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Anaconda, Betty White, and Chris Evans: bundibird: wrangletangle: stevenrogered: Chris Evans helps Regina King up the stairs to the stage after her Oscars win Okay listen up, all you dudes out there! It’s time for some life lessons from Chris Evans. Wonder why women are fine with this when he does it, but they find you opening a car door or offering to carry stuff for them annoying? Well, wonder no more! It works like this: A large number of women have had to learn how to dodge and swerve and sometimes even slap away men’s hands from the time they hit puberty - and sometimes before. Ladies, cis and trans both, are unfortunately experienced at being groped, poked, prodded, “helped”, and otherwise humiliated and threatened by men. Then also there’s the condescending attitude that of course we need a man’s help, and we should be grateful he offered it. No thanks. Chris is doing something very different here, and you’ll see it in similar video clips of him at other events. You can read his mental process in his body language. He starts with just clapping and congratulating. He offers nothing until there is a need, which doesn’t happen here until Regina’s shoe gets caught on her dress. Since women have literally tripped up the stairs at this ceremony several times over the years (because the shoe and clothing requirements are ridiculous), it is reasonable at this stage to think that my-shoe-caught-on-my-dress is a problem that actually needs to be addressed. This is when Chris offers. How he offers matters. He starts with an open hand toward her, but this is a big no-no. Open hands are a red flag. Open hands grope and grab and shove. He quickly corrects by flipping his arm over and offering his forearm instead. This makes it her choice whether to grab on or ignore him. She doesn’t have to contend with a potentially threatening hand while she’s also contending with her dress. He also bends down a bit to do this. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but Chris is kind of a tall, beefy guy. Guys like that can be a bit intimidating without meaning to be, at least when they’re up close. Also, his arm is a bit too high to be useful to her if he stays at his full height. So he bends down. This is even more visible in the video from him doing this for Betty White at the 2015 Oscars, because she’s shorter than Regina, I guess. He offers his arm for exactly as long as she leans on it. When she lets go, he steps back. This is a guy who isn’t interested in showing off how much she needs his help. He’s just interested in helping, and when he’s not needed, he’s done. He goes back to sit down. He doesn’t hover. Also, Regina King knows who Chris Evans is. His behavior at work thus far has certainly made it into the rumor mill, thus factoring into whether she accepts help from him. Is he a dudebro or jerk to women at work? That doesn’t appear to be the case. Women are not helpless. Compared to men, our clothes are more often obstacles to getting where we need to go safely and with our dignity intact, but conversely, we’ve also learned to deal with that better than most men have. It’s not that we never need or want help; like all people, we do sometimes need a hand. It’s just that “some kinds of help are the kinds of help we all could do without.” If you are offering help to a woman, first make sure she actually appears to be struggling. Second, make yourself as unthreatening as possible and let her do any touching, not the other way around. Third, make sure she can refuse without any consequences. And fourth, back off as soon as she doesn’t need you anymore and let the moment go. I hadn’t even registered why exactly it was that he was so unthreatening in this and the Betty White assistance incidents, but you’re right. It’s all in the way he helps. It’s not that this is unthreatening behaviour “because he’s Chris Evans” – its because his body language is genuinely unthreatening and merely helpful. A+ analysis – I hadn’t even registered the details of why and how this behaviour was 100% ok, while from another man (who probably would have gone about it differentky) it might not have been
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Apparently, Fucking, and Monster: HuffPost BlackVoices @blackvoices Following Ex-cop who refused to shoot young black man sues city over his firing huffp.st/xGAUMMB RETWEETS LIKES 1,2401,340 BabyBoy @CarlosNotWeird FollowV If you think racism isn't a problem then read this story about a cop who was fired for NOT murdering a black man HuffPost BlackVoices@blackvoices Ex-cop who refused to shoot young black man sues city over his firing huffp.St/xGAUMMB RETWEETS LIKES 1,651 2,158 2:55 PM - 11 May 2017 uncleromeo: aphrican-aphrodite: critical-gemini-hero: socialistexan: theboykingofhell: lagonegirl: I hope he wins the lawsuit, a police officer was finally doing the right thing and they penalize him for not being a racist monster! his name is stephen mader and not only did he refuse to shoot, he actively wanted to help the man (ronald ‘rj’ williams) because he could tell that he was only acting out because of mental illness. rj williams was suicidal and holding an unloaded gun and, while mader didn’t shoot him, a fellow officer (ryan kuzma) did and murdered him on the spot. here is the source and here’s to hoping rj williams gets justice “Saying the words ‘Just shoot me’ sent up the red flag that he was just trying to harm himself and no one else … That’s what made me make my decision. He needed help” I hate this fucking world. The guy was actually trying to do his job by actually desculating the situation the right way (desculating these days apparently just means shoot them) and was fired for “failing to eliminate a threat.” HE WON THE LAWSUIT AND GOT $175,000 I read this whole story. It is wild !! The conversations between him and his ex coworkers about what went down that day 😧😶 Listen to it all here: What Happened When A White Cop Decided Not to Shoot a Black Man when I say there are no good cops, this is part of the reason why. “good cops” lose their jobs for doing the right thing. “good cops” die mysteriously after whistleblowing. “good cops” are forced to choose between their livelihood and becoming just like the rest.
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Batman, God, and Huh: feynites Seeing John Mulaney do his 'Robot Test bit has given me a strong desire to see him play a live action Riddler. But not like, as any character other than John Mulaney? Like, let's make a John Mulaney version of Edward Nigma. Just this socially awkward disaster man who somehow becomes a supervillain because of a misunderstanding he couldn't correct without seeming rude. And now supposedly he's committed to killing Batman but he doesn't actually want to be the cause of a mans death so he just obfuscates things with 'clues' and 'riddles' and 'battles of wits' until Batman inevitably defeats him and he's just like 'oh thank god please don't hit me Batman's like 'you need help Nigma' and he's just like 'yeah that's fair, I should probably look into seeing somebody at this point, I became a supervillain because of social anxiety and that might just be a red flag you know?" arkhamkjay @mrsmosby-wannabe only-ten-percent-clever "Hey, Batman, think you've seen everything, huh? Well, figure out how to deal with this! You know Gotham General Hospital? Yeah? Well you'll never guess what I let loose in there!" feynites "Riddle me this, what has four hooves and presents a massive health and safety violation?" siraranispleased "l see you there, Batman. And I also don't want me to be doing what I'm doing." Source: feynites 90'71 4 notes > ;tiis Im glad there exists a comedian who so perfectly fits tumblrs sense of humor

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9/11, Beautiful, and Creepy: Marilia Savvides @MariliaSavvides Suivre Was on a train from Cambridge earlier. Two young girls with beautiful face paint walked into my carriage and sat down about half an hour into the journey. /A couple of mins later this man walked in and sat next to them even though the carriage was empty with plenty of empty seats Traduire le Tweet 23:53-10 juin 2018 Marilia Savvides MariliaSavvides 12 h Immediately my brain went "red flag" so I moved to an empty single seat next to them. He proceeded to talk at them for ages. Girls visibly uncomfortable. He was in his 50s. Telling all kinds of weird stories, interrupting these kids, askinig them what they're doing etc Traduire le Tweet 09 187 2,1 k Marilia Savvides MariliaSavvides 12 h I'm eavesdropping and I realise he's followed them from another carriage. These girls are being SO polite due to sheer fear and I am livid. When he asks them where they go to uni and they just keep saying London he laughs and says "alright you don't want to tell me, fine" Traduire le Tweet Marilia Savvides MariliaSavvides 12 h Guilt tripping them into telling him details. So l extra politely asked him if it was time for the girls to just hang out and for him to move on. Mate, he TURNED on me so fast. Stood up to his full height and ranted at me for a few minutes Traduire le Tweet 09 187 2,4 k Marilia Savvides @MariliaSavvides 12 h "I'm not some weirdo, I'm a good bloke, I'll call the police on you etc." Friends, not one other person spoke up. I remained extra sweet, which pissed me off so much, because here l am managing a creep's feelings in case he turns violent. Traduire le Tweet Marilia Savvides @MariliaSavvides 12 h He ranted at me for a few minutes, got really aggressive and then eventually left, all the while whining like l'd ruined HIS fucking day because "he's not done anything wrong" and it's "none of my business" Traduire le Tweet 9 11 t 163 24k Marilia Savvides @MariliaSavvides 12 h As soon as he left these girls turned to me and were like THANK YOU we were figuring out how to run. Long story short, predators are master manipulators and prey on young women who are afraid of seeming rude and setting creepy men off. If you see something SAY something Traduire le Tweet Marilia Savvides @MariliaSavvides 12 h Girls and I spent 10mins after having a coffee and a cigarette outside until he cleared out of the station. We're insta friends nowand I'm just SO ANGRY that we live in a world where we're all just navigating men's entitlement and their weird feelings. The end. Traduire le Tweet Marilia Savvides @MariliaSavvides 12 h I obviously also spent 10 mins telling them that it's ok to trust your instincts and not to feel like you're being mean if a dude is trying to make you feel guilty. They owed him NOTHING Traduire le Tweet armitageadoration: maaarine: @MariliaSavvides And men make fun of women for travelling in packs. Sighs. Seriously, if you see this happening and you can speak up…do. If you are unable see if you can find someone who will help.
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Apparently, Fucking, and Monster: HuffPost BlackVoices @blackvoices Following Ex-cop who refused to shoot young black man sues city over his firing huffp.st/xGAUMMB RETWEETS LIKES 1,2401,340 BabyBoy @CarlosNotWeird FollowV If you think racism isn't a problem then read this story about a cop who was fired for NOT murdering a black man HuffPost BlackVoices@blackvoices Ex-cop who refused to shoot young black man sues city over his firing huffp.St/xGAUMMB RETWEETS LIKES 1,651 2,158 2:55 PM - 11 May 2017 socialistexan: theboykingofhell: lagonegirl: I hope he wins the lawsuit, a police officer was finally doing the right thing and they penalize him for not being a racist monster! his name is stephen mader and not only did he refuse to shoot, he actively wanted to help the man (ronald ‘rj’ williams) because he could tell that he was only acting out because of mental illness. rj williams was suicidal and holding an unloaded gun and, while mader didn’t shoot him, a fellow officer (ryan kuzma) did and murdered him on the spot. here is the source and here’s to hoping rj williams gets justice “Saying the words ‘Just shoot me’ sent up the red flag that he was just trying to harm himself and no one else … That’s what made me make my decision. He needed help” I hate this fucking world. The guy was actually trying to do his job by actually desculating the situation the right way (desculating these days apparently just means shoot them) and was fired for “failing to eliminate a threat.”
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Comfortable, Crazy, and Family: MILLIONAIKE MENTOR F SHE LOVES YOU WHETHER YOU'RE RICH OR BROKE, SHE'S A GOOD WOMAN 2 2 Someday you will meet a woman. She will feel like a lantern in a forest at night. She might be the woman who changes your life. Before you give her your heart forever, pause and look for these things: (Your boy mill mentor dropping some 🔑’s) ✔️Are your long term goals compatible? It is said that “love is the law,” but love is not the only key to happiness. If you are true to yourself and your passions, and she is too, there are plenty of ways your paths could divide. To force those paths from dividing could mean giving up on an important goal. Are your dreams compatible? ✔️Does she have her own interests? What if she doesn’t have long term goals or any strong interests? That could be a problem because it could mean she hasn’t grown or matured enough just yet. It could also mean she is resting much of her interest and expectation on you. Having someone willing to do anything you want to do gets old fast. ✔️Does she treat the two of you like a team? Having each of your own interests is healthy. But if she sees the two of you as a team of individuals, that’s great! It means she will give you space to follow your own dreams but also nurture the two of you as a team. Of course, you should see the two of you as a team as well. It really works best when both people are on the same page. ❤️ ✔️Can you have a conversation about anything? Any romantic partnership is still made up of individuals. Life will present awkward and sometimes scary situations where you need to talk things out. That’s not easy. But if you feel like you can’t talk about certain things at all, you are locking a part of yourself and she won’t have access to it. Communication is key. ✔️It’s totally crazy to think the two of you are always going to agree. A couple has to navigate religion, politics, parenting styles, family dynamics, a lot of complicated topics. If she always agrees with you that is a red flag. It could mean that she doesn’t have opinions or doesn’t feel comfortable sharing them with you. But if every disagreement turns into a heated argument that pulls up old issues, that’s an environment that feels unsafe and communication will collapse. Comment below!👇 - millionairementor

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Bodies , Children, and Dinosaur: IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH ONE PH OTO AND NOT THE O THER YOU RE AN ASSHOLE cyanhyena: vandigo: newwavefeminism: The automatic criminalization of black and brown bodies Now hold on a sec I do INDEED have a problem with one picture but not the other. In the TOP picture you can clearly see two hunting rifles and a mid-sized handgun, which are perfectly reasonable guns for a family to have, and it appears that all three people in the picture are legally old enough to at least have gone to a hunters safety course, which legally justifies the weapons being in their hands for certain purposes - hunting. Hand guns are carried by hunters to defend against bear attacks, should they happen, and by fishermen when fishing in lakes containing sturgeon … because the only way you’re killing a goddamned prehistoric dinosaur fish from hell is by shooting it (no joke). Now the BOTTOM picture clearly contains only ONE child old enough to have gone through a hunters safety course … and not a single gun that is used for anything other than killing other human beings, and this I have a serious problem with. Guns that are intended ONLY for killing humans (the AR and AK series rifles, which are shown) with CHILDREN is a fucking problem. Now, if they were hunting rifles in the bottom picture - you know, guns that are meant solely for the procurement of food - then I wouldn’t have an issue outside of the questionable ages of the children shown. Really huge red flag on the bottom pic is the fact two of the kids clearly have their fingers ON THE TRIGGERS. Its called trigger discipline. I’ve never been to any gun safety classes and I know that much.
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Bad, Beautiful, and Being an Adult: The pasta gets bigger when you add water what a wild concept She's beautiful meganmayday the best part of being an adult is watching your friends also be adults A guy was hitting on me today and asked me out despite us literally having a 2 minute conversation which consisted of 'how old are you ?' '17' ( I DONT KNOW HOW OLD HE IS BUT HES DEFINITELY NOT UNDER 18 SO RED FLAG NUMBER A MILLION HONESTLY)oh really I thought you were like 25-30' WHICH FUCKING FIRST OF ALL!!!! And he fucking cornered me on the train and we spoke more which was more odd questions that made me want to rip my eyeballs out and and also like I know it's bad but I'm partially deaf kinda so like you have to speak LOUD and clear but he has a super think accent and I just can't fucking understand him most of the time and I don't want to come across rude or anything but I just ugh he kept asking if I had a boyfriend ( even asked me if I was married or had kids at one point WHICH AGAIN IM 17!!! FUCJING STRANGER DANGER but I've literally been crying and having a panic attack for the past hour because of how creepy a vibe I got from him and just everything that happened ( cause that's not the end) anyway with this now ( Cause there is probably more to come since we work at the same work and no matter how mean I am in private I could never do that face to face with anyone ) and just my deteriorating mental Health then through life as a teenager on top of that I want to fucking slit my wrists and die sorry for getting gross but it's honestly all that running through my head ALSO ITS MY FIRST FUCKING DAY I HAVE TO DO ANOTHER 2 and HALF MONTHS UNTIL MY CONTRACT IS MAYBE ? UP anyway I'm off to cry more and wish I had irl friends to pretend to date me when dealing with creepy people 😭🔫EDIT:: he actually never asked me out kinda just said we are boyfriend and girlfriend now
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