are some helpful phrases that may help you better express YOUR feelings about her feelings. She just wants to know that you care. She needs space to process what she's feeling before she is ready to move on to problem solving and logic. Give her this space and show your support by employing a response from below 1. An apology (one or more of these may apply, but likely only one will be necessary) "I'm sorry I hurt your feelings'" "That sounds like it sucks. I'm sorry" "I'm sorry I wasn't listening" "l'm sorry I made you feel that way" 2. A follow up (to show how much you care utilize one or more of the following that apply) "I didn't know that [action or statement] would make you feel [bad thing], you are [good thing] to me "Can you think of anything that would make you feel better?" "I hate that I made you feel this way." "I hope you know I would never do that on purpose" "I wish I knew how to make you feel better" "I'm not sure what I can do to make you feel better, but l'd like to try "I hate that my family or friend made you feel that way" "I hear what you are saying. It's hard for me to feel like I can't fix it" "I hope you know you are [good thing]. I never want you to feel [bad thing]" "This is hard for me too" "I don't quite understand what's going on. Can you explain it again or tell me how I can help?" "You don't need to yell. I'm listening, and I hope you'll listen to me next" "I really want to fix this, but you're going to have to help me understand what's wrong" "I didn't know you were this upset" "I can see that you're upset, but I don't understand why" "l don't know what to say" "Let's try to avoid another misunderstanding like this" "l see why you're feeling that way Would you like a glass of wine?" 3. She might also have some things to apologize for. Once you have apologized kindly using two or three follow up statements you can try to start problem solving. Proceed with caution. It's important that you don't rush from apologizing to criticizing Editor's note: this guide is intended to help turn your feelings into words that help a situation Please to do not simply read a response from this guide. You should still mean what you are saying My friend made her husband an apology cheat sheet (posted with permission). by jinx2369 MORE MEMES

My friend made her husband an apology cheat sheet (posted with permission). by jinx2369 MORE MEMES

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Confused, Crime, and Girls: Hey if you could eat any letter of the alphabet, what letter would you eat and why? Yesterday 6:48 PM I would eat Os but not the sad ones, only the CheeriOs Today 11:15 AM Hmm...that's a better response than any l've got before Let me guess most girls only want the D? But your saving that for later Nah, I've gotten like an F for no reason, and one said Y, but now that I think about it they may have been asking me Aha well Then tbhl was hella confused when you asked and I seriously thought it was a dick joke I can see that, but just going with a D is so uncreative Very true think. I like the way you Now what letter would you eat? Lol R because its the most sinister sounding. That's why it's called murder and not mukduk What's mukduk I have no idea, but I know what murder is What's that Like...when you kill someone and get charged with murder I think it's a fun word to say Yeah know I knew that I was just saying if that's what we were actually talking about here. But murders kinda interest me like I watch a lot of documentaries and conspiracy theories lol I don't like the parts of those documentaries that have blood Really? Yeah, I'm more into the whole theft crime thing. SometimesI like to imagine my perfect crime I break into Tiffany's at midnight Do I go for the vault? No, I go for the chandelier. It's priceless. As I'm taking it down, a woman catches me. She tells me to stop It's her father's business. She's Tiffany. I say no. We make love all night. In the morning, the cops come and I escape in one of their uniforms. I tell her to meet me in New Brunswick, but I go to Yukon. I don't trust her. Besides I like the cold. Thirty years later, get a postcard. I have a son and he's the chief of police. This is where the story gets interesting I tell Tiffany to meet me in Paris by the Trocadero. She's been waiting for me all these years She's never taken another lover. I don't care. I don't show up. I go to Berlin. That's where I stashed the chandelier Sent Today 6:07 PM That's deep lol I don’t think she’s the one. *looks disappointingly into the camera*
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Future, God, and Head: avintagekiss24: elinimate: sursumursa: gendervilleusa: marguerite26: kk-maker: 2spoopy5you: lohelim: winterthirst: sabacc: Steve Rogers did, in fact, realize that something was off when he saw the outline of the woman’s odd bra (a push-up bra, he would later learn), but being an officer and a gentleman, he said that it was the game that gave the future away. #EXCUSE ME MA’AM BUT YOUR TITTIES ARE NOT CONES I’M CALLING BULLSHIT (via) No, see, this scene is just amazing. The costume department deserves so many kudos for this, it’s unreal, especially given the fact that they pulled off Peggy pretty much flawlessly. 1) Her hair is completely wrong for the 40’s. No professional/working woman  would have her hair loose like that. Since they’re trying to pass this off as a military hospital, Steve would know that she would at least have her hair carefully pulled back, if maybe not in the elaborate coiffures that would have been popular. 2) Her tie? Too wide, too long. That’s a man’s tie, not a woman’s. They did, however, get the knot correct as far as I can see - that looks like a Windsor. 3) That. Bra. There is so much clashing between that bra and what Steve would expect (remember, he worked with a bunch of women for a long time) that it has to be intentional. She’s wearing a foam cup, which would have been unheard of back then. It’s also an exceptionally old or ill-fitting bra - why else can you see the tops of the cups? No woman would have been caught dead with misbehaving lingerie like that back then, and the soft satin cups of 40’s lingerie made it nearly impossible anyway. Her breasts are also sitting at a much lower angle than would be acceptable in the 40’s. Look at his eyes. He knows by the time he gets to her hair that something is very, very wrong. so what you are saying is S.H.E.I.L.D. has a super shitty costume division…. Nope, Nick Fury totally did this on purpose. There’s no knowing what kind of condition Steve’s in, or what kind of person he really is, after decades of nostalgia blur the reality and the long years in the ice (after a plane crash and a shitload of radiation) do their work. (Pre-crash Steve is in lots of files, I’m sure. Nick Fury does not trust files.) So Fury instructs his people to build a stage, and makes sure that the right people put up some of the wrong cues. Maybe the real Steve’s a dick, or just an above-average jock; maybe he had a knack for hanging out with real talent. Maybe he hit his head too hard on the landing and he’s not gonna be Captain anymore. On the flipside, if he really is smart, then putting him in a standard, modern hospital room and telling him the truth is going to have him clamming up and refusing to believe a goddamn thing he hears for a really long time. The real question here is, how long it does it take for the man, the myth, the legend to notice? What does he do about it? How long does he wait to get his bearings, confirm his suspicions, and gather information before attempting busting out? Turns out the answer’s about forty-five seconds. Sometimes clever posts die a quiet death in the abyss of the unreblogged. Some clever posts get attention, get comments, get better. Then there’s this one which I’ve watched evolve into a thing of brilliance. #his little jaw twitch well done chris ( @thewomaninthetanjacket ) Oh shit I hadn’t noticed that, god this just gets better and better. I love everything about this. @greenbergsays I didn’t even notice any of this until read this thread. Woah.
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Future, Head, and Nostalgia: <p><a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://marguerite26.tumblr.com/post/100423245691">marguerite26</a>:</p><blockquote> <p><a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://kk-maker.tumblr.com/post/100370208172">kk-maker</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://2spoopy5you.tumblr.com/post/100252728005">2spoopy5you</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://lohelim.tumblr.com/post/100206853164">lohelim</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://winterthirst.tumblr.com/post/100122180451">winterthirst</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://sabacc.tumblr.com/post/100091062032">sabacc</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p>Steve Rogers did, in fact, realize that something was off when he saw the outline of the woman’s odd bra (a push-up bra, he would later learn), but being an officer and a gentleman, he said that it was the game that gave the future away.</p> </blockquote> <p><a class="post_tag" href="https://tumblr.com/tagged/EXCUSE-ME-MA%27AM-BUT-YOUR-TITTIES-ARE-NOT-CONES-I%27M-CALLING-BULLSHIT">#EXCUSE ME MA’AM BUT YOUR TITTIES ARE NOT CONES I’M CALLING BULLSHIT</a> (<a href="http://thisdorkyblogthing.tumblr.com">via</a>)</p> </blockquote> <p>No, see, this scene is just amazing. The costume department deserves so many kudos for this, it’s unreal, especially given the fact that they pulled off Peggy pretty much flawlessly.</p> <p>1) Her hair is <em>completely wrong</em> for the 40’s. No professional/working woman  would have her hair loose like that. Since they’re trying to pass this off as a military hospital, Steve would know that she would at least have her hair carefully pulled back, if maybe not in the elaborate coiffures that would have been popular.</p> <p>2) Her tie? Too wide, too long. That’s a man’s tie, not a woman’s. They did, however, get the knot correct as far as I can see - that looks like a Windsor.</p> <p>3) That. Bra. There is so much clashing between that bra and what Steve would expect (remember, he worked with a bunch of women for a long time) that it <em>has</em> to be intentional. She’s wearing a foam cup, which would have been unheard of back then. It’s also an exceptionally old or ill-fitting bra - why else can you see the tops of the cups? No woman would have been caught <em>dead</em> with misbehaving lingerie like that back then, and the soft satin cups of 40’s lingerie made it nearly impossible anyway. Her breasts are also sitting at a much lower angle than would be acceptable in the 40’s.</p> <p>Look at his eyes. He knows by the time he gets to her <em>hair</em> that something is very, very wrong.</p> </blockquote> <p>so what you are saying is S.H.E.I.L.D. has a super shitty costume division….</p> </blockquote> <p>Nope, Nick Fury totally did this on purpose.</p> <p>There’s no knowing what kind of condition Steve’s in, or what kind of person he really is, after decades of nostalgia blur the reality and the long years in the ice (after a plane crash and a shitload of radiation) do their work. (Pre-crash Steve is in lots of files, I’m sure. Nick Fury does not trust files.) So Fury instructs his people to build a stage, and makes sure that the right people put up some of the wrong cues.</p> <p>Maybe the real Steve’s a dick, or just an above-average jock; maybe he had a knack for hanging out with real talent. Maybe he hit his head too hard on the landing and he’s not gonna be Captain anymore. On the flipside, if he really <em>is </em>smart, then putting him in a standard, modern hospital room and telling him the truth is going to have him clamming up and refusing to believe a goddamn thing he hears for a <em>really</em> long time.</p> <p>The real question here is, how long it does it take for the man, the myth, the legend to notice? What does he do about it? How long does he wait to get his bearings, confirm his suspicions, and gather information before attempting busting out?</p> <p>Turns out the answer’s about forty-five seconds.</p> </blockquote> <p>Sometimes clever posts die a quiet death in the abyss of the unreblogged. Some clever posts get attention, get comments, get <em>better</em>. Then there’s this one which I’ve watched evolve into a thing of brilliance.</p> </blockquote>
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Advice, Bad, and Cute: LASERS NK TOOLS er Tools GET ADVICE AT S ANLEY 124 RFTSMRN <p><a href="http://egalitarians-do-it-better.tumblr.com/post/130141829469/rationalsjdiscussions" class="tumblr_blog">egalitarians-do-it-better</a>:</p> <blockquote><p><a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://rationalsjdiscussions.tumblr.com/post/130111317189">rationalsjdiscussions</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://egalitarians-do-it-better.tumblr.com/post/130010970904">egalitarians-do-it-better</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://nato-tempesta.tumblr.com/post/129997987008">nato-tempesta</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><b>Reason I Need Feminism #7,344</b></p> Because every female mechanic, carpenter, electrician, etc wants a bright pink tool set on the job. Never mind that these are some of the lowest grade tools you can find. </blockquote> <p>You’re literally in a section labelled pink tools. There aren’t any visible signs I can see that read “for women!” Even if there were, it’s not as if someone is holding a gun to every woman’s head and telling her she has to purchase the pink tools or she’s out of luck. If you honestly feel like this picture is why you need feminism in 2015, you’re just proving that modern-day feminism has run its course. When one of your biggest complaints is regarding pink products being available in a store, it’s painfully obvious that you haven’t faced any real sexism/oppression in your entire life.</p> </blockquote> <p>Good point. Now buy your dad a ton of tools from this section and see how he appreciates your gift. :P Or accept you’re doing an awful lot of reaching and just outright denying common misogynist marketing.</p> </blockquote> <p>What even…? Well, considering my dad isn’t an asshole who would scoff at me spending the money I get from my minumum wage retail job on a gift for him, I’m going to assume he’d be perfectly fine with receiving tools that happen to be pink. I truly feel bad for you if you think your dad would react negatively to a gift just because of its color.</p><p><br/></p><p>Anyway, <a class="tumblelog" href="http://tmblr.co/mM8r90dRZzm5A4oYfhroi4Q">geoffryhawk</a> already pointed out something which I had previously overlooked; <a href="http://geoffryhawk.tumblr.com/post/130062062977/egalitarians-do-it-better-nato-tempesta">Pink Tools are a <i>brand</i> of tool.</a> I double checked this and, sure enough, <a href="http://theoriginalpinkbox.com/">the site has the exact shame shade of pink plastered all over it</a>. <a href="http://theoriginalpinkbox.com/opb-family/">The three original founders are three women and one man</a>. Who’s reaching, again?</p><p><br/></p><p>Beating a woman for speaking out of turn because you think men are above women is misogyny. Executing a woman for being raped because you think she has brought shame upon your family is misogyny. Three women and one man banding together to create cute tools for the general public to purchase isn’t misogyny. You can’t just deem everything you don’t like to be misogyny.</p></blockquote> <p>@RationalSJdiscussions is having some trouble living up to their name.</p>
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