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Party, Run, and Singing: Simone Policano 28 Mar at 01:26 A note on consent I filmed a scene today with a young child actor who had to quickly peck me on the lips as I tucked him into bed. The moment in the film is supposed to be somewhat uncomfortable, unexpected. I've gotten to know him over the past five days of shooting - he is a remarkable, kind and intuitive kid. He often appears much younger than his 12 years of age, waving his flashlight under a blanket and singing DISSSSC000 PARTYYYYY!!, but now and again an old-soul quality of his blinks up at me through messy light brown hair. He had read the script so he knew the kiss was coming, yet when the production team walked through it for blocking we'd gloss over the moment, nervous about making him uncomfortable. He's young and doesn't know me all that well and it's a lot to ask of a kid who met you five days ago. But eventually we had to run it, because that's what you have to do. And so when the director said we were going to do it for real, our young actor pulled me in for a sec and whispered "Hey Simone, I want to make sure you're okay with everything that happens with the kiss. Do you feel okay? Please tell me if l'm ever doing too much or if I hurt you or make you feel scared." This took many times longer to say than the kiss would take to film. True to his word, after every take of a .3 second peck, he grabbed my hand and whispered Was that okay? Did you feel okay?" And then we'd high- five and he'd burrow back under the covers to resume his flashlight disco party until the next take. Hes 12. Don't let anyone ever tell you that the male inability to understand consent is innate. It is learned <p><a href="http://silvasaliva.tumblr.com/post/172728278733/yall-wanna-tell-me-why-the-minor-had-to" class="tumblr_blog">silvasaliva</a>:</p> <blockquote><p>?????? y’all wanna tell me why the minor had to take responsibility for the adults consent here??????? y’all wanna tell me why a child feels a supreme sense of guilt for how an adult feels in the same vulnerable situation?????? y’all wanna tell me wtf is happening here???????</p></blockquote> <p>What kills me about stuff like this is that they seem to be responding to an imaginary set of non-feminists who are shrugging their shoulders and saying “Men just have to rape and don’t understand consent. It’s in their nature” when in my experience the only people saying stuff like that are feminists. Like the only people I know who interpret “boys will be boys“ as “boys will be rapists“ are feminists.</p>

silvasaliva: ?????? y’all wanna tell me why the minor had to take responsibility for the adults consent here??????? y’all wanna tell me why...

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Comfortable, Party, and Respect: Simone Policano 28 Mar at 01:26 A note on consent I filmed a scene today with a young child actor who had to quickly peck me on the lips as I tucked him into bed. The moment in the film is supposed to be somewhat uncomfortable, unexpected. I've gotten to know him over the past five days of shooting - he is a remarkable, kind and intuitive kid. He often appears much younger than his 12 years of age, waving his flashlight under a blanket and singing DISSSSC000 PARTYYYYY!!, but now and again an old-soul quality of his blinks up at me through messy light brown hair. He had read the script so he knew the kiss was coming, yet when the production team walked through it for blocking we'd gloss over the moment, nervous about making him uncomfortable. He's young and doesn't know me all that well and it's a lot to ask of a kid who met you five days ago. But eventually we had to run it, because that's what you have to do. And so when the director said we were going to do it for real, our young actor pulled me in for a sec and whispered "Hey Simone, I want to make sure you're okay with everything that happens with the kiss. Do you feel okay? Please tell me if l'm ever doing too much or if I hurt you or make you feel scared." This took many times longer to say than the kiss would take to film. True to his word, after every take of a .3 second peck, he grabbed my hand and whispered Was that okay? Did you feel okay?" And then we'd high- five and he'd burrow back under the covers to resume his flashlight disco party until the next take. Hes 12. Don't let anyone ever tell you that the male inability to understand consent is innate. It is learned <p><a href="https://ima-fuckingt4ble.tumblr.com/post/172674966466/levicooksupsomebullsht-yourownpetard-the-male" class="tumblr_blog">ima-fuckingt4ble</a>:</p><blockquote> <p><a href="https://levicooksupsomebullsht.tumblr.com/post/172611141730/yourownpetard-the-male-inability-to-understand" class="tumblr_blog">levicooksupsomebullsht</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="https://yourownpetard.tumblr.com/post/172604400093/the-male-inability-to-understand-consent-the" class="tumblr_blog">yourownpetard</a>:</p> <blockquote><p>&gt;the male inability to understand consent<br/><br/>The what???</p></blockquote> <p>are we just going to ignore that the <i>12 year old boy</i> in this situation is expected to be responsible for the consent of an <i>adult woman</i>? Boy’s not even an adult and it’s <i>still</i> his responsibility for women’s comfort and safety even when <i>he’s</i> the vulnerable one in the situation. </p> <p>Does she absolutely not see the <i>glaring double standard</i> of men, regardless of age, having to take responsibility for women’s boundaries but women are not obligated to actually communicate their boundaries or respect men’s boundaries. </p> <p>Even when a boy is young and vulnerable he still manages to have empathy and take responsibility, and she makes it entirely about shitting on men.</p> </blockquote> <p>!!!!!!!!!!!</p> </blockquote> <p>I literally thought this is going to be about how important it was for her as an ADULT to make sure the CHILD was comfortable and didn’t view the situation as sexual but no we had to take a hard left turn into feminist bullshit.</p>
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