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        Braids, Children, and Community: 61below:
jyuu-chan:

something-in-the-way-she-knows:

freakishfrollic:

psalmsofraven:

yokhakidfiasco:

stacyfaheyart:

Illustration about Native American boys who have to cut off their braids to follow school dress codes.

And black people have the same issue when it comes to finding jobs/careers.

^^^^ yes but it ain’t about us right now

this is actually really important and pardon me for doing the cliche reblogging with a caption thing but i want to talk about braids and just how significant they are
to native people (and of course i can’t talk about every native tribe as there are very specific sects and i only really am coming from the perspective of seneca) hair is extremely important as it represents the walking of the Sacred Path as the physical extension of thought and self, and holy men, women and two-spirits are identified through specific styles of dress and even if not holy, the hair shows what a person has participated in, their feelings, their age, whether they are married or not, whether they are in mourning and their tribe
my grandfather is seneca and he had to remove his braids at a very young age and it was an act of assimilation because his mother knew they had to try to be white in order to proceed and it’s a tool of oppression and humiliation to cut (or force to cut) a native american person’s hair for both religious and cultural preservationist reasons
my mom is half-seneca and her choice for me to not cut my hair until i was 13 and for it to be worn in traditional manner was because of this and when i cut my hair then, i cut it off at the base of my head for also this reason; i was diagnosed with depression and was going through therapy, i wanted my hair and my treatment to signify that i was becoming a new, better person– eventually i started dying my hair but that is for separate reasons of colour symbolism and it’s still an important thing to me
please do not invalidate the struggles of other POC, i understand that this happens and it’s horrific to not be able to wear your natural hair, these are also children whose culture and religion is being stripped away from them and they can’t even participate in something so important within their culture simply because of white patriarchal ideas of masculinity

^^THIS
American Indian children (especially plains ndns) were forced to attend boarding schools where they were forbidden to speak their own language and had to cut off their hair and choose a “white” name from the bible. If you refused, the teacher would often ridicule you by ignoring you anytime you attempted to speak or participate in class, to the point of saying offensive, false things about your people to rile you up enough that you gave in and picked a white name so the teacher would let you speak and tell the truth. (This is shown in bury my heart at wounded knee). In fact, it is hard to trace records before the turn of the 19th to 20th centuries bc the govt considered the way native peoples often have several different names that they go by in different context and by different people to be too annoying to record them in a census, another reason they were forced to choose white names. 
Being oppressed for your natural hair and the names you choose is a real thing other poc face and it’s wrong and it’s racist, but this specific post is about what it means to American Indians, and for them it was not only racist stereotyping, but forced assimilation and genocide of their cultures. 

dude holy shit being ridiculed for not assimilating was the least of your worries in a residential school. i know people who were forced to kneel on sharp rocks in a corner for speaking a single word in their native language
some fun facts abt residential schools:
 • people who went to residential schools were abused physically, sexually, verbally, and emotionally. my mushum went through all of these until he turned 18 and was allowed to leave
 • boys were not allowed to wear their braids. period. the point of the residential schools was to ‘kill the indian in the child’ and you can google literal before-and-after images of students that the schools would distribute as a source of PRIDE
 • the government would experiment on the students, starving them to see how long they could go without food before it seriously affected them. officially, over 6,000 native children died in residential schools. our government admits the number was likely much higher
 • residential schools were literally hitler’s source of inspiration for concentration camps during world war II
 • where im working right now, there are people in their 30s who were forced to attend residential schools
 • the last residential school closed in 1996, one year after i was born, two hours away from where i live, twenty minutes from my family’s reserve
native assimilation has been the goal from the very start


Residential schools may have officially been shut down, but native kids are still disproportionately removed from their homes and while ICWA (the Indian Child Welfare Act) was designed with the intent of ensuring they’re still placed within their community, ICWA was just recently overturned in the courts, which means that these children are being overwhelmingly placed with white families. This hasn’t stopped. They’ve just gotten less overt about it. 

        

            
            

                
                
                    Braids, Children, and Community: 61below:
jyuu-chan:

something-in-the-way-she-knows:

freakishfrollic:

psalmsofraven:

yokhakidfiasco:

stacyfaheyart:

Illustration about Native American boys who have to cut off their braids to follow school dress codes.

And black people have the same issue when it comes to finding jobs/careers.

^^^^ yes but it ain’t about us right now

this is actually really important and pardon me for doing the cliche reblogging with a caption thing but i want to talk about braids and just how significant they are
to native people (and of course i can’t talk about every native tribe as there are very specific sects and i only really am coming from the perspective of seneca) hair is extremely important as it represents the walking of the Sacred Path as the physical extension of thought and self, and holy men, women and two-spirits are identified through specific styles of dress and even if not holy, the hair shows what a person has participated in, their feelings, their age, whether they are married or not, whether they are in mourning and their tribe
my grandfather is seneca and he had to remove his braids at a very young age and it was an act of assimilation because his mother knew they had to try to be white in order to proceed and it’s a tool of oppression and humiliation to cut (or force to cut) a native american person’s hair for both religious and cultural preservationist reasons
my mom is half-seneca and her choice for me to not cut my hair until i was 13 and for it to be worn in traditional manner was because of this and when i cut my hair then, i cut it off at the base of my head for also this reason; i was diagnosed with depression and was going through therapy, i wanted my hair and my treatment to signify that i was becoming a new, better person– eventually i started dying my hair but that is for separate reasons of colour symbolism and it’s still an important thing to me
please do not invalidate the struggles of other POC, i understand that this happens and it’s horrific to not be able to wear your natural hair, these are also children whose culture and religion is being stripped away from them and they can’t even participate in something so important within their culture simply because of white patriarchal ideas of masculinity

^^THIS
American Indian children (especially plains ndns) were forced to attend boarding schools where they were forbidden to speak their own language and had to cut off their hair and choose a “white” name from the bible. If you refused, the teacher would often ridicule you by ignoring you anytime you attempted to speak or participate in class, to the point of saying offensive, false things about your people to rile you up enough that you gave in and picked a white name so the teacher would let you speak and tell the truth. (This is shown in bury my heart at wounded knee). In fact, it is hard to trace records before the turn of the 19th to 20th centuries bc the govt considered the way native peoples often have several different names that they go by in different context and by different people to be too annoying to record them in a census, another reason they were forced to choose white names. 
Being oppressed for your natural hair and the names you choose is a real thing other poc face and it’s wrong and it’s racist, but this specific post is about what it means to American Indians, and for them it was not only racist stereotyping, but forced assimilation and genocide of their cultures. 

dude holy shit being ridiculed for not assimilating was the least of your worries in a residential school. i know people who were forced to kneel on sharp rocks in a corner for speaking a single word in their native language
some fun facts abt residential schools:
 • people who went to residential schools were abused physically, sexually, verbally, and emotionally. my mushum went through all of these until he turned 18 and was allowed to leave
 • boys were not allowed to wear their braids. period. the point of the residential schools was to ‘kill the indian in the child’ and you can google literal before-and-after images of students that the schools would distribute as a source of PRIDE
 • the government would experiment on the students, starving them to see how long they could go without food before it seriously affected them. officially, over 6,000 native children died in residential schools. our government admits the number was likely much higher
 • residential schools were literally hitler’s source of inspiration for concentration camps during world war II
 • where im working right now, there are people in their 30s who were forced to attend residential schools
 • the last residential school closed in 1996, one year after i was born, two hours away from where i live, twenty minutes from my family’s reserve
native assimilation has been the goal from the very start


Residential schools may have officially been shut down, but native kids are still disproportionately removed from their homes and while ICWA (the Indian Child Welfare Act) was designed with the intent of ensuring they’re still placed within their community, ICWA was just recently overturned in the courts, which means that these children are being overwhelmingly placed with white families. This hasn’t stopped. They’ve just gotten less overt about it. 

                    
                
            

            
            
        

    

    

        
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        Drinking, Fire, and Gg: radfemfrommars
 "It's not safe at night."
 GG
 It's only not safe because there are men
 around. There's no safer place then being with
 18 women in the woods drinking wine, making
 a
 fire and shooting guns. That's the safest l've
 ever felt. The only problem was the woman who
 wanted to bring her boyfriend
 nerdylilpeebee
 If there are 18 of you and you have guns.... why
 would one
 girl bringing her boyfriend make you
 less safe???? You have GUNS. The guy would be
 insane to try anything.
 Are you that deathly afraid of men that they
 terrify you even when they
 completely
 are
 outnumbered and outgunned??????
 radfemfrommars
 One woman bringing her boyfriend would make
 us less safe. First,
 we didn't want him around
 because he didn't belong there. That wasn't the
 point of us all getting together. She wanted to
 bring her boyfriend, and 12 of us gave a hard
 "no", so he didn't get to come
 along. That's the
 end of it. I'm not leaving
 some man to roam
 around in the woods at night with us all
 spreading out every now and then. Say he tried
 something, and one of us beat him or shot him
 you think they'd believe us? Some whitebread
 yuppie beaten or shot by a bunch of
 "feminazis" in the woods doing witchy shit? I
 already
 see the news about how he had "so
 can
 much to give the world" and "he was a
 good
 kid, there's no way he would do that!" (despite
 him being 23 they're always kids in the eyes of
 the media)
 being afraid of men: I don't fear
 So as far as me
 an individual man, I fear the patriarchal system
 that would protect him,
 even in death
 #men are the problem #this is why lesbian
 separatism is a
 thing
 
        

            
            

                
                
                    Drinking, Fire, and Gg: radfemfrommars
 "It's not safe at night."
 GG
 It's only not safe because there are men
 around. There's no safer place then being with
 18 women in the woods drinking wine, making
 a
 fire and shooting guns. That's the safest l've
 ever felt. The only problem was the woman who
 wanted to bring her boyfriend
 nerdylilpeebee
 If there are 18 of you and you have guns.... why
 would one
 girl bringing her boyfriend make you
 less safe???? You have GUNS. The guy would be
 insane to try anything.
 Are you that deathly afraid of men that they
 terrify you even when they
 completely
 are
 outnumbered and outgunned??????
 radfemfrommars
 One woman bringing her boyfriend would make
 us less safe. First,
 we didn't want him around
 because he didn't belong there. That wasn't the
 point of us all getting together. She wanted to
 bring her boyfriend, and 12 of us gave a hard
 "no", so he didn't get to come
 along. That's the
 end of it. I'm not leaving
 some man to roam
 around in the woods at night with us all
 spreading out every now and then. Say he tried
 something, and one of us beat him or shot him
 you think they'd believe us? Some whitebread
 yuppie beaten or shot by a bunch of
 "feminazis" in the woods doing witchy shit? I
 already
 see the news about how he had "so
 can
 much to give the world" and "he was a
 good
 kid, there's no way he would do that!" (despite
 him being 23 they're always kids in the eyes of
 the media)
 being afraid of men: I don't fear
 So as far as me
 an individual man, I fear the patriarchal system
 that would protect him,
 even in death
 #men are the problem #this is why lesbian
 separatism is a
 thing
 
                    
                
            

            
            
        

    

    

        
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        Children, Girls, and Life: To you, my Father, why do you hate girls?
systlin:
appropriately-inappropriate:

kittiesatemypronouns:


r1vk4:

‘To you, my Father, who do you hate girls? With the same hatred you hate our Mothers…’
In the village of Umoja in Kenya, men are not welcome. In fact, they are banned. In Swahili, one of Kenya’s official languages, Umoja means unity. It is a safe and inspirational refuge for 50 women and 200 children. Umoja was founded in 1990 by female survivors of rape and sexual violence. It has also become a haven for women fleeing sexual and domestic violence, and welcomes people fleeing female genital mutilation, child marriage, and more.
‘I wouldnt wish any Maasai girl to go through what I went through.’
The local Samburu culture is patriarchal where historically women are seen as property. Beading is culturally significant and the women are able to support themselves by selling crafts. Protected by a wall of thorns, the village is self-sufficient and the women run their own lives. Despite resistance from local male-run tribal groups, the village continues to grow. Life is frugal, but the women own the land the village is on and proudly call Umoja their home. A beacon of light for women, Umoja has inspired other women-only villages in Kenya. 
- Umoja: The Town Where Men Are Banned


They are making and selling jewelry online now! ☺☺
https://umojajewellery.com/


Oh fuck I want the jewelry. That’s gonna be gifted to everyone come holiday season. 

Welp time to buy some jewelry

        

            
            

                
                
                    Children, Girls, and Life: To you, my Father, why do you hate girls?
systlin:
appropriately-inappropriate:

kittiesatemypronouns:


r1vk4:

‘To you, my Father, who do you hate girls? With the same hatred you hate our Mothers…’
In the village of Umoja in Kenya, men are not welcome. In fact, they are banned. In Swahili, one of Kenya’s official languages, Umoja means unity. It is a safe and inspirational refuge for 50 women and 200 children. Umoja was founded in 1990 by female survivors of rape and sexual violence. It has also become a haven for women fleeing sexual and domestic violence, and welcomes people fleeing female genital mutilation, child marriage, and more.
‘I wouldnt wish any Maasai girl to go through what I went through.’
The local Samburu culture is patriarchal where historically women are seen as property. Beading is culturally significant and the women are able to support themselves by selling crafts. Protected by a wall of thorns, the village is self-sufficient and the women run their own lives. Despite resistance from local male-run tribal groups, the village continues to grow. Life is frugal, but the women own the land the village is on and proudly call Umoja their home. A beacon of light for women, Umoja has inspired other women-only villages in Kenya. 
- Umoja: The Town Where Men Are Banned


They are making and selling jewelry online now! ☺☺
https://umojajewellery.com/


Oh fuck I want the jewelry. That’s gonna be gifted to everyone come holiday season. 

Welp time to buy some jewelry

                    
                    

                    
                
            

            
            
        

    

    

        
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        Girls, School, and Target: INDEPENDENT
 LIKE
 Voices
 There is a way to
 revent so many
 eenage girls being
 deprešsed - but no one
 wants to admit it
 ity the girl who's wearing a bra
 before she leaves primary school
 already she's ventured over the top,
 into a no man's land of groping, cat
 calls and adult disapproval
ithelpstodream:

excerpt:

“If girls say they are depressed, we owe it to them to listen. Furthermore, we can no longer afford to ignore the effect of a highly gendered culture on the mental wellbeing of girls. If we’re able to draw links between masculinity and high suicide rates in men, we can surely do the same with femininity and female despair.

If the past is another country, female adolescence is a war zone. Puberty transforms you into a walking target overnight. If you’re lucky, other girls get there before you and become your shields. Pity the girl who’s wearing a bra before she leaves primary school; already she’s ventured over the top, into a no man’s land of groping, cat calls and adult disapproval.

Girls need support in getting through this. They need coping methods. But they also need a different society, one which permits them to take up space, to express their fears and passions rather than internalise them. It should not be the role of mental health services to patch girls up and arm them to face another onslaught of patriarchal slings and arrows. There has to be a ceasefire. Girls shouldn’t have to be so brave.”

read more: http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/mental-health-teenage-girls-quarter-rise-patriarchy-sexism-abuse-a7957441.html

        

            
            

                
                
                    Girls, School, and Target: INDEPENDENT
 LIKE
 Voices
 There is a way to
 revent so many
 eenage girls being
 deprešsed - but no one
 wants to admit it
 ity the girl who's wearing a bra
 before she leaves primary school
 already she's ventured over the top,
 into a no man's land of groping, cat
 calls and adult disapproval
ithelpstodream:

excerpt:

“If girls say they are depressed, we owe it to them to listen. Furthermore, we can no longer afford to ignore the effect of a highly gendered culture on the mental wellbeing of girls. If we’re able to draw links between masculinity and high suicide rates in men, we can surely do the same with femininity and female despair.

If the past is another country, female adolescence is a war zone. Puberty transforms you into a walking target overnight. If you’re lucky, other girls get there before you and become your shields. Pity the girl who’s wearing a bra before she leaves primary school; already she’s ventured over the top, into a no man’s land of groping, cat calls and adult disapproval.

Girls need support in getting through this. They need coping methods. But they also need a different society, one which permits them to take up space, to express their fears and passions rather than internalise them. It should not be the role of mental health services to patch girls up and arm them to face another onslaught of patriarchal slings and arrows. There has to be a ceasefire. Girls shouldn’t have to be so brave.”

read more: http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/mental-health-teenage-girls-quarter-rise-patriarchy-sexism-abuse-a7957441.html

                    
                
            

            
                
                
ithelpstodream:

excerpt:

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        Girls, Reddit, and Target: AGE:10
 AGE:a0
 (i am girls)
confusedbyinterface:
thecuckoohaslanded:

qt3-14:
This is so accurate it hurts.
Just to give you some idea how much jpeg compression this image has been through from how many time it’s been reposted, here is a much older version of the same file with most of the original coloring and line work intact:
You can tell from the different levels of compression damage that (I am girls) was added many iterations later.
And furthermore this is the image it was originally edited from:
I believe the original comic was created by tumblr user egobus and posted with the caption “character development”, but I can’t confirm it as their blog is now private after radfems screengrabbed the image with a few captions on it and presumably blogged about it until the artist got harassed into anonymity by people yelling about internalized misogyny vs. conforming to patriarchal expectations of femininity (if you’ve been on tumblr long enough, you probably remember the post in question).  The (I am girls) may have been added after the image was linked to a (now defunct?) subreddit, as it lines up with one of the comments there.  The image seems to have an ugly history of getting dragged through reddit, 2chan, and pinterest, so it’s hard to trace.
But yeah tl;dr that’s what too much jpeg compression looks like.


        

            
            

                
                
                    Girls, Reddit, and Target: AGE:10
 AGE:a0
 (i am girls)
confusedbyinterface:
thecuckoohaslanded:

qt3-14:
This is so accurate it hurts.
Just to give you some idea how much jpeg compression this image has been through from how many time it’s been reposted, here is a much older version of the same file with most of the original coloring and line work intact:
You can tell from the different levels of compression damage that (I am girls) was added many iterations later.
And furthermore this is the image it was originally edited from:
I believe the original comic was created by tumblr user egobus and posted with the caption “character development”, but I can’t confirm it as their blog is now private after radfems screengrabbed the image with a few captions on it and presumably blogged about it until the artist got harassed into anonymity by people yelling about internalized misogyny vs. conforming to patriarchal expectations of femininity (if you’ve been on tumblr long enough, you probably remember the post in question).  The (I am girls) may have been added after the image was linked to a (now defunct?) subreddit, as it lines up with one of the comments there.  The image seems to have an ugly history of getting dragged through reddit, 2chan, and pinterest, so it’s hard to trace.
But yeah tl;dr that’s what too much jpeg compression looks like.


                    
                
            

            
                
                
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thecuckoohaslanded:

qt3-14:
This is so accurate it hurts.
Just to give you some idea how much jpeg compression this im...

                
            
            
        

    

    

        
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        Baby, It's Cold Outside, Christmas, and Definitely: Andrew Rannells
 @AndrewRannells
 I don't think any more people
 need to record Baby It's Cold
 Outside. I think we're good there
girlwholovesturtles:

bigbutterandeggman:
teachingwithcoffee:
It’s time to bring an end to the Rape Anthem Masquerading As Christmas Carol
Hi there! Former English nerd/teacher here. Also a big fan of jazz of the 30s and 40s. 
So. Here’s the thing. Given a cursory glance and applying today’s worldview to the song, yes, you’re right, it absolutely *sounds* like a rape anthem. 
BUT! Let’s look closer! 
“Hey what’s in this drink” was a stock joke at the time, and the punchline was invariably that there’s actually pretty much nothing in the drink, not even a significant amount of alcohol. 
See, this woman is staying late, unchaperoned, at a dude’s house. In the 1940’s, that’s the kind of thing Good Girls aren’t supposed to do — and she wants people to think she’s a good girl. The woman in the song says outright, multiple times, that what other people will think of her staying is what she’s really concerned about: “the neighbors might think,” “my maiden aunt’s mind is vicious,” “there’s bound to be talk tomorrow.” But she’s having a really good time, and she wants to stay, and so she is excusing her uncharacteristically bold behavior (either to the guy or to herself) by blaming it on the drink — unaware that the drink is actually really weak, maybe not even alcoholic at all. That’s the joke. That is the standard joke that’s going on when a woman in media from the early-to-mid 20th century says “hey, what’s in this drink?” It is not a joke about how she’s drunk and about to be raped. It’s a joke about how she’s perfectly sober and about to have awesome consensual sex and use the drink for plausible deniability because she’s living in a society where women aren’t supposed to have sexual agency.
Basically, the song only makes sense in the context of a society in which women are expected to reject men’s advances whether they actually want to or not, and therefore it’s normal and expected for a lady’s gentleman companion to pressure her despite her protests, because he knows she would have to say that whether or not she meant it, and if she really wants to stay she won’t be able to justify doing so unless he offers her an excuse other than “I’m staying because I want to.” (That’s the main theme of the man’s lines in the song, suggesting excuses she can use when people ask later why she spent the night at his house: it was so cold out, there were no cabs available, he simply insisted because he was concerned about my safety in such awful weather, it was perfectly innocent and definitely not about sex at all!) In this particular case, he’s pretty clearly right, because the woman has a voice, and she’s using it to give all the culturally-understood signals that she actually does want to stay but can’t say so. She states explicitly that she’s resisting because she’s supposed to, not because she wants to: “I ought to say no no no…” She states explicitly that she’s just putting up a token resistance so she’ll be able to claim later that she did what’s expected of a decent woman in this situation: “at least I’m gonna say that I tried.” And at the end of the song they’re singing together, in harmony, because they’re both on the same page and they have been all along.
So it’s not actually a song about rape - in fact it’s a song about a woman finding a way to exercise sexual agency in a patriarchal society designed to stop her from doing so. But it’s also, at the same time, one of the best illustrations of rape culture that pop culture has ever produced. It’s a song about a society where women aren’t allowed to say yes…which happens to mean it’s also a society where women don’t have a clear and unambiguous way to say no.


I will never get tired of people actually paying attention to the actual meaning of this song.
        

            
            

                
                
                    Baby, It's Cold Outside, Christmas, and Definitely: Andrew Rannells
 @AndrewRannells
 I don't think any more people
 need to record Baby It's Cold
 Outside. I think we're good there
girlwholovesturtles:

bigbutterandeggman:
teachingwithcoffee:
It’s time to bring an end to the Rape Anthem Masquerading As Christmas Carol
Hi there! Former English nerd/teacher here. Also a big fan of jazz of the 30s and 40s. 
So. Here’s the thing. Given a cursory glance and applying today’s worldview to the song, yes, you’re right, it absolutely *sounds* like a rape anthem. 
BUT! Let’s look closer! 
“Hey what’s in this drink” was a stock joke at the time, and the punchline was invariably that there’s actually pretty much nothing in the drink, not even a significant amount of alcohol. 
See, this woman is staying late, unchaperoned, at a dude’s house. In the 1940’s, that’s the kind of thing Good Girls aren’t supposed to do — and she wants people to think she’s a good girl. The woman in the song says outright, multiple times, that what other people will think of her staying is what she’s really concerned about: “the neighbors might think,” “my maiden aunt’s mind is vicious,” “there’s bound to be talk tomorrow.” But she’s having a really good time, and she wants to stay, and so she is excusing her uncharacteristically bold behavior (either to the guy or to herself) by blaming it on the drink — unaware that the drink is actually really weak, maybe not even alcoholic at all. That’s the joke. That is the standard joke that’s going on when a woman in media from the early-to-mid 20th century says “hey, what’s in this drink?” It is not a joke about how she’s drunk and about to be raped. It’s a joke about how she’s perfectly sober and about to have awesome consensual sex and use the drink for plausible deniability because she’s living in a society where women aren’t supposed to have sexual agency.
Basically, the song only makes sense in the context of a society in which women are expected to reject men’s advances whether they actually want to or not, and therefore it’s normal and expected for a lady’s gentleman companion to pressure her despite her protests, because he knows she would have to say that whether or not she meant it, and if she really wants to stay she won’t be able to justify doing so unless he offers her an excuse other than “I’m staying because I want to.” (That’s the main theme of the man’s lines in the song, suggesting excuses she can use when people ask later why she spent the night at his house: it was so cold out, there were no cabs available, he simply insisted because he was concerned about my safety in such awful weather, it was perfectly innocent and definitely not about sex at all!) In this particular case, he’s pretty clearly right, because the woman has a voice, and she’s using it to give all the culturally-understood signals that she actually does want to stay but can’t say so. She states explicitly that she’s resisting because she’s supposed to, not because she wants to: “I ought to say no no no…” She states explicitly that she’s just putting up a token resistance so she’ll be able to claim later that she did what’s expected of a decent woman in this situation: “at least I’m gonna say that I tried.” And at the end of the song they’re singing together, in harmony, because they’re both on the same page and they have been all along.
So it’s not actually a song about rape - in fact it’s a song about a woman finding a way to exercise sexual agency in a patriarchal society designed to stop her from doing so. But it’s also, at the same time, one of the best illustrations of rape culture that pop culture has ever produced. It’s a song about a society where women aren’t allowed to say yes…which happens to mean it’s also a society where women don’t have a clear and unambiguous way to say no.


I will never get tired of people actually paying attention to the actual meaning of this song.
                    
                
            

            
            
        

    

    

        
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        Feminism, Money, and Work: Misogynist
 Misandrist
 Feminist
 Legit question, I'm not trying to hate on
 feminists or anything. Why is it called feminist
 if they're for equality?
 That's a very good question and thank you for
 asking so politely
 The word feminism was coined by Charles Fourier
 in 1837, a French philosopher who advocated for
 the emancipation of women because he believed
 society treated women as slaves. We weren't
 allowed to vote, own anything, or work a real job
 Women were ruled by their fathers/household
 patriarch until they married at which time they'd be
 under the rule of their husband. If a woman did not
 belong to male household she was shunned by
 society and had very little means to make money
 most of them unsavory. You know the idiom rule
 of thumb? That comes from a running joke that
 started in the 1600s, and was still around in
 Fourier's time, that said it was okay for a man to
 beat a woman with a stick as long as it wasn't any
 thicker than his thumb
 The point of the word feminist, and the feminist
 movement, has never been to say that women are
 better than men. The point is that women and
 things associated with women have been givena
 lesser place in society and we want to bring those
 things up to a place of equality. The focus is on the
 feminine because that's what's being pushed
 down. However, focusing on the feminine does not
 mean we're focusing only women. Men are belittled
 and called "less of a man" anytime they portray a
 trait that is associated with femininity. If women
 and the feminine were equal to men and
 masculinity then that wouldn't happen. Feminism
 is about raising up things associated with females
 to have an equal place in society as the things
 associated with males. It's called feminism, not
 equalism, because the focus is on raising up not
 tearing down. Equalism would suggest that male
 things need to come down to a lower level so that
 female things can meet it in the middle. That's not
 the point. The point is to raise up the feminine so
 that it's on the same playing field that the
 masculine is already on. We don't want men to
 lower themselves, we just want them to make
 room for us.
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                    Feminism, Money, and Work: Misogynist
 Misandrist
 Feminist
 Legit question, I'm not trying to hate on
 feminists or anything. Why is it called feminist
 if they're for equality?
 That's a very good question and thank you for
 asking so politely
 The word feminism was coined by Charles Fourier
 in 1837, a French philosopher who advocated for
 the emancipation of women because he believed
 society treated women as slaves. We weren't
 allowed to vote, own anything, or work a real job
 Women were ruled by their fathers/household
 patriarch until they married at which time they'd be
 under the rule of their husband. If a woman did not
 belong to male household she was shunned by
 society and had very little means to make money
 most of them unsavory. You know the idiom rule
 of thumb? That comes from a running joke that
 started in the 1600s, and was still around in
 Fourier's time, that said it was okay for a man to
 beat a woman with a stick as long as it wasn't any
 thicker than his thumb
 The point of the word feminist, and the feminist
 movement, has never been to say that women are
 better than men. The point is that women and
 things associated with women have been givena
 lesser place in society and we want to bring those
 things up to a place of equality. The focus is on the
 feminine because that's what's being pushed
 down. However, focusing on the feminine does not
 mean we're focusing only women. Men are belittled
 and called "less of a man" anytime they portray a
 trait that is associated with femininity. If women
 and the feminine were equal to men and
 masculinity then that wouldn't happen. Feminism
 is about raising up things associated with females
 to have an equal place in society as the things
 associated with males. It's called feminism, not
 equalism, because the focus is on raising up not
 tearing down. Equalism would suggest that male
 things need to come down to a lower level so that
 female things can meet it in the middle. That's not
 the point. The point is to raise up the feminine so
 that it's on the same playing field that the
 masculine is already on. We don't want men to
 lower themselves, we just want them to make
 room for us.
 Stay awake at FUNSubstance.com
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        Ass, Fashion, and Feminism: AGE:a0
 AGE: 10
 I hate pink
 and dresses
 and girly things
onebuttscratcher:
myvegansensesaretingling:

egobus:

rad-les-veg-fem:

egobus:

character development 

nope that would be called successful female socialisation in a patriarchal society

Please do not use feminism to shame my interests.
I like pink and dresses and art and music and fashion. I also like blue and sports and comics and I choose not to wear makeup and have had short hair for the past five years. I am a person with feminine and masculine interests. I have not been socialized to be more feminine, I have adopted new interest, grown as a person and learned to embrace both my feminine and my masculine sides.  
If you want to do a feminist reading on this silly ass comic about how I’ve changed over the past decade maybe you should look at why I actively avoided things typically viewed as “feminine”. 
You’re not helping feminism by making me feel like I don’t have control over myself. You’re not helping feminism by shaming girls who consider themselves more feminine than masculine.
Thank you and goodbye.  

it’s truly strange that one person could look at this and see “successful female socialisation in a patriarchal society” when all I see is “shedding internalized misogyny”
tbh when I was 10 I prided myself on being a “tomboy” and only hung out with boys (and one girl who was just as tomboyish as me) because I thought “girly girls” were the scum of the earth
took me a long time to unlearn that shit, but once I started wearing dresses, I started celebrating girls of all backgrounds

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                    Ass, Fashion, and Feminism: AGE:a0
 AGE: 10
 I hate pink
 and dresses
 and girly things
onebuttscratcher:
myvegansensesaretingling:

egobus:

rad-les-veg-fem:

egobus:

character development 

nope that would be called successful female socialisation in a patriarchal society

Please do not use feminism to shame my interests.
I like pink and dresses and art and music and fashion. I also like blue and sports and comics and I choose not to wear makeup and have had short hair for the past five years. I am a person with feminine and masculine interests. I have not been socialized to be more feminine, I have adopted new interest, grown as a person and learned to embrace both my feminine and my masculine sides.  
If you want to do a feminist reading on this silly ass comic about how I’ve changed over the past decade maybe you should look at why I actively avoided things typically viewed as “feminine”. 
You’re not helping feminism by making me feel like I don’t have control over myself. You’re not helping feminism by shaming girls who consider themselves more feminine than masculine.
Thank you and goodbye.  

it’s truly strange that one person could look at this and see “successful female socialisation in a patriarchal society” when all I see is “shedding internalized misogyny”
tbh when I was 10 I prided myself on being a “tomboy” and only hung out with boys (and one girl who was just as tomboyish as me) because I thought “girly girls” were the scum of the earth
took me a long time to unlearn that shit, but once I started wearing dresses, I started celebrating girls of all backgrounds

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        Bodies , Brains, and College: hrs .
 Being in college in the sciences is really hard. Ive always felt that health-
 science and technological advancement are the coolest things and maybe
 the most helpful fields for our continued progression and survival, but now
 as I leam more and more that both of those areas of study stem from the
 same place of patriarchal colonialist idealism, and that they are STILL far
 more problematic than they are beneficial, I really don't know if I can be a
 part of them for the rest of my life. The idea of progression for the human
 race" has almost entirely stemmed from upper class, able, white men who
 purely mean progression for Their society, and they fail to see that
 everything they have used to "progress" has been on the backs of others,
 sometimes literally, but always in terms of stealing ideas and using power to
 produce and claim results for themselves. One day I may produce ground
 breaking results in neuroscience and biopsychology that I tryto apply to
 equalizing people and eradicating notions of better or worse brains and
 bodies, and stillit will be used to singularly benefit the dominant group of
 white male scientists which are not likely to fade away in my lifetime.
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 just want people to respect people ableism needs to go
 sexism needs to go racism needs to go ESPECIALLY IN SCIENCE uggghhh
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 Honey, I'm a 4 10 Latina woman with a genetic issue that has
 been dealing with scientist since she was a child. I could tell u stories
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                    Bodies , Brains, and College: hrs .
 Being in college in the sciences is really hard. Ive always felt that health-
 science and technological advancement are the coolest things and maybe
 the most helpful fields for our continued progression and survival, but now
 as I leam more and more that both of those areas of study stem from the
 same place of patriarchal colonialist idealism, and that they are STILL far
 more problematic than they are beneficial, I really don't know if I can be a
 part of them for the rest of my life. The idea of progression for the human
 race" has almost entirely stemmed from upper class, able, white men who
 purely mean progression for Their society, and they fail to see that
 everything they have used to "progress" has been on the backs of others,
 sometimes literally, but always in terms of stealing ideas and using power to
 produce and claim results for themselves. One day I may produce ground
 breaking results in neuroscience and biopsychology that I tryto apply to
 equalizing people and eradicating notions of better or worse brains and
 bodies, and stillit will be used to singularly benefit the dominant group of
 white male scientists which are not likely to fade away in my lifetime.
 Like CommentShare
 0 19
 Amen to that
 Like Néply 14 hrs
 just want people to respect people ableism needs to go
 sexism needs to go racism needs to go ESPECIALLY IN SCIENCE uggghhh
 Like Reply-O1: 14 hrs
 Honey, I'm a 4 10 Latina woman with a genetic issue that has
 been dealing with scientist since she was a child. I could tell u stories
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 #GetWhiteMenOutOfHospitals #Outoflabs #offofstages
 ofpublishingcompanies #offmedia
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        Ass, Be Like, and Disney: TIME.com
 TIME
 @TIME
 Disney's first Latina princess, 'Elena
 of Avalor,' won't be looking for love
 Disney's First Latina Princess Won't Be
 Looking for Love
 time.com
 23/07/16 01:10

 Entertainment Weekly
 EW
 @EW
 The #Moana heroine will not have
 a love interest in the film:
 share.ew.com/jROIcjx
 #EWComicCon #SDCC
 21/07/16 23:55
kaylapocalypse:

seekingwillow:

malcolm-twrkd-with-ida-4-justice:

drwhothefuckyouthinkyoutalkinto:

itsmikuisa:

esinahs:

bougiebussy:

heyblackrose:

I love this

Eh, while it’s great that these characters are independent, something about all these princesses of color not finding love at the end of their movies rubs me the wrong way.  Just like how Disney patted itself on the back for a black princess but she was Frogger damn near the whole movie.

And it would’ve been a great opportunity to cast moc in romantic roles from that culture :/

^^^ I’m so conflicted because yes, always having a love interest is annoying but poc never get to have a love interest

Having the princesses of color not find love reinforces the idea that we have to strong and independent and aren’t needing of any support

But I do like it because it deviates from the norm

It might be cool if they had dudes in the movie who were interested and they had the princesses be like, “naw, I got shit to do, but maybe later!”

Cause then it would obviously be a choice, instead of a worldstate that WoC don’t get hetero love (I’m not even gonna wish for queer love).


This is actually a good example of the need for intersectional feminism. it is very common that white girl characters have love interests and finding love be the plot line and basis for all their stories and interactions.It is uncommon for a girl character of color to be seen as a potential love interest, in need of defense by a male character and/or support from a male character full stop.This is because of the history of social devaluation of woc and infantilization of white women.Thusly: it is subversive for white female characters to not have love interests for once and to focus on strength outside of male attention.while at the same time is it subversive for woc to be love interests and treated with care and reverence and with support in relationships on screen. The “norms” for two groups of women are different based on the historical interaction both groups have had to suffer under patriarchal and sexist/racist media. This is why its okay to feel hurt and roll your eyes when you see people screaming about how michonne from the walking dead “dont need no man” because she’s too “strong” to want to be desired and cared for,  while at the same time feel hurt and roll your eyes when Black Widow is suddenly too helpless to get herself free from a basic ass cage and needs to be rescued by her randomly inserted love interest. @drwhothefuckyouthinkyoutalkinto @itsmikuisa @bougiebussy (the others dont have tagging on i dont think)
        

            
            

                
                
                    Ass, Be Like, and Disney: TIME.com
 TIME
 @TIME
 Disney's first Latina princess, 'Elena
 of Avalor,' won't be looking for love
 Disney's First Latina Princess Won't Be
 Looking for Love
 time.com
 23/07/16 01:10

 Entertainment Weekly
 EW
 @EW
 The #Moana heroine will not have
 a love interest in the film:
 share.ew.com/jROIcjx
 #EWComicCon #SDCC
 21/07/16 23:55
kaylapocalypse:

seekingwillow:

malcolm-twrkd-with-ida-4-justice:

drwhothefuckyouthinkyoutalkinto:

itsmikuisa:

esinahs:

bougiebussy:

heyblackrose:

I love this

Eh, while it’s great that these characters are independent, something about all these princesses of color not finding love at the end of their movies rubs me the wrong way.  Just like how Disney patted itself on the back for a black princess but she was Frogger damn near the whole movie.

And it would’ve been a great opportunity to cast moc in romantic roles from that culture :/

^^^ I’m so conflicted because yes, always having a love interest is annoying but poc never get to have a love interest

Having the princesses of color not find love reinforces the idea that we have to strong and independent and aren’t needing of any support

But I do like it because it deviates from the norm

It might be cool if they had dudes in the movie who were interested and they had the princesses be like, “naw, I got shit to do, but maybe later!”

Cause then it would obviously be a choice, instead of a worldstate that WoC don’t get hetero love (I’m not even gonna wish for queer love).


This is actually a good example of the need for intersectional feminism. it is very common that white girl characters have love interests and finding love be the plot line and basis for all their stories and interactions.It is uncommon for a girl character of color to be seen as a potential love interest, in need of defense by a male character and/or support from a male character full stop.This is because of the history of social devaluation of woc and infantilization of white women.Thusly: it is subversive for white female characters to not have love interests for once and to focus on strength outside of male attention.while at the same time is it subversive for woc to be love interests and treated with care and reverence and with support in relationships on screen. The “norms” for two groups of women are different based on the historical interaction both groups have had to suffer under patriarchal and sexist/racist media. This is why its okay to feel hurt and roll your eyes when you see people screaming about how michonne from the walking dead “dont need no man” because she’s too “strong” to want to be desired and cared for,  while at the same time feel hurt and roll your eyes when Black Widow is suddenly too helpless to get herself free from a basic ass cage and needs to be rescued by her randomly inserted love interest. @drwhothefuckyouthinkyoutalkinto @itsmikuisa @bougiebussy (the others dont have tagging on i dont think)
                    
                
            

            
            
        

    

    

        
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